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Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself
on May 17, 2012
If you are having difficulty letting something go or forgiving someone, this book may give you the push to help you accomplish the goal. I was concerned about long-term resentment due to my difficulty in letting something go and the information helped me reach my goal. I have always respected what T.D. Jakes says in interviews and felt his opinions are intelligent, logical and well thought out. I was really looking forward to reading this book after reading all the positive reviews. Unfortunately, I found his writing style a little tiresome as his points were wrapped up in analogies. I love when authors make a point and then provide a quick analogy or joke to drive it home (like Joel Osteen). That way I can underline the main points so I can reread the book quickly at a later date to refresh myself. I believe the book could have made the points much more easily in a much shorter format. This book may be a difficult read for people who do not have a large vocabulary as the author uses more collegiate words which most people do not use in every day communication. The book does explain why it is important to forgive everyone everything as that is a gift you give yourself so that anger, hurt, hate, etc do not poison your life, happiness and relationships. It is a matter of acceptance and moving forward, not excusing the person of their bad choice or behavior. The point of the book is very good and has skills which would be of benefit to everyone. I would have given the book 5 stars for the points it makes, 3-4 stars for writing style and a 3 for reading enjoyment, so overall 3.5. It is worth reading.