This is one of the best books I've read on relationships and the subconscious mind. It's written in an easy-to-understand and straightforward way. What sets this book apart from other self-help/dating books in the market is that the author zeroes in on the crux of the problem, instead of glossing over it like most of the self-help books out there. She lays out the groundwork by clearly explaining the functions of the subconscious mind and its effects on our lives. She also demystifies the stereotype and false beliefs surrounding hypnosis. She makes you delve deep into your psyche by making you question the origin of your core beliefs and then guides you through a step-by-step self-hypnosis exercises in order to tap into your subconscious mind and rewire your internal software. When the conscious mind isn't alligned with the subconscious mind's core beliefs then we unwittingly attract unfavorable partners and situations. Our conscious mind desires to find love, a healthy relationship and a happy marriage, but our subconscious mind believes it's far-fetched and impossible. As a result, we find ourselves caught in the same horrible cycle. The conscious mind and the subconscious mind must work harmoniously together in order to create favorable situations in our lives and to magnetize men/women who are nurturing, honest, and compatible.
I am 27 years old and in the past several years, I've found myself dating the same domineering, unfaithful, and abusive man but with a differnt name/face. My self-esteem and self- worth had begun to suffer to the point where I had given up on finding Mr. Good Enough, let alone Mr.Right. My heart was chronically battered and bruised. After reading the nuggets of wisdom found in this book, I realized why I attracted men that were clones of one another. I remember when I was 15, I always believed that the guy I was going to meet would wind up cheating on me. I don't know how I winded up adopting such a false belief but this limiting belief remained with me until I've begun educating myself about the powers of the subconcscious mind. And indeed, practically all of the guys I had dated had cheated on me. The sheer realization that thoughts do create your reality empowered me to change my life. Ever since I've begun doing the self-hypnosis exercises, I've noticed self-respecting men asking me out more. I no longer believe that the man I'm going to meet will cheat on me. Fears of living alone have been replaced with a healthy dose of self-love and enjoying my own company. Ms. Berndt helped me realize that before I can be happy with a man, I must learn to be happy on my own. The internal change I feel is subtle yet palpable. I feel confident and self-assured that everyday I'm drawing the right man to me. A few weeks into self-hypnosis, I dreamt of myself saying out loud in front of a mirror, " I am whole and healed." Indeed, I've noticed my heart had ceased to ache and I have healed. Since the subconscious mind communicates with us via dreams, I knew that the affirmation that I'd been saying had penetrated my subconscious mind. This book really transformed my mindset and helped me recognize my worth and self-love. Friends and family are surprised by my positive outlook on life. I wish it was written years ago.
This book may be targeted to women but I honestly think that it works for both genders. If you are single and wonder why your dating record is blighted with wrong men or women and want to utilize the tools to bring you one step closer to finding your true love, then this book is for you! I highly recommend it! If you enjoy this book, then I also recommend The Genie Within Your Subconscious Mind by Harry W. Carpenter. I hope you find this review helpful and I hope you find your true love.
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