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Letting go of anger: The 10 most common anger styles and what to do about them

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The more I think about anger, the more fascinated I become. For me, this unusual perspective on anger could not have been possible without reading Letting Go of Anger. From this book, you can learn that anger is a natural, normal, healthy response to something that is wrong in your life. You accept it. You act on it (if you think it's appropriate and if you feel it's worth your while) and then you let it go. You ignore it at your peril. On the other hand, this book is a testament to the fact that natural, normal, healthy anger can be perverted in at least ten different ways. The book deals with ten styles of anger and ten related problems of anger, but in the authors' own words, "there are more, but these ten are common". By reading this intensely practical book, not only can you learn about a perverted style or styles of anger, you can also learn effective ways to deal with perverted anger in others. A word of caution, though. If you think you can use this knowledge and wisdom to assert your power and control over others, think again. Read the chapter on moral anger and it will disabuse you of this notion very quickly. I recommend that you read about all of the styles, not only for your own benefit, but for the benefit of those with whom you live or work. Learn that anger can be avoidant, sneaky, moral, deliberate, habitual, addictive, shameful (based in shame), paranoid, sudden, or hateful. A quiz at the beginning of the book, followed by real life examples of each, will help you to ascertain if you have a favourite style or styles, and enable you to identify any leanings towards one or the other. Guidelines for learning healthy anger follows in the same chapter. One chapter is devoted to each style of anger, and the authors are careful to point out the value in assuming any given style. Each style is categorized in one of three ways: masked, explosive, and chronic. For each style, the authors describe it, relate it to its category, analyze special features, and give remarkably clear, concise advice on how to deal with it competently. To be sure, letting go of anger is not always easy. If you find that you have a particularly difficult time with it (in terms of "always" feeling angry), I would strongly recommend Angry All The Time, by Ron Potter-Efron. If your concern with anger is mild by comparison, you might appreciate what the authors say in the concluding paragraph of their book Letting Go of Anger: "Anger is a part of life. Our wish to you, and for ourselves, is to be able to accept the blessing of anger, to listen to its message, and then to let go of it." I couldn't have put it better myself.

It starts of with a quiz to help you determine YOUR anger style. It then goes to explain each style & how to work on resolving your anger so that it's functional & healthy. It's easy to read, extremely informative & an invaluable reference in learning about this emotion.

This book seems like it was written at the beginning stages of the self-help pop psychology movement. It is like an extra long version of a fashion magazine article on anger "styles." Get yourself a practical book that gets to the heart of the matter like 60 second anger management : quick tips to handle explosive feelings by Michael Hershorn. Anger Management Workbook by W.A.Angus is also a good choice for its practicality. The Anger Workbook by Lorraine Bilodeau is a very straightforward book that illuminates the many causes of anger that aren't just behavioral.

Having gone to an anger management class, the teacher recommended this book. I was very delighted in how they outline types of anger, as well as solutions. There is a quiz that helped me define my style, and underlying causes. Then, there are defined solutions. Very simple, no psychomumbojumbo. Easy to read, understand and incorporate. I certainly consider it a valuable tool for anyone dealing with their own anger. It also helps in understanding others angers a bit, but mostly your own.

Although very comprehensive in effort and detail, I felt it did not go below the surface of anger causes. It covered so many types of just everyday anger that even the Dali Lama would have to admit to some of them.
I know everyone has their moments however to dwell on lists of "does this happen when or does that happen when " , I believe is less theraputic than to seek deep root cause. Thats where people learn to overcome the problem.
I did not find this book helpful.

If you would like the hardcover format it is IBSN 0760712735. This book covers the problem of too much anger and what to do about it. Anger is not only a mental burden, but too much anger can make you sick.

I would highly sugest every one that strugles with anger issues and can not figure out why they are always angery. This book will open your eyes to alot of thing that will make you at peace and will kill alot of your anger.

Very interesting information on the types of anger and how to deal with them. Also helps provide insight into how our loved ones deal with their anger.

I just received this book three days ago and I am almost done reading it. It is extremely easy to understand. There are no fancy medical terms, it is just down to earth. I will use this book as a constant referance in controlling anger. It is a great tool. If you are getting disgusted with feeling angry all the time, like I was, then get this book. It may help you understand too.

I felt as if some parts of this book were written just for me. It was a helpful tool in starting to uncover a lot questions I have about myself & why I feel the way I do.