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Lily Hates Goodbyes Paperback – March 8, 2011


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Product Details

  • Paperback: 32 pages
  • Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform (March 8, 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 146096070X
  • ISBN-13: 978-1460960707
  • Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 8.2 x 0.1 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 3.8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (28 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,554,459 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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"I see hundreds of children's books a year, since I not only do reviews, I work in the industry. Lily Hates Goodbyes is as good as they get, on par with the best." --David Broughton

"This little book is a fine storybook for any child, but it is almost a mandatory library addition for parents in the military. Jerilyn Marler makes it easier to cope - for both child and at home parent!" --Grady Harp

"This is an outstanding story! ...You will love it. Best of all, you will appreciate it so much." --Biblio Reads Children's Book Review

"Jerilyn Marler's children's book, Lily Hates Goodbyes, is a must have for children with a parent in the military and also for elementary school counselors." -- Moments: Book Review

"Marler has created a special book that is guaranteed to help the families of the men and women who bravely and selflessly serve our country." -- Portland Book Review, 5-star review for Lily Hates Goodbyes --This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

From the Author

I wrote this story for my (then) four-year-old granddaughter who was reeling from the pain of her Daddy's time away in the Navy. She was deep in denial about the scary feelings, yet her behavior clearly showed that she was in turmoil. She would run from the room instead of talk about feelings. So I wrote Lily Hates Goodbyes to give us a "third person" to talk about. Book Lily was mad. Book Lily was sad. Suddenly it wasn't so scary for Real Lily to talk about those feelings. She asked me to read the book to her over and over. She even wanted me to sing it to her.

The result is exactly what I hoped for: Lily's more at ease with her emotions, knows what she can do when she feels them, knows that it's safe to say whatever she feels, knows that her Mommy will be there steadfastly and lovingly by her side through it all, and that there is a joyful reunion coming with her Daddy.

I fervently hope that this book will help your child through the long, difficult separations, too. --This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

More About the Author

Jerilyn Marler is a writer, editor, and publisher in Beaverton, Oregon, and the author of books to help military families cope with deployment.

LILY HATES GOODBYES
"Lily Hates Goodbyes" is a storybook for young children (ages 2-7) coping with separation from a loved one. It's available in two versions: Navy Version (daddy wears a Navy uniform) and All Military Version (daddy wears generic BDUs).

In March 2012 "Lily Hates Goodbyes" was named among the best in family-friendly media, products and services by the Mom's Choice Awards®!

Portland Book Review gives "Lily Hates Goodbyes" a five-star rating (the highest possible). "The book is filled with ideas that can help any child with an absent loved one. Nathan Stoltenberg's beautiful illustrations warm the heart. An especially important message that Marler subtly highlights is how important the at-home parent/family are when helping a child cope with their feelings. Marler has created a special book that is guaranteed to help the families of the men and women who bravely and selflessly serve our country."

In 2010, when her Navy officer son was on deployment and her 4-year-old granddaughter was distraught by his absence, Jerilyn wrote "Lily Hates Goodbyes." It began as a Word document with personal photos intended just for Lily. The book helped Lily talk about her feelings, develop healthy ways to cope with those feelings, feel connected to her daddy despite the distance between them, be reminded that her mommy was steadfastly beside her, and that a joyful hello was coming. The book helped Lily so much that Jerilyn decided to publish it for all young children who suffer through long separations from a loved one. She hired Nathan Stoltenberg, a Seattle-based graphic artist and illustrator. "Lily Hates Goodbyes" was first released in January 2011. A new version was released in August 2011 through Jerilyn's publishing company, Quincy Companion Books, an imprint of Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing.

HELPING YOUR YOUNG CHILD COPE WITH A PARENT'S DEPLOYMENT
This handbook helps military parents understand the challenges their children face before and during deployment. It also offers 22 fun, easy ways to help children feel connected with the away parent. At the end of the book is a handy alphabetized list of resources that every military family should keep nearby. "Helping Your Young Child Cope with a Parent's Deployment" is available in paperback, Kindle, Nook, and iBook formats.

JERILYN MARLER
Jerilyn's 30-year creative path has led through writing educational materials for Alaska elementary schools; writing three books about WordPerfect for an imprint of Henry Holt Publishers; editing dozens of books for technical publishers; editing a children's book, a medical text book, and a book on divorce at the same time; and writing/editing end user documentation for more products than she can count.

Jerilyn has worked in major high technology companies and tiny start-ups; she's been a real estate agent, programmer, project manager, program manager, and user interface designer. Her name is on three patents held by Intel Corporation, where she worked for nearly 15 years. The persistent thread through all of her work has been communication: it always comes back to words.

From sixth grade through her junior year of high school Jerilyn attended Kodaikanal International School, a boarding school in the mountains of southern India. Memories of her long, painful separations from her parents helped her relate to Lily's experience 46 years later. For years after leaving Kodaikanal Jerilyn still considered India her home, much to the confusion of college classmates. A year in Madrid, Spain followed a few years later. Jerilyn has circled the globe many times since that first trip to India and she relishes travel whenever she has the opportunity.

Jerilyn's son is a Navy officer stationed in South Carolina. His daughter Lily is the inspiration for "Lily Hates Goodbyes." Jerilyn lives in Beaverton, just a few miles from Portland, Oregon, with Dan, her husband, and their two tabby cats.

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Lily Hates Goodbyes is a special book, in many ways.
David Broughton
Lily Hates Goodbyes is an ideal book in helping children deal with the feelings that exist when having a parent who deploys into the military for long periods of time.
Children's Book Reviewer
Jeryln Marler's book "Lilly Hates Goodbyes," is a perfect tool for helping children cope with separation from a loved one.
G. L. Schuler

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By Kristi Bernard on April 18, 2011
Format: Paperback
Lily's dad is in the military, which means he is gone for long periods of time. For Lily it seems as if he is gone for a billion days. Her dad tells her if she looks at the moon he will be looking at the moon too. She can tell the moon anything and he will hear it. Her mommy tells her to hit a pillow when she feels sad or mad that daddy isn't home. Lily spends her time making a memory box with pictures for her dad. She can give them to him when he gets home. With the help and understanding of her mother Lily learns how to cope with her feelings while her dad is away. She counts down the days until his return on her special calendar.

The wonderfully vivid illustrated book will be a joy for kids to read and enjoy. Parents and teachers can help kids cope with a parent in the military through the eyes of Lily. In the back of the book Marler lists suggestion on how parents can talk through what their child is feeling.

Jerilyn Marler wrote this book for her four-year-old granddaughter whose father is in the Navy. She was having a hard time dealing with the pain of him being gone. If you would like to learn more about Lily please visit [...]
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By NavyWife on July 17, 2013
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We're currently going through the first deployment in which our daughter has been old enough to understand what's going on. This book has really helped her. She relates to it so well and she loves being reassured that the way she's feeling is okay. I highly recommend this to anyone with young kids dealing with deployment.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By L. Keys on May 10, 2013
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So often kids military books about deployment talk about how much the service member will miss their kids, but this book addresses the emotional upheaval of the child during deployment.
It illustrates some positive ways of dealing with the pain of missing a deployed parent. I particularly like that it is written from a little girl's perspective! So many kids deployment books that I've read are about little boys, but Lily shows how emotions can run high during deployment.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By DD on January 16, 2013
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Great book!
Cute pictures and an important message for the upcoming deployment time. I wish could have gotten a hardback.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Amy on November 1, 2012
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This book is great to read to a child who is dealing with a parent's deployment. By going through Lily's story, it allows children of military parents to better understand and express the emotions they are feeling when a parent is gone. It is a great tool for parents to use before and during a deployment to help their child cope with the separation. It also has some really great ideas of how to stay connected to the parent even during deployment.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By G. L. Schuler on January 12, 2012
Format: Paperback
Jeryln Marler's book "Lilly Hates Goodbyes," is a perfect tool for helping children cope with separation from a loved one. I am a school counselor who works with children from military families. I became aware of Mrs. Marler when she came to share her book in a workshop for educators of military dependants. I bought "Lily Hates Goodbyes," to be nice and supportive. However, when I actually read the book, cover to cover, I discovered what a treasure and a gift this book is for anyone who works with or simply loves a child who is dealing with loss, separation or sadness. "Lilly Hates Goodbyes," gives the reader strategies to help children cope with difficult times. Children will love "Lilly Hates Goodbyes." This gem of a book can be the beginning of a dialogue between reader and child that offers hope and help to all who read it.

Ann Schuler, M.Ed, NBCT
School Counselor
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Mundie Moms & Mundie Kids Book Reviews on January 2, 2012
Format: Paperback
A personal story for the authors grand-daughter, this is a touching story about a little girl who hates to say goodbye to her father, who's in the Navy and currently deployed away from home. Lily's story is a touching one, as Jerilyn allows us to connect with Lily on an emotional level as she goes through the daily routines of not having her father there. From looking at the moon at night to writing him letters, Lily is anxiously counting down the days when she will see her father again.

This is a great story for children who have a parent or parents currently serving our country and are away from home. Through Lily they will be able to identify with similar feelings of worry, fear, sadness, being upset, happiness and the joy when their parent/parents arrive home. The vivid illustrations do a great job at portraying all Lily is feeling and experiencing. Lily's story is one I highly recommend picking up. To learn more about Lily's story, please visit Lily Hates Goodbye .
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By K. Cyrus Deyhimi on November 2, 2011
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This book works for anybody that is not just i Lily's situation but for anyone that has a parent that travels.

This book also has applications for families who don't live in the same city e.g. grandparents live in another city or state and the frequency of interaction is not daily.

I like every bit of this book and often read it to my daughters before my business trips. Highly recommend it. GO GET IT!
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