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A Final Understanding!, August 25, 2004
This review is from: The Little Monster: Growing Up With ADHD (Paperback)
I was one of hopefully many individuals who got to read the book "The Little Monster" By Robert Jergen. Let me first say that I myself suffer from a very extreme case of ADHD as my parents and teachers have so thoughtfully pointed out.
I first read an article in the newspaper telling me about this new book about ADHD, by the time I finished I knew I HAD to get this book. Even though I wasn't much of a reader and usually when I get excited about something it ends up in disappointment, this I just had to take a chance.
I started to read the book and it was like learning I had ADHD all over again. I felt like I was reading a biography of an alternative me. I'm starting to wonder if this is the normal life of someone with ADHD. The entire book was a roller coaster ride of emotions and feelings. From the constant reminders of how my own life was like. To kinda funny things that I am surprised I didn't do myself. For the first time in nearly 3 years I cried, it did something I never had expected, expesaly out of a book. If my life's memories were a pool of liquid this book was like a sieve and the stuff it brought up was intense. All my old memories, stuff I had buried without realizing it. (Even my ADHD itself I buried. I had totally forgotten I had ADHD over the years. Every day I'd be taking these pills and never think of WHY I was taking them.) It wasn't until I saw the article and began reading the book that these thoughts came zooming back into my head like an army of angry flies. Stuff that was too painful to reflect on and only popped in my mind now and then sending me into an automatic "mmmMm" A grumble much like Marge on The Simpsons.
This book very much reminded me of my own life. It made me face age old memories that have haunted me from the day I could crawl. And with reading more and more of the book I learned that not everything that I caused was entirely my fault. Years of blaming myself for what I did or how I acted gone with a turn of the page. Who would of thought...
I wasn't some lazy kid who had no future. Who was smart, but decided to throw his life away. No, in many cases, I was a victim, like many other people who suffer from ADHD. Course my parents as well as myself knew I had ADHD, (granted it took 6 years, but I can't really complain too much after hearing this story) but I never realized that ADHD caused such havoc, that made people do such things. I always thought ADHD just caused restlessness and made it hard to concentrate. The rest was my own fault and I had only myself to blame. This book has changed that perspective, it has taken TONS of weight off me. Things I've been carrying all my life are gone.
The book also gave me some insight on to control impulses that have plagued me all my life. Not only did it stun me with how similar my life was to the book, but it gave me help to control many things that have made me suffer over the years. It taught me a few study habits which I plan on using in my senior year of high school. Perhaps my record of going for 7 straight years without studying may finally come to an end.
In the book it also gave me some insight on how to be happy. Being happy is probably one of the biggest challenges of my life. Me saying I'm an optimist is laughable, very few times do I remember me ever truly being happy. I'd live behind a simple shell. Try to look like I'm doing ok so my school wouldn't call my parents (again) saying I'm going to kill myself.
This book has also changed the way my parents look at me at which I don't think I can ever be repaid. One of the things I've always wanted was just to make my parents proud. Now that they understand me more that goal looks brighter than ever. I was also interested to learn all of the "good" things about ADHD expesaly after I just read through Robert's terrible childhood. He much like myself, didn't seem to like his life at all and to say he'd soon grow to love ADHD was almost unbelievable.
This book has even made me recognize myself, who I have forgotten all these years. Originally me, now an 18 year old, with my future looking dimmer than a flash light low on batteries. I've realized that people do understand me and just as important I now understand myself. I've realized that people with ADHD CAN AND DO make it in this world. I can be so much.
I'm recommended all ADHDers to read this book. I find it one of the only true insights in ADHD unlike the typical ADHD book "tends to have trouble concentrating" and the same old story. Also I recommend any parents who have children who suffer from ADHD (or ADHD symptoms) to read this book. Had my parents read a book like this one 15 years ago. My life would of not nearly of been so bad. In a way you'll not only be doing yourself a favor by finally understanding your child, but you'll be doing him/her a favor. One of the things ADHDers all want out of life is just to be understood and this book comes very close to making that come true. Because of all this I will be keeping an eye out for other books that Robert has written. If it was anything like this one I'm in for quite a treat.
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9 of 10 people found the following review helpful:
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Looking From the Inside Out, May 27, 2004
This review is from: The Little Monster: Growing Up With ADHD (Paperback)
Rob's book is an easy read that should be required reading for all teachers and parents that interact with diagnosed and undiagnosed individuals with ADHD. It not only brings to light what it "feels" like to have ADHD but brings some practical suggestions and accomodations to the table for individuals to try. The book can also bring a ray of hope to the daily frustrations many parents and teachers experience by illustrating the success an ADHD person can achieve focusing on the strengths and positive aspects of this alternative mind wiring.
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Reality with a strong dose of humor, April 17, 2005
This review is from: The Little Monster: Growing Up With ADHD (Paperback)
This book has made it to my list of favorites! Robert Jergen's recollections of growing up as a child with undiagnosed ADHD is both hilarious, touching and educational. As the sibling of a child with ADHD, I can attest to the reality of which Jergen writes, a reality that probably seems unbelievable to those with no experience with ADHD. Although Jergen experienced more sadness and loneliness than most of us by adulthood, his self-diagnosis of ADHD as a young adult brought his entire life into focus and inspired him to see his "disorder" as a gift, rather than an affliction. His account of the complexities of his journey is both easy-to-read and hard-to-put-down. I highly recommend it to anyone living with or working with children with ADHD, or to anyone who just enjoys an entertaining story!
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