Living With ADD When You're Not the One Who Has It: A Workbook For Partners [Paperback]

Mimi Handlin (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: September 21, 2005

This workbook is different from other books about attention deficit disorder, because it was written from the perspective of a non-ADD partner. These pages don't focus on taking care of your ADD spouse or making your relationship work. They are about taking care of yourself. Consequently, as you become healthier and happier, your partner may reap the benefits and your relationship could get better. The main message of this book is that sometimes it's okay and even imperative to put yourself first. (Or at least second, if you have kids!) Living with and loving a partner with ADD can be tough at times, and you deserve special care and support. This book is for you.

Product Details

• Paperback: 132 pages
• Publisher: Wasteland Press (September 21, 2005)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1933265779
• ISBN-13: 978-1933265773
• Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 6.1 x 0.3 inches
• Shipping Weight: 4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (12 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #793,294 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

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27 of 29 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars OK introduction, but not much content, January 6, 2007

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I found this book too introductory and lacking in useful content. If you have not read very much about ADHD, it might be an eye-opening read and you might find comfort in the "Wow, my partner does exactly that!" moments reading about the author's experiences. But for more in-depth and much more detailed content, I would recommend A. D. D. and Romance: : Finding Fulfillment in Love, Sex, & Relationships. It had more solid information based on clinical experiences with many patients rather than just an anecdotal description from one person's perspective.

15 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars FINALLY a book made for me!, January 13, 2007

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Reading this sweet little book felt like talking to a friend. The fact is, I'm the one who has to do and remember everything at home and I work full time. I can't depend on my husband for anything. This book made me feel like I'm not alone. It gave me great tips about how to tell my husband what is bothering me and reminded me that I matter too.

18 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Not a LOT of info, but does promote soul-searching and acceptance, July 7, 2007

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The author of this book is quite honest about the fact that ADD can lead to frustration, despair and even divorce. What this book does is help those who do NOT have ADD learn to have both a pro-active stand as well as a more empathetic or understanding view of ADD. There are many pages of worksheets where the reader is encouraged to simply write or respond to the text.
For those looking for lots of info about ADD, this book may not provide that. It does contain suggestions for further reading. I found the affirmations section to be most helpful, as well as the emphasis on accepting that ADD is an actual biochemical disorder, not an act of rebellion or will.
Of course, anger, tantrums and other negative behavior can result due to the frustrations of ADD but that author has ideas on how to cope with those. I found this book to be somewhat helpful - a quick read, with some good insights but not among the very best I've read.