Living Together: A Legal Guide for Unmarried Couples (10th Edition) [Paperback]

Toni Lynne Ihara (Author), Frederick Hertz (Author), Ralph E. Warner (Author)

Book Description

Series: Living Together, 10th ed | Publication Date: January 2001

Living together out of wedlock can mean anything, especially in court -- unlike married couples, unmarried couples don't automatically inherit or receive protection under the law. Consequently, you must document everything from property ownership and children to wills and other estate plans.

An essential resource for any unmarried couple, Living Together explains:

* the legality of living together
* naming, legitimizing and raising children
* the many types of ownership agreements
* relationships with a prior family
* getting authorization to make medical decisions for an ill or injured partner

Living Together includes:

* a complete overview of important legal documents
* instructions to filling out these documents
* sample forms
* legal agreements as tear-outs and on CD-ROM

The book also contains the latest information on domestic partner status.

Editorial Reviews

Review

...[an] excellent, comprehensive reference. -- Modern Maturity

...a detailed and useful guide for unmarried couples who want more information. -- Los Angeles Times

Includes Nolo's trademark dead-on advice as well as sample contracts that can save you some legal fees. -- Esquire

From the Publisher

This new edition replaces the title: The Living Together Kit.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: Nolo; 10th Bk&Cr edition (January 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0873375629
• ISBN-13: 978-0873375627
• Product Dimensions: 10.7 x 8.4 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.6 pounds
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (11 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #5,072,488 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

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55 of 56 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Don't live with someone unless you've read this book, June 17, 2003

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fdr - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Living Together: A Legal Guide for Unmarried Couples (11th National Edition) (Paperback)

Readers should note that this book was written for unmarried opposite-sex couples only. Same-sex couples should instead read _A Legal Guide for Lesbian and Gay Couples_ by Hayden Curry and Denis Clifford, also published by Nolo. Although many of the issues overlap regardless of sexual orientation, this book considers specifically the concerns facing unmarried male-female partners.

Within this scope, this book does a wonderful job of exploring every legal detail unmarried couples should consider when sharing a household. This is the stuff you'll hopefully never have to consider if your lives go happily ever after, but just in case they don't, both you and your partner will be glad to have in writing certain understandings that spouses automatically have granted to them by law. The authors make this wonderful suggestion: "Approach the task in the spirit of clarifying your understanding and preserving the shared memory of two fair-minded people." At its best, using this book will not only hammer out legal essentials but strengthen your relationship with your partner.

The book covers "living together" contracts, finances, sharing real estate (rented or purchased), estate planning, starting a family, confronting issues that stem from one partner having previously been married, and what to do if you separate. A lot of it is common sense, but common sense may vary by state, and the book does a good job of noting exceptions. It's written in plain language, and if you're not a lawyer, I guarantee you'll find stuff in here that you'd never think of in a million years but could be vitally important. (For instance, if your partner owns a home in her name only but the two of you have agreed in writing to keep all your personal property separate, her homeowners' insurance will not cover your property if a disaster occurs!)

If you love creating neat and tidy forms electronically, you'll love the companion CD-ROM, which has all the forms discussed in the chapters. If you're not so great with computers, don't worry -- most of the forms are available at the back of the book to be torn out and filled in by hand or by typewriter.

Planning to maybe someday get married? Using this book is still a good idea, plus it includes a section on pre-marital agreements and explains whether or not a living-together contract qualifies as one for your circumstances.

My only complaint -- I wish making all of the necessary decisions were as easy and straightforward as this book was to read!

25 of 25 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great book, just not if you live in certain states..., March 17, 2004

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C. Olivares (Central Illinois) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Living Together: A Legal Guide for Unmarried Couples (Paperback)

This book is great. It made me think about a lot of things, being unmarried to my live-in partner and having a young child. However, we are moving to Illinois soon, and this book does NOT apply to unmarried, heterosexual couples there. Illinois is one of a handful of states that has laws against cohabitation. If you live in Illinois or another state that still has these types of laws on the books, none of the legal documents that this book helps you prepare are going to hold up in court. I think it's great, however, that a book like this exists and is so detailed and helpful. Cohabitating couples, especially those of us who have children together and plan to buy homes or own property together, need to know the legal issues as individuals and as a couple. I highly recommend this book, though it probably isn't worth your time if your state still has the anti-cohabitation laws.

33 of 35 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A fabulous and important resource, April 24, 2002

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Book Reader "fiandacafiandaca" (San Francisco, CA United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Living Together: A Legal Guide for Unmarried Couples (10th Edition) (Paperback)

NOLO's Living Together: A Legal Guide for Unmarried Couples is such a wonderful resource. I would encourage all couples who are living together to purchase and read this book. It details a little bit of history of how laws have changed regarding unmarried couples who live together. This guide has been published and updated since 1979; there have been a lot of changes!

It is clear, concise, and user friendly. There are forms to set up all kinds of agreements, whether your intention is to join all your assets and property or keep them all separate, or anywhere in between. The book includes a CD so you can modify any of the agreements you want to use.

This guide makes it clear that not having written agreements like these can cause major problems if ever your partnership should end. The guide is suprisingly informative about lots of small legal details and does provide some information about how certain laws differ from state to state.

This is a wonderful resource and I recommend it to all, including heterosexual couples who don't want to be legally married but aren't sure of their rights if they don't marry.