Long Distance Relationships: The Complete Guide (Paperback)

by Gregory Guldner (Author) "John and Catherine belong to a growing number of couples who find themselves involved in long-distance relationships..." (more)
Key Phrases: separation inventory, geographically close relationships, separated relationships, Survival Tip, Separation Inventory, World War (more...)

Editorial Reviews

Review
"...Dr. Guldner's guide provides a roadmap/safe way though this most difficult journey." -- David Knox, PhD, Professor of Sociology, East Carolina University

"...insights into how to have a wonderful relationship, how to enhance communication, and create more harmony and love." -- GinaMaria Jerome, consultant and author, The Portable Pocket People Meeter: 50 Ways to Meet, Greet, and Communicate

"The most readable guide to long distance relationships. Loaded with tips and resources for separated couples." -- Julie Ferman, Founder, CupidsCoach.com and Author Marketing Yourself for Romance: Your Ultimate Guide for Dating, Relating, and Finding Your Mate

...wise, illuminating, and highly readable...a rich compendium of information, ideas, survival tips and resources... -- Judy Myers Avis, PhD, award winning couples therapist

Fabulous! Just reading it made me feel so much better about my long distance relationship! -- Barbara, Brooklyn NY

Listed as one of "the best independently published titles received and reviewed by our editorial staff…" -- Independent Publisher

This very readable book is based on sound research and yet is also able to offer many practical tips... -- Steve Duck, PhD, Founding Editor of the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

To maintain a Long Distance Relationship for more than 24 hours-you'd be advised to read Gregory Guldner's book. -- Sue Johanson, RN, host of TV’s Sunday Night Sex Show and Talk Sex

…Admirably relates research results in a conversational tone…unbiased information will comfort those in or considering an LDR. An excellent choice… -- Library Journal, 2003

Product Description
"Long distance relationships never work!"

If you’re in a long distance relationship (LDR) you’ve probably heard this before. Between 2 and 3 million couples in the United States consider themselves "long distance," not including the hundreds of thousands of military personnel stationed overseas. Despite these statistics, couples in geographically separated relationships have had few resources to help them through the unique difficulties that come from living apart. Finally, after a decade in the making, Long Distance Relationships: The Complete Guide fills this gap. Based on groundbreaking research, Long Distance Relationships teaches the little-known but critical secrets to a happy and healthy long distance relationship (LDR). Unlike the handful of other books on LDRs, Long Distance Relationships is based on extensive research, is thoroughly referenced and indexed, and provides specific guidance for separated couples from a noted expert in the field.

Long distance relationships do work. But to be successful you must understand how they differ from other relationships, and you must learn new strategies proven to make a difference.

Long Distance Relationships is the first work to comprehensively review, cite, and discuss five decades of research on separated relationships. Unlike the handful of other books on the topic, Long Distance Relationships includes:

· An extensive annotated bibliography of more than 80 studies, articles, and resources for separated couples – including a specific resource guide for college students
· A comprehensive reference section with over 170 citations
· A complete index
· Suggestions for those in long distance relationships that are based on research, rather than opinion, and include citations to specific studies

Long Distance Relationships is a unique and indispensable reference for the millions of couples in long distance relationships.

Couples who read Long Distance Relationships: The Complete Guide will find:

· 22 Chapters of proven strategies for building and maintaining a successful relationship when you have to be apart.
· The Separation Inventory – a questionnaire for those in LDRs that pinpoints areas of their relationship that may need attention, and then provides specific solutions. (p. 11-27)
· Over 60 highlighted survival tips.
· Quotes from dozens of couples in LDRs who discuss their own difficulties and how they overcame them.
· The 10 steps research has shown will help couples stay emotionally healthy while apart. (p. 78)
· Statistics describing hundreds of other couples in LDRs. (p. 97)
· Five steps to great telephone sex. (p. 122)
· How to use erotic letters, videotapes, audiotapes, instant cameras, and the internet to spice up your sex life while apart. (p. 124)
· Six tips to making "goodbyes" easier. (p. 128)
· Six tips for making reunions even better. (p. 132)
· How to deal with conflict over the telephone – the six things you must do. (p. 138)
· The six important steps for when you have to talk about the relationship but don’t want to spoil your time together. (p. 144)
· Why men and women see the separation very differently, and why you should care. (p. 160)
· Six critical steps for when you finally get to move closer to one another – reunion may be the riskiest time for an LDR. (p. 169).
· An annotated bibliography of resources for your LDR, reviewing more than 80 books, stories, and articles on couples in separated relationships. (p. 173)
· A listing of useful websites for those in LDRs (p. 184)
· A reference section that lists all of the more than 175 studies, books, and resources discussed in the text (p. 201)

With the release of Dr. Guldner’s Long Distance Relationships there is only one clear expert in the field and only one definitive guide for separated couples.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 216 pages
• Publisher: JF Milne Publications (April 1, 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0972114807
• ISBN-13: 978-0972114806
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars See all reviews (19 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #112,425 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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22 of 22 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Insightful, thoughtful, and real world practical, July 17, 2003

By	Midwest Book Review (Oregon, WI USA) - See all my reviews

Long Distance Relationships by Dr. Gregory T. Guildner is a ground-breaking guide to helping a personal and familial relationship survive the stresses of being apart. From listing a "separation inventory" of critical factors to look at; to strategies for separated couples to take advantage of when on the telephone; to advice for managing their emotions; to sharing sexual intimacy across long distances; to a serious discussion of such crucial issues a infidelity, Long Distance Relationships is insightful, thoughtful, real world practical, and very highly recommended reading for anyone who must deal with a long range, long distance relationship.

16 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars What an awesome book!, December 23, 2003

By A Customer

My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 2 years now. She sent me this as a birthday present and I thought it was awesome. It's very practical and easy to read. It has a great resource section that has tons of other books and articles on long distance relationships. I recommend it highly!

13 of 14 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Bang! Target. . . dead center!, June 19, 2003

By	Larry James (Scottsdale, AZ USA - Larry James - CelebrateLove.com) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This book hits the mark! "Long Distance Relationships" is the most complete book of little-known but critical "ground rules" for a happy, healthy and successful long distance relationship you will find.