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Longing for Daddy: Healing from the Pain of an Absent or Emotionally Distant Father

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I'm a Christian, but found this book too religiously pushy and lacking in the info I needed to help a troubled teen who is longing for an absent father. It had some good info, but I found the idea of telling a teen that God was the only Father she needed, to be of little help. Yes, we all need God, and especially when faced with life's hardships, but her longing for her father isn't going to be satisfied with that knowledge alone. If a girl has never had a father in her life, it's certainly difficult for her to envision a heavenly Father in the same concept that I do because I was blessed with a wonderful earthly father. I didn't finish it, and read Longing for Dad: Father Loss and It's Impact which had much better info on the subject.

I was expecting at least a little meat, and all that I got was some bones.
If you are Fundamentalist Christian, then you will be singing the praises! This is YOUR book!
If you are looking for intellectual discourse on the topic, forget it. This book will be a total waste of your time! This one does not deserve even a star.
I did learn a valuable lesson by ordering this book...READ the Amazon reviews BEFORE you buy!
I'm not Longing for Daddy, I'm longing for my MONEY BACK !

LONGING FOR DADDY engages the reader in a wonderful discourse of healing from an wounds created by an absentee father, whether this absenteeism was emotional or physical. It refers to the subject matter as "an epidemic" that plagues our society. Patterned similar to a workbook, this read provides sound spiritual guidance that ministers to the soul.

The author asserts being fatherless affects every aspect of life - relations with God and others, attitudes, beliefs as well as self-identity. The book encourages the reader to look to God, who is a father to the fatherless, so that her respective journey of forgiveness coupled with healing can begin. Readers are urged to accept God as "Daddy" because he is an ever-loving, ever-present force in life that will never leave or forsake you.

The Bible tells us that man and woman were created in God's image. The earthly father was intended to be God's representative. It is the paramount job of parents to be united in reflecting God's image to their children. However, when a father is absent from his daughter's life, for whatever reason, the daughter's life is tainted with an emptiness that plagues her entire being. She is tasked with creating a positive future for herself by forgetting her negative past. She is able to do this by walking in God's love and obeying his commands.

In each section of LONGING FOR DADDY, Mrs. Robinson provides a "growth chart" that is to be used as a evaluative tool to measure the reader's progress in her relationship with the Father. Mrs. Robinson should be commended on a wonderful, insightful read that would minister not only to women with an absentee father, but to anyone who has had a broken relationship and is in need of counseling on the path of forgiveness.

Reviewed by Nedine
of The RAWSISTAZ Reviewers

I have read books on how to heal emotional wounds, and this is by far, the most well written book, and is very inspiring to get up and free myself from all that has been holding me back. If anyone that has had trouble connecting to God, or even struggled with their relationship with their father, I SINCERELY recomend this book. It will not only help you, but will allow you to find, and free yourself.

I can't begin to thank Mrs. Robinson for taking the time out to write such a wonderful book.

You can't rewrite the past or cause your father to be anything other than he is. The only thing you can do is find a way to get the need met that was sorely lacking in your growing up. This book is very much written for those of a Christian perspective and concentrates on the relationship with God the father as a healing one. If you agree with the religious undertones, then this book can help you. I would also caution those who were emotionally scarred by an absent father to get psychological counselling from a licensed therapist trained in abandonment issues. Healing the spirit and the mind is critical and Robinson's book is very strong on soul work.

Fathers matter and sadly not all girls get this benefit of an emotionally loving dad. No matter what the reasons for a father hunger .... there is hope and healing for those committed to turning it all around. You will never get back those years the way you want. You can only consciously learn the tools to cultivate the confidence in another way. Only you can heal you.

This book is simplistic. If you already know in your heart that God is your Father and that He is who you need to look to when you miss your earthly dad, then you already know the theme of this book. If you know you need to forgive your dad for his sins against you in order to heal, then you have no need of this book. A pamphlet size would have covered the topic just fine.

As a student of psychology, I was surprised at Monique's assumptions. One shocking example is on page 38 when she asks the reader to pray for God to erase the memories of your past. She says, "...erasing a memory is easy stuff for God." I agree that God can do ANYTHING but He won't always erase a memory. He can give us peace and strength to forgive but those painful memories our dad's have given us all too often continue to linger despite those honest prayers.

In another example of faulty assumptions, she suggests that some dad's are silently sorry for their sins and need forgiveness. Through forgiveness, reconciliation can be made and a new relationship can begin. This may be true in some cases but she doesn't present the flipside. What if your dad ISN'T sorry? What if that relationship, despite MY forgiving, is never going to be restored the way I wish it could be? What if we have to deal with a painful, life long rejection if we confront our fathers about the pain? This is just one instance of many where Monique seems to have neglected looking at some painful realities. Even though I wish there was, there is no easy formula. I am surprised that someone with a degree in Biblical counseling can be this naive.

Overall, the book is very basic and overspiritualizes the issue. Like I mentioned earlier, if you already know God is your Healer and your Helper, you've already mastered the content of this book.

I think that this book was great for me. God showed me that I was hurting because I didn't know my father, and it was time to take some steps in the right direction to work through issues. I never thought that my anger, insecurities and more were impacted because of a lack of a father image in my life. I'm not blaming my father, but knowing that it wasn't "just the way God created me" opened my eyes and allowed me to work with Him to correct the problem. I was so blessed I shared with another friend and she loved it too. I don't think we realize how much our parents impact our lives, our beliefs, and so much more about us.

I purchased the books for my daughters. They are reading it now and it has really been a blessing to them. I believe it would bless anyone that reads it.

I wish the book description had been more forthright or even informative about the Christian base of this book.
OMG, give it all to GOD and make him your daddy? Come on, are there that many sheep out there that would be able to use this? For those of us who are not sheep in the flock, this is just superficial and stupid.

I dont have anything against religious books, but this one is written with a lack of reallity towards abset fatherhood.

I just got to read a few (awfull) pages, I wouldnt look for answers in this book.