Into the Abyss is a documentary of adolescents who live self pity, seeing themselves as misunderstood victims of others uncaring, yet themselves express no empathy for the harm they rain on others. They are unselfconscious, unaware of the impression they convey of deceit vanity and disdain for the feelings of others. Other documentaries offer tools for written self reflection P.O.V.: What I Want My Words to Do to You, emotional self regulation Dhamma Brothers, apology and forgiveness Departures.
A middle ground of attention and empowering self efficacy based on genetic heritable traits, temperament (attitude toward ourselves and others), encounters (experiences during the life journey, concussions traumatic brain injury from football boxing soccer) and behaviors (what we choose to DO) are more nuanced and appropriate ways to choose children's activities rather than arbitrarily assigning judgment as too much, too little, desirable or not. What works for one may be a poor fit for another
The risk is being unaware of our own unmet needs (affirmation admiration courage) and trying to improve on our parents parenting by meeting needs our children DON'T have but we DID. Parenting is not about becoming friends with our children, criticizing others' parenting, or improving on our childhood.
Parenting is a duty to make responsible if unpopular decisions, do the hard work of role modeling (no alcohol nicotine caffeine, acting with genuine lovingkindness not just to our own ingroup but to others in outgroups as well, choosing morally difficult stances and be willing to accept the consequences without reference to self pity or being a "victim" Gandhi (Widescreen Two-Disc Collector's Edition).
David Eberhard Swedish psychiatrist book How Children Took Power is reviewed in Wall Street Journal 2-11-14 as ouppfostrade Swedish for children raised badly. The article discusses the damage caused by parents who try to befriend their children instead of behaving as responsible adults. It is impossible to make another person happy. You may give me roses but perhaps I am allergic to roses. It is up to the individual to fail and learn from experience what works and what doesn't in terms of creating a satisfying life. A Tiger Teacher's commencement address Beware the City Dolls New York Times 5-17-14 recommends earning everything, failing well, fighting for equity for everyone and an attitude of gratitude. DVD Stuart Saves His Family Vincent D'Onofrio Al Franken, 28 Days (Special Edition) Sandra Bullock Viggo Mortensen Steve Buscemi, The Book Thief Geoffrey Rush Emily Watson Sophie Nelisse about growing oneself up, discarding vindictiveness, putting all energy into learning and creating a meaningful life.