I had high hopes for this book, as I've struggled with both food and money issues for most of my adult life. However, I became impatient with LOST & FOUND since Geneen "circles the bowl" endlessly and theorizes so much that she rarely reaches any solid conclusions. That said, I came across some interesting tidbits, such as:
<> When money (food) becomes simply money (food) - a means of exchange that allows us food, shelter, clothing, and comfort (nourishment, energy, stamina, strength, health) - instead of the antidote to our low opinions of ourselves, we can begin using it in ways that generate well-being rather than exacerbate insanity. But we cannot have a sane relationship with money (food) until we have a sane relationship with ourselves.
<> Obsession with shopping is a form of autism. But is it the thing/food I want or is it the aliveness, no matter how temporary? If I've convinced myself I need to buy something I can't afford (or to eat huge amounts of highly-caloric food), I need to remember that when my psychological survival is at stake, survival trumps good intentions every time. But if I allow the lack to be there - then there is no shame, no fight, no desperate need to fill it. As soon as I stop fighting the deprivation, I see that it's in the past and what I really wanted THEN was a feeling, not a thing.
<> Sufficiency is an experience, not a given amount. "Enough" is a relationship to what you already have.
That's what was useful for ME to read - but it took slogging through a couple hundred pages to glean that. Now that I think about it, I've had the same problem with virtually all of Geneen's other writings - there's too much hypothesizing "filler" and not enough substance! Still, if you've got the time and inclination, this book is not without insights.