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Robert Subby (Author)
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August 1, 1987

"Co-dependency" is the denial or repression of the real self. It is based on the wrong belief that love, acceptance, security, success, closeness and salvation are all dependent upon one's ability to do "the right thing." In the process, the co-dependent denies who he really is. Once addicted, the codependent becomes blind to the reality of his own behavior and to his own self-worth.

A witty and well-told story, Lost In The Shuffle is written for those who seek to find themselves and break free of their troubled past and their present addiction to the rules the do-dependent lives by. Robert Subby presents new insights in an earthy, honest manner and shares the process of recovery with all who have been lost in the shuffle.


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About the Author

Robert C. Subby has worked professionally in the areas of addiction and mental health for the past 15 years. He is a pioneer in the development of family centered chemical dependency and co-dependency treatment. Subby is a founding board member of the National Association of Children of Alcoholics, Executive Direction of Family Systems Center, and Program Director of the Life Design Outpatient Chemical Dependency, Co-Dependency and Compulsive Treatment Program, both located in Minneapolis, Minnesota.

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  • Paperback: 142 pages
  • Publisher: Health Communications Inc.; Name on Fep edition (August 1, 1987)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0932194451
  • ISBN-13: 978-0932194459
  • Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.5 x 0.4 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #181,132 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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5.0 out of 5 stars Lost in the Shuffle - The Co-Dependent Reality, January 29, 2000
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I have read a lot of self-help books about co-dependency and this book has been the one that always comes to mind for me and the one self- help book that I have recommended to others. It is written in an easy and fun-to-read format, yet covers many aspects of co-dependency in a serious, professional and concise way. I have given several copies to friends and family and highly recommend this book for those who have never read a book on co-dependency, but also for the seasoned self-help book reader.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Helpful, easy to read, December 9, 2008
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This book was easy to read and the ideas are presented clearly. The content is not so different from other books on codependence but his nice lists of "common problems of codependents" and rules of dysfunctional families, e.g., make it quite accessible and an easy read. My only complaint was some (in my opinion) unnecessary foul language. I am not easily offended and that isn't my objection. It just seemed jarring in the context of a serious, yet entertaining, self-help book to have 4-letter words sprinkled throughout for no apparent reason. For me, this really detracted from its message.

I'm not talking about graphic sex or anything like that - primarily exclamations, as in: "Oh xxxxx!" If you will be totally distracted or offended by this, then pick a different book. If this won't bother you, then I think it's a worthwhile read in spite of the questionable language.
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I am an adult child of an alcoholic and have been struggling my entire life to find my own identity. This book was very enlightening and offer many ideas as to how to begin my journey. I would recommend it to anyone with this issue. It was also very easy to read.
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I've been a therapist and a chemical dependency professional for the past 15 years, but, embarrassingly enough, I found my way into the helping field as a practicing alcoholic, adult child, co-dependent. Read the first page
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