Love & Betrayal [Paperback]

John Amodeo (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 12, 1994

"A book of profound insight and wisdom, written not just for those who have been betrayed, but for anyone who wants to build deeper, more trusting relationships."
SUSAN M. CAMPBELL, Ph.D.
Author of THE COUPLES JOURNEY
LOVE & BETRAYAL explores the many forms betrayal can take, from keeping secrets and negative gossip to breaking promises and sexual infidelity. In the process, you can discover how to heal the wounds of past betrayals, what steps to take to forgive both yourself and your betrayer, and how to cultivate a climate of love and trust in your current relationships.

Editorial Reviews

From the Author

This book is based on the premise that you can heal the wounds of betrayal and emerge as a stronger, wiser, more compassionate person. Whether you want to rebuild trust with a current partner or heal apart from the one who has hurt you, you can learn and grow from this most painful life experiences. The book is also for people who want to build trusting relationships so that painful betrayals and other hurts may be avoided.

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"A book of profound insight and wisdom, written not just for those who have been betrayed, but for anyone who wants to build deeper, more trusting relationships."
SUSAN M. CAMPBELL, Ph.D.
Author of THE COUPLES JOURNEY
LOVE & BETRAYAL explores the many forms betrayal can take, from keeping secrets and negative gossip to breaking promises and sexual infidelity. In the process, you can discover how to heal the wounds of past betrayals, what steps to take to forgive both yourself and your betrayer, and how to cultivate a climate of love and trust in your current relationships.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 304 pages
• Publisher: Ballantine Books; 1st edition (April 12, 1994)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0345378563
• ISBN-13: 978-0345378569
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.5 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #361,702 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars the heart of the matter, January 18, 2003

By A Customer

This review is from: Love & Betrayal (Paperback)

The best relationship I ever had with a woman ended abruptly when she found someone new. Our relationship had been built on trust and openness, so much so that she once said she "never had to wear a mask" when we were together. But when it ended she wouldn't talk to me. I desperately needed to know the how and the why. For almost a year I spun my wheels trying to understand what had happened, why I felt so awful. I counseled, I talked to friends, I read the books in my library's self-help section. All these things were fine, they all had some insights, except nothing addressed the heart of my pain.

And then I came to this book in the stacks. It is beautifully written. It is logical and sensible. It shows a deep understanding of this most important of all things in our lives. And it went straight to the core of my heartbreak. Every page had a sentence or paragraph or concept that was stunning. It took me a month to read half the book, because I could not read more than a few pages before I had to put it down and think about it. I can't praise a book more than that. Finally the healing could start for me. If that wasn't enough, there is also some how-to guidance for minimizing the chances of betrayal in the future. I am still thinking through all that but it feels right. This book is a one-of-a-kind for me.

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars There is nothing more painful than broken trust., December 21, 2003

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This review is from: Love & Betrayal (Paperback)

Based on this premise, this author is amazingly adept at seeing through to our souls, to all the times in our lives we loved and trusted, only to have dreams shattered, lives wrecked and pieces all over the ground. Easy to read and absolutely true to form, this book describes what betrayal is because it comes in so many forms, somes we never even thought of, and how betrayal by trusted loved ones or others can change you, making you a person that you yourself can no longer understand. Painfully, and step by step, as you read this book, there is a high probability you will catch glimpses (maybe even photos!) of yourself. It sometimes wasn't an easy book to read when it really hit home at points, but it definitely is a must read anyhow. Dealing with secrets people keep, nasty gossip, odd behavior and all the way up to infidelity, buy this book and learn to heal. It's the only one to date I've found that at least gives you the desire to do so again.

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderful, Wonderful!, October 12, 2003

By A Customer

This review is from: Love & Betrayal (Paperback)

Being betrayed by someone we love and trust is a devastating thing. The author of this book discusses his clinical experiences and the process involved when healing from an experience of betrayal. Just the fact that the author explains things in a caring and gentle manner makes this book very therapeutic to read. But it's not only just that. This book gives people with experiences of betrayal hope and direction. If you are struggling with experiences of betrayal, I'd definitely recommend this book. Another book that has helped me considerably on this topic is "The Ever-Transcending Spirit" by Toru Sato. It is an unbelievably good book that explains many psychological things but one of them is the coping and recovery process of betrayal and loss. If you are trying to move on from an experience of betrayal, these books are both very very helpful.