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Product Details

  • Paperback: 224 pages
  • Publisher: Touchstone; 1st Free Press Paperback ed edition (September 6, 1995)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0028740610
  • ISBN-13: 978-0028740614
  • Product Dimensions: 9 x 5.9 x 0.7 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (10 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,198,054 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Pepper Schwartz is professor of sociology at the University of Washington and past president of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sex. She is the co-author of the "Sex and Health" column in Glamour Magazine, writes a regular column in American Baby, contributes regularly to the "Parent and Child" column for the New York Times, and appears biweekly as a relationship expert for KIRO-TV in Seattle, Washington, where she lives.

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25 of 26 people found the following review helpful By JACK TANNENBAUM on November 1, 1999
Format: Paperback
I think "LOVE BETWEEN EQUALS" can give any two people who really desire to have a true sense of equality in their marriage or partnership - a GAUGE by which they can isolate the important issues in relationship and a way to measure how they are doing with these issues.
If they take the various issues presented and discuss them fully and fairly, they will know what is working about equality in their relationship and which areas need work. It is not for those with namb-pamby relationship (just foolin around stuff) or those where one person dominates and wants to continue dominating - the risk of becoming equal may be too threatening.
It is not a how-to book. It does not have to be. It doesn't tell you how to achieve equality. What it does teach you to do, as I said before, is to think about what equality really looks like and how to check your relationship out.
If you want to do something about it, you will probably need other help. But this book will give you a handle on what it is you need to do and it should be thoroughly digested and discussed, before deciding what your next steps are on the way to having that sense of equality. I would be glad to discuss what I wrote with anyone.
WARNING: THIS BOOK MAY BE DANGEROUS TO LOUSY RELATIONSHIPS!
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16 of 18 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on October 5, 1999
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Pepper's book is a splendid read for those looking to get into a peer relationship, but still have their toes dipped into the 'swimming' pool of the traditional, patriarichal relationship...for those seeking a partner for a peer relationship, the book is also a (re?)affirmation of life's possibilities amongst equals - something that the society at large seldom supports in this schism involved in the decline of the cartesian paradigm...
the book only gets 4 stars for it's tendency to have a slightly greater sculpt towards women who want out of a traditional marraige or relationship and are seeking other modes that include equality...from the men i know, there seem to be a good number that also are just as equally bored with a ho-hum wifey, or having to be the manly man syndrome, and are looking for an equal partner...
all and all, quite a good read...a step ahead of Deborah Tannen's book, "You Just Don't Understand", and a notch below Roger Fisher and Scott Brown's book, "Getting Together, Building Relationships as we Negotiate"...
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12 of 13 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on March 30, 1997
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This is an amazing, eye-opening book. Many couples say they believe in equality, but they also feel that the woman is naturally better at staying home with the kids, and that it just makes sense to put more emphasis on the man's career because he often makes more money.

Pepper Schwartz shows how these seemingly sensible decisions undermine a relationship of true equality. She also discusses the benefits of a truly equal relationship: the deep friendship and trust that is possible only when the two people are on equal footing.

Through interviews with egalitarian, traditional, and nearly egalitarian couples, Schwartz provides real-life examples of how people can and have transformed their relationships into truly equal partnerships, with both the woman and man sharing childcare and decision-making.

This book would make a great wedding gift!
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By A. ROOTVIK on March 7, 2007
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This is an excellent book if you are interested in learning about relationships and how they work. Using findings of a large study done in the 1980's, Pepper Schwartz, shares how certain heterosexual couples have created peer marriages. Peer relationships are common among homosexual couples, but rarely do heterosexual couples have peer relationships. Society makes this kind of union difficult for heterosexuals to attain and maintain largely due to the strong drawing power of tradition and societal expectations.

"Love Between Equals" is not necessarily a step-by-step guide to building the perfect relationship, but it brings up a lot of interesting points that provoke deep thought about what is important in relationships. Schwartz writes about the difficulties, challenges, and possible downfalls of peer marriages, but she stresses even more the deep satisfactions that are expressed by peer couples. She compares peer marriages to traditional marriages and near-peer marriages and helps to uncover some of the mystery behind common dissatisfactions that are found in these more traditional and common relationship forms.

I want to be able to make informed decisions about my relationships. The more knowledge I have the better my decision will be. In reading this book I realized that I had held some preconceptions about marriage which could have eventually been very detrimental to my happiness and the success of my relationship. One of these ideas was that, as a woman, I would be the primary parent. I didn't envision my spouse as being involved in the care-taking aspect of parenting to the extent that I expected to be. Now I realize the value in true coparenting. It keeps parents connected to eachother and makes for a more cohesive family unit.
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5 of 7 people found the following review helpful By Candice Burnette on March 7, 2007
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This book is very unbalanced in that it stems form a very small group of subjects that were surveyed. It seems that all the couples were middle to upper middle class with some kind of higher education. This is important to note because of the way she talks about job flexibility. This book also neglects the role of religion and culture in the aspect of equality and tradition.

I do however feel that she has some great ideas when it comes to the "shared child" and that regardless of how that marriage works out that only good can come for the idea of a share child.

If you do choose to read this book I feel that it is helpful to note that the classification of the types of marriages tend to be very extreme. It also contains many type-o's.
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