Love Busters: Overcoming Habits That Destroy Romantic Love (Hardcover)

~ Willard F.Jr. Harley (Author)
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Product Description

How spouses affect each other has a tremendous bearing on the success and failure of marriage. In Love Busters, Willard F. Harley, Jr., helps couples identify and overcome the most common habits that destroy the feeling of love. With his guidance, they will be able to avoid behavior that tears a marriage apart and focus instead on building their love for each other. This new edition expands on six love busters (versus five in the previous edition), including: selfish demands, disrespectful judgments, angry outbursts, dishonesty, annoying habits, and thoughtless behavior. Harley also explains how to resolve various marital conflicts, such as career choices and financial planning. Insightful material from Harley¹s book, Give and Take, is now included in Love Busters, as well as discussion questions that help couples apply the principles in the book to their marriage. With readers now enjoying the anniversary edition of His Needs, Her Needs and the newly released Fall in Love, Stay in Love, it¹s the perfect time for an updated version of Love Busters to round out their collection. This important book both expands on foundational concepts found in Fall in Love, Stay in Love and shows readers how to maintain the love that His Needs, Her Needs taught them to build.

From the Inside Flap

Front flap Is the honeymoon over? Are you losing the love you once felt for each other? According to Dr. Harley, "after couples get married, they usually develop habits that destroy their love for each other. I call those destructive habits Love Busters. And as long as Love Busters are tolerated, love doesn't have a chance." With this insightful book, you and your spouse can learn to avoid the six most common Love Busters that may have gained a foothold in your marriage: " Selfish demands " Disrespectful judgments " Angry outbursts " Dishonesty " Annoying habits " Independent behavior Once you throw out these habits, your love for each other can be restored and your conflicts more easily resolved. Back flap Nationally acclaimed clinical psychologist Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D., is the author of many books on marriage, including His Needs, Her Needs; Fall in Love, Stay in Love; Five Steps to Romantic Love; and I Cherish You. His popular web site, www.marriagebuilders.com, offers practical solutions to almost any marital problem. Dr. Harley lives in White Bear Lake, Minnesota, with Joyce, his wife of nearly forty years. Love Busters is a companion volume to His Needs, Her Needs and Fall in Love, Stay in Love.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 288 pages
• Publisher: Revell; Revised edition (February 1, 2002)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0800718070
• ISBN-13: 978-0800718077
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 5.9 x 1.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (17 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #231,641 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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60 of 60 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Right on target -- something for all of us, February 16, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Love Busters: Overcoming Habits That Destroy Romantic Love (Hardcover)

This book, like Harley's "His Need, Her Needs" is a very practical and easy-to-read "how to" guide to improving your marriage. While HNHN focused on the positive, i.e., meeting each other's needs, Love Busters focuses on avoiding the negative traits that can destroy the feeling of love. My wife and I found plenty of things that we do, or don't do, without even realizing it, that were hurting our relationship. Being honest and facing up to these things, as the book leads us to do, was tough at first, but well worth it. We would never go back to how we were before! One thing, though, I think that this book is best read AFTER HNHN.

38 of 39 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Want to have the Happiest Marriage? Read this book!, June 16, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Love Busters: Overcoming Habits That Destroy Romantic Love (Hardcover)

I cannot say enough about this book, for years I have listened to people talk about how to have a happy marriage. But Mr. Harley is the only one who has been able to make practical honest sense out of the whole deal. Never have I ever heard anybody been able to explain things as Mr Harley has. IF you want to improve your marriage or at least make sense of what is going on. Or at least be able to explain how it is you have such a great marriage. You have to read this book and the rest of Mr. Harleys books. No preacher, no Sunday school teacher, no counselor has ever made it so plain. If you decide to use the information & principles Mr Harley shares with you in your marriage, I guareenty you will not be sorry!

18 of 18 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Relevant - even if you've been married awhile!!, May 14, 2002

By	Gadget Mom (GA USA) - See all my reviews

I purchased this book without knowing anything about Mr. Harley's other successful book and was extremely pleased. I have been married for 12 years and have a good marriage but have often wondered if other married couples have some of the same trials we do. This book confirmed it and brought out some great aspects of marriage that really do "bust" the love sometimes. Mr. Harley has step-by-step directions for dealing with those habits that we all have, the times we let our temper get the best of us and many other lovebusters that drain our love tanks. The book is easy reading and honest. Not preachy or too psychological. I'm now getting "His Needs, Her Needs" to see what I can learn from it. I would definitely recommend this book for newlyweds as well as wedded-awhiles.