Love Busters: Protecting Your Marriage from Habits That Destroy Romantic Love [Hardcover]

Willard F. Jr. Harley (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 1, 2008

How spouses treat each other has a tremendous bearing on the success and failure of marriage. In this completely updated and revised edition of Love Busters, Willard F. Harley, Jr., helps couples identify and overcome the most common habits that destroy the feeling of love, including selfish demands, disrespectful judgments, angry outbursts, dishonesty, annoying habits, and thoughtless behavior. Harley also explains how to resolve common marital conflicts such as career choices and financial planning.
You can't eliminate conflict altogether, but once these Love Busters are eliminated, conflicts can be resolved with love and grace. With Harley's expert guidance, couples will be able to avoid those behaviors that tear a marriage apart and focus instead on building their love for each other. This companion to His Needs, Her Needs and Fall in Love, Stay in Love is perfect for pastors, counselors, and couples.

Editorial Reviews

From the Inside Flap

Is the honeymoon over?

Are you losing the love you once felt for each other? According to Dr. Harley, "After couples get married, they usually develop habits that destroy their love for each other. I call those destructive habits Love Busters. And as long as Love Busters are tolerated, love doesn't have a chance."

With this insightful book, you and your spouse can learn to avoid the six most common Love Busters that may have gained a foothold in your marriage:

• Selfish demands
• Disrespectful judgments
• Angry outbursts
• Dishonesty
• Annoying habits
• Independent behavior

Once you throw out these habits, your love for each other can be restored and your conflicts more easily resolved.

From the Back Cover

Are you losing the "chemistry" you once had?
Is sex becoming a burden?
Do you bring out the worst in each other?
Are you arguing a lot more lately?
Are you growing apart?

Then you need Love Busters. Marriage expert Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr., identifies the six Love Busters that pull marriages apart and shows how you and your spouse can learn to avoid them.

You will see that once Love Busters are eliminated, conflicts over friends and relatives, career choices and time management, financial planning, children, or sex will be much easier to resolve.

The strength of your marriage depends on the passion you share for each other. So stop destroying the feeling of love and discover, instead, how to build your love with care and with time.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 320 pages
• Publisher: Revell; Rev Exp edition (May 1, 2008)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0800718941
• ISBN-13: 978-0800718947
• Product Dimensions: 6.5 x 1.1 x 9.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (41 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #25,621 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #62 in Books > Politics & Social Sciences > Sociology > Marriage & Family

More About the Author

Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr., is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor in White Bear Lake, Minnesota. He is best known as the author of His Needs, Her Needs; Love Busters; Five Steps to Romantic Love; and Give and Take.

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

22 of 22 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Relevant - even if you've been married awhile!! May 14, 2002

By Gadget Mom

Format:Hardcover

I purchased this book without knowing anything about Mr. Harley's other successful book and was extremely pleased. I have been married for 12 years and have a good marriage but have often wondered if other married couples have some of the same trials we do. This book confirmed it and brought out some great aspects of marriage that really do "bust" the love sometimes. Mr. Harley has step-by-step directions for dealing with those habits that we all have, the times we let our temper get the best of us and many other lovebusters that drain our love tanks. The book is easy reading and honest. Not preachy or too psychological. I'm now getting "His Needs, Her Needs" to see what I can learn from it. I would definitely recommend this book for newlyweds as well as wedded-awhiles.

17 of 17 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars "Love Busters: Overcoming Habits That Destroy Romantic Love" February 4, 2005

By Connie Atwood

Format:Hardcover

Wow! Cut to the chase - no messing around! Heartfelt topics that deal with REAL problems in marriage. AND Hope for the future! Wish I had read this years ago. Thank you Dr. Harley.

I have also read "His Needs, Her Needs". I have given two copies of "His Needs, Her Needs" to friends of mine and have recommended it to numerous friends that are experiencing trials in their marriage.

"Love Busters" is on my recommendation top list as well. Every couple regardless of troubles or not should read these two books. They truly can help not only save marriages but enhance those that are "just getting along".

Your insight is invaluable to Christians and non-Christians alike.

24 of 26 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Take A look Inside Yourself June 21, 2003

By A Customer

Format:Hardcover

Every chapter in this book related to me as a person. The things that I was doing unconciously that was destroying my marriage. If you want to save your marriage or ensure a prosperous future with another person this book is a must read. I only wish I have found this book and Willard Harley's other book "His Needs, Her Needs" 8 years ago when I first got married. Now my marriage is in a downward spiral and all looks hopeless. I have two young children and I love my wife dearly. She refuses to read these two books and I can't force her too. To anyone facing the crisis of losing a spouse, PLEASE read Love Busters. Make yourself a better person. It might be too late for me in my present relationship, but there is no doubt of the benefits this book affords any future relationship I might enter into in the future. I'm just sorry I didn't know about this book sooner. Good Luck.