Love Is a Choice: The Definitive Book on Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships [Paperback]

Dr. Robert Hemfelt (Author), Dr. Frank Minirth (Author), Paul Meier M.D. (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: February 4, 2003

These bestselling doctors walk you through their ten proven stages to recovery from codependency that results from external circustances. Humans are susceptible to codependency because of our sinful tendency to use defense mechanisms to fool ourselves. In codependent relationships, deceitful games are played, and important Christian principles are often taken out of context and abused. God wants us to have healthy relationships with a balance between being dependent and independent. The doctors describe how the most effective means of overcoming codependent relationships is to establish or deepen a relationship with Christ Himself. They describe the causes of codependency, pointing out the factors that perpetuate it, and lead readers through their ten stages of recovery.

Product Details

• Paperback: 288 pages
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson; 1 edition (February 4, 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0785263756
• ISBN-13: 978-0785263753
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.5 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (22 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #22,726 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #20 in Books > Parenting & Relationships > Special Needs > Disabilities
  • #33 in Books > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Mental Health > Codependency

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39 of 39 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Very helpful without being preachy, December 27, 2005

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Lisui "Lisui" (Victoria) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Love Is a Choice: The Definitive Book on Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships (Paperback)

I found the information in this book very helpful. It is easy to read and understand. It is encouraging. It provides insight into what's going on when you're trying to cast off old ways of living that hold you back.

This book is worth reading, not only for the information to help you grow personally, but to be more aware and understanding of others in your life.

Although the authors may be religious, this does not come across heavily in the book and would not complicate a non-religious person using the information and insights to change things they don't like.

38 of 38 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This book really is ground breaking, June 7, 2005

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M. Lorentzen "Les is more" (Anchorage, Ak) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Love Is a Choice: The Definitive Book on Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships (Paperback)

Having been raised in a home with an alcoholic father and abusive parents in general, I was left in a codependant stuper. At thrity-something and after the birth of a fourth child I found myself in a serious depression I couldn't shake. Having gone through years of counseling and having dealt with much of my past, I was suprised to see it creep up again. This book gave me some powerfully accurate information as well as some great tools for dealing with my situation. I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to finally be rid of the old tapes in their head.

52 of 55 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars It certainly is a choice, March 1, 2004

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Paul Skinner (Manassas, Virginia United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Love Is a Choice: The Definitive Book on Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships (Paperback)

Don't let the title fool you. Although this is a book about dealing with failed adult relationships, the main emphasis in on the phenomena of co-dependency. Unresolved issues of childhood are the primary cause, and Drs Hemfelt, Minnerth and Meier go through many real life case studies that lead the reader to examine their own life, as well as the life of thier "significant other". Realizing how your lowly filled "love tank" is affecting your life is a powerful tool for recovery. Realizing you have a loving heavenly father is a key to recovery as well. I think this book is excellent for anybody experiencing a significant problem with a marriage or other long term relationship.