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The Love Compatibility Book: Twelve Personality Traits that Can Lead You to Your Soulmate

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As a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst, I have always considered the importance of enduring patterns that organize one's internal and external experience. Drs. Hoffman and Weiner have provided a very practical and significant toool in utilizing traits to determine compatibility when considering a soulmate. Often the failure to appreciate one's own personality dimensions and those of others can lead to poor choices in relationships. The authors provide a very clear method of self-assessing the presence and intensity of twelve distinct traits and correlating them with those of a potential mate. This book is a gem, well written, and a must read for both the professional and the general public.

The quizzes in this book are very good, they ask just the right questions. However, the scoring is flawed in my opinion. And I think one reason why is that the authors leave no room for people who are moderate in a trait--who score neither high or low and border on the cusp.

For example on the Materialism gauging quiz, I answered that I strongly like expensive cars, jewelry, restaurants and am not annoyed by people who wear pricey clothing and aspire to be rich. But because I am moderate/neutral on living simply I scored as someone who enjoys a spartan lifestyle. This is sooo not true! This happened on a couple of other trait quizzes too!

These quizzes don't take into account the complexity of the human personality, so you really have to measure the quiz yourself and not depend on the book's interpretation.

As a Columbia University Graduate Student I found this book useful in the classroom as well as in my personal life. Reader friendly, but not to be confused with a Cosmopolitan Girl style "How To..." pop piece of work, "The Love Compatibility Book" has simple quizzes that helped me to design some research protocols of my own. On a more intimate level this book confirmed for me and helped me to understand where I stood as a person and a companion. I recommend this book to the serious social scientists among us as well as to those who yearn for direction or reaffirmation in the proper employment of the most powerful of all human emotions ... "Love."

The sections with the quizzes were sort of interesting and helpful to figure out what is important to me thus to match that in a romantic partner...but to say that these traits will lead you to your soulmate? That was not particularly addressed in the book, how that would be accomplished. I mean, sure , once you know more about yourself, that would help one be more clear on one's needs.

But if you are someone who already pretty much knows yourself the quizzes won't tell you anything new. I mean, I already know I lean towards the arts and tend towards introspection/introversion...etc...

Mostly,I was disappointed because the quizzes were geared for COUPLES to take and then to compare their answers with each other to check on their existing compatibility.

There was a brief chapter at the end saying how an un-soulmated person could use the information to be more clear on traits one has and one desires in another, but it was told in mostly anecdotal form, using a story about 2 people who eventually found each other. It was cute but not earth shattering.

It was sort of fun doing the quizzes. I do not think this book is one to pick up again for inspiration, but OK to do the quizzes to help get more clear. I am giving the book away to the library.

As a psychologist for 20 years,I have found this book totally different and most helpful in its approach, using updated research on traits which we now know are all genetically based and inherited, meaning impervious to change. I have been able to incorporate this information and perspective into therapy- and, in addition, as a parent, have suggesed it as must reading for single, adult children. Or any words of a similar nature. I highly recommend this book.

The Love Compatibility Book offers the reader sophisticated guidelines to choosing a soulmate based on sound research of 12 personality traits . It helps to understand and match similar traits with your own personality style.
Written in contemporary and easy to read style, the authors Drs. Hoffman and Weiner offer practical advice based on their combined knowledge,professional and life experience of qualities that enhance loving relationships.
Dr. Lenore Powell, author of Alzheimer's Disease:A Guide
For Families and Caregivers

Drs Weiner and Hoffman devoted 7 years to compile the research necessary to complete this book...they have integrated their information from a number of fields, including biology, developmental psychology, and personality theory. A more subtle undercurrent of the book has to do with spirituality, and gaining further insight into the Self. I believe this book will be extremely helpful to other professionals in the field of psychology, as well as those looking to meet their spiritual and practical counterpart...if you are looking for love and haven't found it, this book will help in illuminating why and will assist in self-enlightment, the first step of finding true, lasting intimacy and love. Highly recommended!

As a Columbia University Graduate Student I found this book useful in the classroom as well as in my personal life. Reader friendly, but not to be confused with a Cosmopolitan Girl style "How To..." pop piece of work, "The Love Compatibility Book" has simple quizzes that helped me to design some research protocols of my own. On a more intimate level this book confirmed for me and helped me to understand where I stood as a person and a companion. I recommend this book to the serious social scientists among us as well as to those who yearn for direction or reaffirmation in the proper employment of the most powerful of all human emotions ... "Love."

At last, a more reasonable approach to sorting out Mr. Right from Mr. Wrong! It's an amazing book and very empowering. I learned so much about myself and why some of my past relationships just didn't work out. Now my love life won't be left totally to chance. Thank you, authors Bakur-Weiner and Hoffman for your help!

Despite the somewhat silly title, I was actually surprised by the depth and insight of this book. The authors use psychology testing to identify personality traits in people that affect intimacy, a refreshing and unique approach to finding love that's different from all the other "dating" books out there. The quizzes and questions at the end of each chapter are also quite good, and capture the personality trait being measured. The core premise of the book is that people are different in some key ways, and some of these differences are hard to change like libido and thus it is better to find some "compatible", rather than negotiate your way thru an ill-matched relationship. Many of the traits are similar to Neil Clark Warren's "29 dimensions", which gives me more confidence in their findings. Overall, one of the best books I've read about dating and relationships.