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I Love a Cop, Revised Edition: What Police Families Need to Know

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Written by clinical psychologist Ellen Kirschman, Ph.D., whose specific area of expertise lies in helping police officers and their families, I Love a Cop: What Police Families Need To Know is a straightforward, "tell-the-facts" guide, now in a newly revised edition, written especially for the significant others, spouses, and family members of police officers. Being a cop is a demanding job, and sometimes the very skills required for competence - such as being able to suppress strong emotions like fear, anger, or even compassion - are harmful to officers' private and personal lives if carried over to the home. I Love a Cop gives practical, no-nonsense advice to what to expect from the demands of the job, coping with stress or trauma, and much more. Of especial value are the chapters about dealing with domestic abuse, threats of suicide, or other severe cases and problems - including how to recognize the warning signs and when there is no other option than to just get out. Though I Love a Cop is intended especially for the loved ones of police offers, its solid advice is also highly recommended for the loved ones of anyone in a high-stress, risky or demanding occupation. I Love a Cop is also highly recommended as supplemental reading for anyone considering a policing career, as there is also plenty of sage wisdom about what to expect on the job and how to balance demands of the job with those of family life.

This book is pretty good at explaining what goes on in police families although a lot of families, mine included, are not really included in this book. I guess you could say we have a good family life and my husband does not bring his work home with him. We do talk about everything though so I am not shut out of his work. It gave me a better understanding of the stresses he has to deal with and what to look out for in case hethings change. Again, good book but more from a clinical point of view.

This is a must have for anyone going into, thinking about going into or already in Law enforcement; especially if you are married or getting married. This book will help prepare you for the social and personal hardships you will face as a police officer. The author uses real stories from police family's to give the reader ways of working out problems in the family unit that are caused directly because of work. This book will not only help you as the cop prepare for whats to come but it will help your loved once understand what you go through on a daily basis and give you the tools you need to have a healthy relationship while serving your community.

Myself and my girlfriend have both read this book. Gives interesting insight to the lives of Police families. recommend for anyone

This was one of the most educational books I have ever read. It is a little hard to read at times because it's so realistic. But that is the beauty of this book! If your dating a cop or if you are married to one, you should read this. I am very grateful for the men and women in law enforcement.

All I can say is that having been married to a cop, and having been served with a "surprise" divorce, PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT THIS BOOK HAS TO SAY! I swore that there were things that I would never experience...that he was "different," but he indeed "fit the mold." Addictions "can be" part of what cops struggle with, and can be positively adamant about denying. Take note about the thrill-seeking. I read this while we were dating, but I should have re-read this once things felt uneasy once we were living together after marriage. The information in this book covers things he was unable or unwilling to articulate. Take heed! A MUST for anyone in a relationship with a Law Enforcement Officer.

This book was given to me by the police department when my husband joined back in 2006.
Overall it is a good source of information. I personally don't think it is meant to scare anyone with the what ifs and could happens that are mentioned in the book. It does do a good job of explaining how the job changes for the officer from when the first start off as the eager rookie to possibly ending as the jaded officer.

It does touch on the subjects of stress in the job, how to properly and improperly handle it, moving up in the ranks, PTSD, how to get help from outside the relationship and in it, problems that affect home life due to the job.

It does also touch of domestic violence within the police family, which can happen to both officer or the spouse/kids, and touches on how to fix or remove yourself from the situation.

My husband and I already have a very open relationship and he shares at lot of what happens at work with me and this keeps him from becoming to depressed. But every couple is different and some people can't handle all that "horrible" information. But this book does a good job of reminding the non-cop of what your officer goes through on a day to day basis. And even on a career basis.

I would encourage the spouse to read this book with their officer or to read out certain sections. Particularly the chapter about the police paradox, about how bringing your police persona home is not always a good thing and how to separate from it.

I also like the factor that this book is fairly secular and seems to leave that up to the individual reading it rather than telling them whom or what they must follow in order to survive the job as I have seen in some books.

"I Love a Cop" is an excellent book for families of police officers (and officers) on the lifestyle in a law enforcement career. Does an excellent job of explaining the emotional strains of shifts and job stresses, how officers change, and the strain put on a family. This is a book full of support and resources, including recommendations for therapy when needed--valuable reading for families and officers.

Andy O'Hara, Badge of Life project

Although there probably would be a majority of women who would be interested in this book, the author wrote it to all demographics whether they are women or men, opposite sex couples, or same sex couples. She covered it all in a direct manner that's easy to understand.

I've read the book a couple of times to help understand my husband's career and cope with the stressors that come with his job. Because, when you marry someone of the badge, you marry the work.

Every cop is different, because they are all humans after all...but reading I Love a Cop gave me a good platform to begin comprehending the hardships that could befall on our marriage and our growing family.

If you are looking for answers, you won't find it here...because you can't depend on a book to save or fix your relationship.

This book is more like a fresh pair of eyes to help get you out of your own brain and help actualize other reasons why your partner is the way they are.

As a former LEO, I expected a good read. But this book is just a pile of garbage. The author knows NOTHING about police work. Unbelievably bad. A waste of time and money.