I Love You, but Why Are We So Different? Make the Differences Work for You [Paperback]

Tim F. LaHaye (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: July 1991

If you're married, you already know that opposites attract. But on your wedding day, could you have imagined how different the two of you really were? More importantly, is there hope now that some of the stars have fallen from your eyes?.

Product Details

• Paperback: 271 pages
• Publisher: Harvest House Pub (July 1991)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0890818797
• ISBN-13: 978-0890818794
• Product Dimensions: 7.8 x 5.2 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,958,671 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Dr. Tim LaHaye (www.timlahaye.com), who conceived the idea of fictionalizing an account of the Rapture and the Tribulation, is a noted author, minister, and nationally recognized speaker on Bible prophecy. He is the founder of both Tim LaHaye Ministries and The PreTrib Research Center. He also recently cofounded the Tim LaHaye School of Prophecy at Liberty University. Presently Dr. LaHaye speaks at many Bible prophecy conferences in the U.S. and Canada, where his current prophecy books are very popular.

Dr. LaHaye holds a doctor of ministry degree from Western Theological Seminary and a doctor of literature degree from Liberty University. For 25 years he pastored one of the nation's outstanding churches in San Diego, which grew to three locations. It was during that time that he founded two accredited Christian high schools, a Christian school system of ten schools, and San Diego Christian College (formerly known as Christian Heritage College).

Dr. LaHaye has written over 50 non-fiction books and co-authored 25 fiction books, many of which have been translated into 34 languages. He has written books on a wide variety of subjects, such as family life, temperaments, and Bible prophecy. His most popular fiction works, the Left Behind series, written with Jerry B. Jenkins, continue to appear on the best-seller lists of the Christian Booksellers Association, "Publishers Weekly," the "Wall Street Journal," "USA Today," and the "New York Times."

Another popular series by LaHaye and Jenkins is The Jesus Chronicles. This four-book fiction series gives readers a rich first century experience as John, Mark, Luke, and Matthew recount thrilling accounts of the life of Jesus. Dr. LaHaye is co-author of another fiction series, Babylon Rising. Each of the four titles in this series have debuted in the top 10 on the New York Times best seller list. These are suspense thrillers with thought-provoking messages.

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5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderful book on marriage!, July 19, 2003

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This review is from: I Love You, but Why Are We So Different?: Making the Most of Personality Differences in Your Marriage (Paperback)

I've read a lot of books on marriage and I have to say that this is the best! I really appreciate the relevance of this book to married life. It helps you realize that you have no control of other people (namely your spouse) but you do have a say in who has control over you ... and this should be the Holy Spirit. Tim Lahaye shows you how you can live a Spirit filled life and deals with real struggles like fear and anger ... letting emotions control you and hinder the Spirit's work in your life.
A lot of times in dealing with marriage issues we focus on dealing with the issues of our spouse ... Tim shows how we need to deal with ourselves and give our marriages and our spouses to the Lord.
I also appreciate the way he incorporates the personality types in this book. It is important to realize that we all were wonderfully designed by God DIFFERENTLY.
In addition to this book I would highly recommend reading The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. I thought these two books work wonderfully together in teaching about our differences, as well as how to meet our mate's needs, be obedient to God in marriage, and have a more fulfilling marriage relationship.

9 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great, December 16, 1999

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Robert Wagner (U.S.) - See all my reviews

This review is from: I Love You, but Why Are We So Different? Make the Differences Work for You (Paperback)

I am a young unmarried Christian, and this book has given me alot of insight on the whole marriage thing.Looking at marriages around me, I see alot of things listed or illustrated in this book and I am very pleased w/ this book. Once I picked it up I couldn't put it down. Great book Tim. May God bless you all and keep you. Robert Wagner

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5.0 out of 5 stars The Realities of Marriage, July 5, 2010

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This review is from: I Love You, but Why Are We So Different?: Making the Most of Personality Differences in Your Marriage (Paperback)

"The dream of every woman is to marry a man who loves her and shows that love by kindness." ~ pg. 232

I love all of Tim Lahaye's books on the four temperaments but I think this is my favorite. He begins by explaining the strengths and weaknesses of the four basic temperaments and then explores the twelve temperament combinations. As you read this book you will probably think of certain people in your life and you will definitely figure out your own temperament combination.

"Sometimes it takes marriage to reveal what a person really is." ~ Pg. 148

Tim Lahaye spends the rest of the book giving practical advice to married couples. He explains why you should avoid criticism like the plague, how you can learn to apologize and forgive, and how you can become best friends.

It may seem obvious but anger and fear are two very destructive forces. However before I read this book I didn't realize that fear was as dangerous as anger when it comes to your health.

Tim Lahaye has written some of the most useful books I've ever read. This one completely gave me a deeper understanding of life and how to interact more successfully with other people. The "Steps to Conquer Selfishness" is worth the price of the book.

While reading this book I had a deep sense of happiness and felt the renewal of hope. If I had to pick one marriage book that would save your marriage this would be it! It really covers all the basics!

~The Rebecca Review