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I Love You, but Why Are We So Different? Make the Differences Work for You

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I've read a lot of books on marriage and I have to say that this is the best! I really appreciate the relevance of this book to married life. It helps you realize that you have no control of other people (namely your spouse) but you do have a say in who has control over you ... and this should be the Holy Spirit. Tim Lahaye shows you how you can live a Spirit filled life and deals with real struggles like fear and anger ... letting emotions control you and hinder the Spirit's work in your life.
A lot of times in dealing with marriage issues we focus on dealing with the issues of our spouse ... Tim shows how we need to deal with ourselves and give our marriages and our spouses to the Lord.
I also appreciate the way he incorporates the personality types in this book. It is important to realize that we all were wonderfully designed by God DIFFERENTLY.
In addition to this book I would highly recommend reading The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. I thought these two books work wonderfully together in teaching about our differences, as well as how to meet our mate's needs, be obedient to God in marriage, and have a more fulfilling marriage relationship.

I am a young unmarried Christian, and this book has given me alot of insight on the whole marriage thing.Looking at marriages around me, I see alot of things listed or illustrated in this book and I am very pleased w/ this book. Once I picked it up I couldn't put it down. Great book Tim. May God bless you all and keep you. Robert Wagner

"The dream of every woman is to marry a man who loves her and shows that love by kindness." ~ pg. 232

I love all of Tim Lahaye's books on the four temperaments but I think this is my favorite. He begins by explaining the strengths and weaknesses of the four basic temperaments and then explores the twelve temperament combinations. As you read this book you will probably think of certain people in your life and you will definitely figure out your own temperament combination.

"Sometimes it takes marriage to reveal what a person really is." ~ Pg. 148

Tim Lahaye spends the rest of the book giving practical advice to married couples. He explains why you should avoid criticism like the plague, how you can learn to apologize and forgive, and how you can become best friends.

It may seem obvious but anger and fear are two very destructive forces. However before I read this book I didn't realize that fear was as dangerous as anger when it comes to your health.

Tim Lahaye has written some of the most useful books I've ever read. This one completely gave me a deeper understanding of life and how to interact more successfully with other people. The "Steps to Conquer Selfishness" is worth the price of the book.

While reading this book I had a deep sense of happiness and felt the renewal of hope. If I had to pick one marriage book that would save your marriage this would be it! It really covers all the basics!

~The Rebecca Review

I Love you, but why are we so different? by Tim La Haye is the best book I have read on marriage. I read it about 20 years ago and am reading
it again with my husband of 52years. He says it is the best thing we have done for our marriage in years!