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Love First: A New Approach to Intervention for Alcoholism and Drug Addiction (A Hazelden Guidebook) Paperback – September 1, 2000


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Product Details

  • Series: Hazelden Guidebook
  • Paperback: 280 pages
  • Publisher: Hazelden (September 1, 2000)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1568385218
  • ISBN-13: 978-1568385211
  • Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.3 x 1.4 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 4.8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (74 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,118,833 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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'Building a team, choosing a chairperson, anticipating objections, using checklists, and rehearsing for the intervention itself. The reader will find it all here!' - Robert M. Morse, M.D., Professor of Psychiatry Emeritus, Mayo Medical School

'The most comprehensive book available on the technique of intervention, Love First will save lives!' - Kathy Ketcham, coauthor, Beyond the Influence and The Spirituality of Imperfection

'A landmark book that gives families life-saving tools to help get a loved one into recovery. Bravo!' - Jim Ramstad, United States Congressional Representative

'A no-nonsense approach to how to save someone you love from the ravages of addiction disease.'  - William Cope Moyers, author of Broken

 'A significant contribution to intervention literature, and an empowering antidote to the disease of addiction.'  - William I. White, author of Slaying the Dragon: The History of Addiction Treatment

'I am truly excited about the book Love First. Families and loved ones who read this look at intervention will find the keys to begin the process of recovery. ' - John T. Schwarzlose, President, Betty Ford Center

'A convincing new approach to intervention that puts love and respect first.' - Jack Canfield, coauthor, Chicken Soup for the Soul series

--This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

About the Author

Jeff Jay is president of the Terry McGovern Foundation in Washington, D.C. He is a professional interventionist, author, and trainer. His work has appeared on CNN, Parade Magazine, and the Washington Post. He is a graduate of the University of Minnesota, and a certified addictions professional. "I am passionate about intervention for a very simple reason," says Jeff. "Intervention saved my life." Jeff writes a monthly column on alcohol, drugs, and family for the Grosse Pointe News. The column features questions from readers.

Debra Jay is the co-author of two Hazelden Guidebooks: Love First: A New Approach to Intervention and Aging and Addiction: Helping Older Adults Overcome Alcohol or Medication Dependence. She is in private practice as an interventionist specializing in chemically dependent older adults. She provides intervention training and consultation to families throughout the United States and Canada. Ms. Jay has been writing a regular newspaper column on alcohol and drugs in society since 1996. She resides in Grosse Pointe, Michigan.

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It is an easy read, set out in a very natural organized style.
P. In Texas
I would recommend this for anyone struggling with a friend or family member who is struggling with addiction.
Jill Winschell
This book gives you all of the tools you need to plan an intervention and get treatment for the addiction.
Michalene Kokura

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116 of 118 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on December 30, 2001
Format: Paperback
I've read several books and online materials about substance abuse and how to help someone out of addiction. This book is the most comprehensive, considerate, simple, and useful source for friends or family members. It is more complete and helpful than the better-known cornerstone works from the Betty Ford Clinic and Dr. Vernon Johnson. Not only is the text full of information, but the charts offered at the end to help organize an intervention are most user-friendly and designed to give you a thoughtful helping hand. This one is the best investment.
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48 of 48 people found the following review helpful By Kevin Killian HALL OF FAME on August 6, 2004
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People who are addicted to alcohol fall into one of three categories, according to the Jays: those who know it and want help (whether consciously or unconsciously), those who don't believe it's true of themselves, even though they may be the first to spot alcoholism in others, or attribute it to them; and the third, slightly smaller group that wavers between the first two, sometimes convicted and guilty, sometimes defiant. To all three of these groups the Jays, a pair of strong advocates for recovery, urge us to love them first.

I have seen my share of alcoholics who have finally seen the light and attempted sobriety, and it is very striking how what we read here (that you don't have to "hit bottom" to want to be helped) is often seen in life but seldom seen in the literature. It's always drama, drama, drama and "Days of Wine and Roses" in other recovery literature. Thus LOVE FIRST is a rather genteel approach to recovery, but I'm sure it will have an impact all across America, wherever people are honestly trying to change their ways. And, in addition, this book and the program of the Jays will bring solace to suffering families of all ages, right through the generations.
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61 of 63 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on May 23, 2001
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Whether you are a family member, a friend or a professional counsellor, this book is a "must-read" for anyone dealing with alcoholism or drug addiction. It may be painful to read, but it's so true. I am purchasing copies to share with friends. I need their support.
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43 of 45 people found the following review helpful By Bob LaPrad on April 18, 2001
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In an effort to promote the healing and recovery of individuals and families in the 10 county diocese with 98 parishes, the parish representatives trained in the community resourses to assist people who have loved ones with a substance abuse/alcohol problem are using the guidebook "LOVE FIRST". Because of this new approach to intervention we are averageing ONE intervention a week acrose the diocese. A beautiful well written, easy to under stand text that appeals to those with a caring love for someone who is hurting.
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35 of 37 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on November 20, 2003
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As a recovering addict, this book has great ideas and is right on the mark! I will suggest this to the many people I know dealing with the disease. As with many addicts like myself, I have always had problems in relationships with women too. Another wonderful book that helped me is Stumbling Naked In The Dark: Overcoming Mistakes Men Make With Women. Between the two books there is a lot of great advice that helped make my life better and certainly more bearable.
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24 of 25 people found the following review helpful By Colleen on March 5, 2001
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This is a fantastic book!Not only did I read it,I participated in the actual intervention.A wonderful way to bring the family together and help them understand the problem.It may not cure the alchoholic but certainly makes them aware of their problem using only love.
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17 of 17 people found the following review helpful By Jerry A. Boriskin on November 3, 2000
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Families experiencing the devastation of alcoholism or drug addiction have a powerful new ally. Love First is a lucid and concise guide towards strategizing a successful intervention. In stepping the reader through necessary background knowledge, family dynamics and actual intervention technique, Love First provides essential information and support that will prove invaluable to countless families.
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14 of 14 people found the following review helpful By "artdebhon" on November 4, 2000
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This book is easy to read, well organized and extremely informative. I gained understanding about the disease of addiction and how it affects families. I also was excited to know there is a uncomplicated, precise method to Intervention that works! I highly recommend this book!
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