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Love First: A New Approach to Intervention for Alcoholism and Drug Addiction (A Hazelden Guidebook)

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I've read several books and online materials about substance abuse and how to help someone out of addiction. This book is the most comprehensive, considerate, simple, and useful source for friends or family members. It is more complete and helpful than the better-known cornerstone works from the Betty Ford Clinic and Dr. Vernon Johnson. Not only is the text full of information, but the charts offered at the end to help organize an intervention are most user-friendly and designed to give you a thoughtful helping hand. This one is the best investment.

People who are addicted to alcohol fall into one of three categories, according to the Jays: those who know it and want help (whether consciously or unconsciously), those who don't believe it's true of themselves, even though they may be the first to spot alcoholism in others, or attribute it to them; and the third, slightly smaller group that wavers between the first two, sometimes convicted and guilty, sometimes defiant. To all three of these groups the Jays, a pair of strong advocates for recovery, urge us to love them first.

I have seen my share of alcoholics who have finally seen the light and attempted sobriety, and it is very striking how what we read here (that you don't have to "hit bottom" to want to be helped) is often seen in life but seldom seen in the literature. It's always drama, drama, drama and "Days of Wine and Roses" in other recovery literature. Thus LOVE FIRST is a rather genteel approach to recovery, but I'm sure it will have an impact all across America, wherever people are honestly trying to change their ways. And, in addition, this book and the program of the Jays will bring solace to suffering families of all ages, right through the generations.

Whether you are a family member, a friend or a professional counsellor, this book is a "must-read" for anyone dealing with alcoholism or drug addiction. It may be painful to read, but it's so true. I am purchasing copies to share with friends. I need their support.

In an effort to promote the healing and recovery of individuals and families in the 10 county diocese with 98 parishes, the parish representatives trained in the community resourses to assist people who have loved ones with a substance abuse/alcohol problem are using the guidebook "LOVE FIRST". Because of this new approach to intervention we are averageing ONE intervention a week acrose the diocese. A beautiful well written, easy to under stand text that appeals to those with a caring love for someone who is hurting.

As a recovering addict, this book has great ideas and is right on the mark! I will suggest this to the many people I know dealing with the disease. As with many addicts like myself, I have always had problems in relationships with women too. Another wonderful book that helped me is Stumbling Naked In The Dark: Overcoming Mistakes Men Make With Women. Between the two books there is a lot of great advice that helped make my life better and certainly more bearable.

This is a fantastic book!Not only did I read it,I participated in the actual intervention.A wonderful way to bring the family together and help them understand the problem.It may not cure the alchoholic but certainly makes them aware of their problem using only love.

Families experiencing the devastation of alcoholism or drug addiction have a powerful new ally. Love First is a lucid and concise guide towards strategizing a successful intervention. In stepping the reader through necessary background knowledge, family dynamics and actual intervention technique, Love First provides essential information and support that will prove invaluable to countless families.

This book is easy to read, well organized and extremely informative. I gained understanding about the disease of addiction and how it affects families. I also was excited to know there is a uncomplicated, precise method to Intervention that works! I highly recommend this book!

I am truly excited about the new book Love First. Jeff and Debra Jay have described so eloquently addictive disease within the family and more importantly, what a family can do about it. Most alcoholics and addicts are not able to access the treatment they need. Families and loved ones who read this new look at intervention will find the keys to begin the process of recovery.

This is a very good book. If you have anyone in your life who has an addiction that is out of control, you should read this and take action immediately. This book gives you all of the tools you need to plan an intervention and get treatment for the addiction.