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If Love Is a Game, These Are the Rules: Ten Rules for Finding Love and Creating Long-Lasting, Authentic Relationship

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At times, even the most successful people in business... can be failures at love. That's often because, once the web has been spun, the enchantment put in place, that spell we call "love" has been cast, people usually throw all cares to the wind in hope of finding something that is everlasting. In the follow-up book to her widely acclaimed title, "If Life is a Game, These are the Rules", Dr. Cherie Carter-Scott has identified some basic knowledge that can help a person find, create and maintain authentic, long-lasting relationships. Some of these truisms may seem familiar, but as is the case with her other titles, a reader is bound to find a gem of wisdom, or two that may change their perspective and impact their lives.

Like many other types of relationships, Dr. Carter identifies the element of 'excellent communication' as a necessary ingredient to success. Knowing what you want to communicate, 'releasing' the emotion surrounding the message you wish to convey, expressing your feelings without passing judgement, and choosing a right time and place are details that are commonly highlighted in this book. In fact, communication is a common denominator that is weaved throughout this title.

An interesting chapter is entitled 'Partnering is a Choice'. It seems simple enough, yet it is extremely powerful to understand that the choice to be in a meaningful relationship is up to you and you alone. Some people may have some kind of a mental block or fear. Fear of losing his/ her bachelorhood, fear of rejection, fear of not being good enough, fear of being hurt, fear that they'll end up divorced like their parents, fear... fear... fear. It is this fear that projects the kind of energy that attracts the wrong type of people, and it is up to each of us individually to recognize this process and redirect the course we are navigating. To find a soulmate, one must address their fears, accept and love themselves, and make a conscious decision to be receptive to a significant other.

Once you have found someone, the real work has just begun. The author spells out the importance of nurturing your relationship in Chapter 8, in what's, arguably, the best part of the sermon. As we know, many relationships lose their 'shine' or luster when both parties get so involved with their every day life that they lose the perspective of what brought them together in the first place. The author reminds us that relationships are like gardens... ever growing and requiring attention. We need to make a conscious decision to tend to our 'garden' on a daily basis. Try and have a daily check in, the author suggests. In fact, it is prescribed that couples should schedule a periodical relationship tune-up. This is a time when both parties can express how they feel about their relationship, their needs and wants. A time to basically just step outside and analyze what components of the relationship bring a couple happiness, and where they feel some areas may be somewhat deficient. This scheduled tune-up helps one avoid being in a relationship that just goes sour with the parties never knowing exactly where it all went wrong! Simple wisdom with profound effects. Mark it down... 3,000 miles... take the car in to have the oil changed and make time for a relationship tune-up... it's what the Doctor ordered.

As a man, I am critical of some of the self-help books written by women. Invariably, I find elements that either misrepresent men's attitudes or totally ignore them. "If Love Is A Game, These Are The Rules," is a wonderful exception. Every man interested in learning how to find and maintain a long-lasting relationship should read this book. More importantly, it should be read, reread and discussed by both partners, as often as questions or issues arise in the relationship. Cherie Carter Scott doesn't mince words; examples are short and to the point; each chapter covers a major rule so it is easy to follow and return to for a refresher. Too many of us, men and women, have been too ignorant, too disinterested, too willing to enter relationships based upon the wrong assumptions and expectations. This book lights the path towards establishing relationships that can grow and withstand the changes time will inevitably bring. Good luck...

(Sorry, English is not my mother-tongue.)
This is a great relationship-book! You won't find boring advice that you need to be supportive to your partner, you need to cherish him / her as often you could... but straightly to the point, Cherie will tell you that you need to differentiate being supportive and controlling... etc.

Those things commonly happened in our relationships, and it's nice to have someone reminded us to be a better person for our beloved one. Worth to collect. Recommended for you who're still single, also for married couple.

I'm finished reading this book, but I still use this book as reference, when I feel my relationship start getting trouble. And however, it helps!

I found this book to be a clear and fun read. It really helped educate me on love. Relationships are ever changing ever evolving and having the knowledge of If love is a game these are the rules makes me a better educated person who loves and in loved. Every one should read this book.

This was a really good book. It gave me a lot of good insight on what to look for in a spouce. It also taught me some things about myself. I recommend this book to anyone who seem to be finding love in all the wrong places.

I was skeptical at first, but after reading it I found the universal truths explored by Carter-Scott to be life changing! A friend of mine loved her LIFE is a game book and I am glad I gave this one a try. It's deeper than most "self-help" books but really struck a nerve in me. It makes a great book to pass on to friends or to give to newlyweds. Now I'll read the Life is a Game book and review that one too.

I loved it, this is a very helpful book for anyone who is in a relationship or who wants to be in a successful relationship. It let's the reader know that they are not alone, many other couples have similar types of problems. The book gets the point across by using real life examples from other relationships. It helped me!

I absolutely LOVE this book!!! It is so helpful and insightful!!! It helps you get everything into perspective and teaches you not only how to love another but how to love yourself as well! I recommend this book to anyone and everyone! I have already told so many people about it!!!

This book has been a wake-up call for me. It helped me understand myself and my partner in life. It has taught me how to develop and maintain a lasting authentic relationship.

After reading each chapter in this book, I took time to reflect on each lesson. The one that hit home for me was: "I need to be ready to love someone by loving myself first". Oddly enough I met someone soon after who told me he could never love someone who didn't love themself... This book taught me the skills I needed to be a good partner(if I choose to be one). This is not a book of answers, but concepts of how love relationships can be successful.

PS: I'm getting married in a few months!