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Best Book on Happiness, July 12, 2003
This review is from: To Love Is to Be Happy With (Mass Market Paperback)
Kaufman explains in clear and simple language how we come to acquire beliefs that can undermine our happiness and effectiveness. Remarkably, these beliefs were taught and adopted with the best of intentions, to protect and guide us. When we lack the necessary awareness, though, we can not see the harm these beliefs do in our lives. Kaufman introduces a set of attitudes to consider along with a simple system of inquiry which he calls the Option Process. He presents many actual dialogues he has had using the Option Process with a variety of individuals beset by a wide range of serious challenges. The dialogues are a powerful way of identifying beliefs which do not serve us, or upon conscious examination, do not seem to make sense. In reading through these dialogues, I was amazed at how quickly many of these individuals were able to emerge from their stuck states, let go of beliefs that did not serve them, and move on to more constructive perspectives and actions. While participants no doubt benefited from Kaufman's questions, the process can also be practiced on one's own. Even though this book was written a number of years ago (1977), it in no way comes across as dated. In a number of respects, it reminds me of the process subsequently and independently developed by Byron Katie known as the Work. For this reader, though, the Option Process is much more accessible and straightforward. For information about other books and programs, visit the website of the Option Institute at www.option.org/
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9 of 10 people found the following review helpful:
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This book changed my life, August 14, 1998
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The ideas in this book changed my life! It's the only approach to life I've ever seen that says we don't need to be unhappy. Period. We don't need anger, guilt, depression, sorrow or any of that to live a great life. We don't need negative emotions to motivate us or others. Amazing!
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A "must read" if you want love to work in your life, July 17, 1997
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Incredibly simple yet packed full of insights
into how we think and behave in relationships.
Mr. Kaufman shines a light on all the beliefs we
hold about love and relationships, and how those
beliefs lead us to fear, anxiety, distance, confusion,
and distrust. Once I saw the beliefs, it gave me
the power to change them, and have the type of
relationship I always dreamed about.
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