From Publishers Weekly
From various perspectives, 20 adoptive parents offer evocative, sometimes provocative, personal essays that have the liveliness and immediacy of prose fiction. Biological parents are variously imagined, sought and found in the opening section, "Reflections on Birth Parents." In "Encounters with the Unexpected," adoptive parents confront "postadoption depression," family wariness, ethnic identity issues and disabling psychological problems. Each family (single parent, gay parent, divorced parents, intra-family adoption, blended family) is adoptive in its unique way, persuasively confirmed in "Variations on Family." While the early sections focus on the parent-child relationship, the concluding "Personal Transformations" leans toward the child-to-parent effect; as one writer puts it, "I knew a child would rearrange my home life, but upend my career and worldview? Those two items weren't even on my list." Any parent will find commonality here, but the collection will especially engage adoptive parents in conversation and controversy with people who share their dilemmas and delights. Diverse as this collection is, it's worth noting that the essayists are professional writers (they include Jacquelyn Mitchard, Emily Prager and Dan Savage), most of the children are preadolescent and 11 of the adoptions are transnational (five of them from China).
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...a handy tool for adoptive parents-to-be or for those who simply want to learn the ins and outs. -- The Chicago Tribune, January 8, 2006
...a magical and candid collection, which I found impossible to put down -- Marybeth Lambe, Adoptive Families, December 2005A Love Like No Other
, accordingly, leans more in a literary direction than an instructional one. -- New York Times, November 27, 2005
Kruger and Smolowe's collection offers an exploration of raising adopted children as multidimensional as the experience itself. -- San Francisco Chronicle, November 6, 2005
[T]hese 19 moving dispatches speak most powerfully about contemporary family life. -- Health, November 2005
[an] impressive array of skillfully executed essays from the perspective of adoptive parents. -- Library Journal, November 1, 2005