Love by Mail: The International Guide to Personal Advertising [Paperback]

Richard N. Cote (Author)

Product Details

• Paperback
• Publisher: Bartleby Pr (October 1992)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0910155224
• ISBN-13: 978-0910155229
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.6 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #5,173,621 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #30 in Books > 4-for-3 Books > Health, Mind & Body > Relationships > Dating
  • #55 in Books > 4-for-3 Books > Business & Investing > Marketing & Sales > Advertising
  • #64 in Books > 4-for-3 Books > Health, Mind & Body > Relationships > Mate Seeking

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6 of 7 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Superior work by author who married a foreign woman, December 10, 1997

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[e-mail] (Ft. Lauderdale, FL) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Love by Mail: The International Guide to Personal Advertising (Paperback)

All the questions you have about about finding the woman of your dreams are answered here. This book even has a chapter on deciding if this is a good strategy for you. After that, the book tells you tactics which he used in finding his wife. Also contains a chapter on visas, immigration, etc.

2.0 out of 5 stars Highly insightful - but far out of date now, says the author, May 17, 2009

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Richard N. Cote (Mt. Pleasant, SC USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Love by Mail: The International Guide to Personal Advertising (Paperback)

When I wrote this book in 1991, it was the state-of-the-art guide to the subject of creating a successful cross-cultural / international marriage. Its advice from that perspective remains unmatched. However, for all practical purposes, the Internet did not exist at that time (!!) and the methods of contacting future partners overseas were limited to writing paper letters. Quaint as this may seem, it gave people time to reflect and think carefully about such an important matter. Having said that, my book is technologically obsolete now, and many others have been written. But for the person searching for a mate overseas,(usually men) and for the women they meet, I would caution both that cross-cultural relationships are much more complex that are presented in most "mailorder bride" books, and that the failure (divorce) rate is high in ANY hastily-arranged marriage. By the way, I practiced what I preached in the book. My wife, from Colombia, South America, and I have been happily married here in the United States now for eighteen years. I wish my publisher had been so faithful. He hasn't paid me my royalties for over a decade, and continues to sell this book! Richard N. Cote', author of "Love By Mail."

1.0 out of 5 stars This 1992 Book Is Hopelessly Out-of-Date, April 15, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: Love by Mail: The International Guide to Personal Advertising (Paperback)

The Internet is not even mentioned in this book. And that's where the biggest action now is, as far as personals advertising is concerned. The old print sources that are listed are for the most part not current. The advice is so elementary (don't write about sex in your first letter, don't be late for your first date, be sure to meet in a public place the first time and the like) as to be virtually useless. And finally -- let's face it -- the fact that the author has gone through hundreds of women during a period of several years and still not met his match does not speak very highly of his frequently touted "system." The title is catchy, though ... and the cover is nicely designed!