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Love Must Be Tough: New Hope for Marriages in Crisis Paperback – April 1, 2007
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Have you tried everything to save your marriage?
You've forgiven a thousand times. You've bent over backwards to make your partner feel loved and accepted. But the only reward for your loyalty has been anger, indifference, infidelity, or abuse. Your spouse may even be ready to walk out the door.
Do you feel like all is lost? Are you ready to give up? There is still hope.
Dr. James Dobson's "tough love" principles have proven to be uniquely valuable and effective. Unlike most approaches to marriage crisis, the strategy in this groundbreaking classic does not require the willing cooperation of both spouses. "Love Must Be Tough" offers the guidance that gives you the best chance of rekindling romance, renewing your relationship, and drawing your partner back into your arms.
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If you find yourself in a similar situation to me you will find both books incredibly inspiring and encouraging. All I can say is that the more self respect and detachment I can muster up, the more my husband seems interested in sticking around. The more I cling, the farther away he goes. I have now experienced this phenomenon repeatedly over the months. Every time I am tough, it gets my husband's attention. I have made some big mistakes, and had some triumphs. I am still trying to wait out my husband's mid life crisis, and I am learning so much about respecting myself while I do so.
If you are neither comfortable with filing divorce, or being a doormat, you will find lots of excellent advice here.
And this book is not just for Marriage issues. Dr. Dobson lists 16 things you need to know when you enter into a relationship that can keep you from blowing it. Had I known then what I know now, I would be upset at myself. I blew 14 of the 16 things and it's no wonder she ran away calling me "clingy" and "soft." I was and Dr. Dobson showed me exactly why.
This book is NO GUARANTEE that you will win your spouse or significant other back. But, like anything else, if you don't do something you will more assuredly lose them anyway. Pray hard and read this book if you want to keep them. Learn to give them space.
While I may have blown my chances with my ex (and I think I have) at least I am sure I will never repeat the same mistakes again.
Single or Married, you need this book!
I read this book when I was dealing with an unfaithful wife. Everything I had said hold on to her and "force" her to come back. Dr. Dobson recommended giving freedom since in the end no one can force another into staying in a relationship. He also deals with rebellious children which is basically the same thing as a wayward spouse. Sometimes NO is the answer. Yes you have the freedom to act that way but NO I will not tolerate you acting that way toward me. Yes you have the freedom to leave, but, NO I will not be here when you get back. Yes you have the freedom to commit adultery, but, NO I will not stay married to you if you choose that route. Yes you have the freedom to stay out all night, but, NO you cannot live here and continue to practice that behavior.
A lot of the advice Dobson gives is common sense, that some of us can't see! ! when we are in the middle of those emotional situations that require us to think logically.
I highly recommend this book.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Helped me TREMENDOUSLY!!! Save my marriage!! Thank you Dr. Dobson!!Published 8 days ago by Amazon Customer
This book was a great read..it really gave me some things to think aboutPublished 10 days ago by unionhilltop
This book is tells real stories yet is able to specifically guide you in a very painful experience.Published 13 days ago by Carol McCuen
This is a great book, but don't expect it to work like a charm. I highly recommend this book for anyone whose spouse has told them, "I don't love you anymore and I am not sure... Read morePublished 1 month ago by Robin W. Shelley
i don't think the book relates to me. Seems like it is try to teach people to play games but i guess if you are in a situation that your spouse cheated on you, a drastic measure is... Read morePublished 1 month ago by Lin Li
I haven't read it all, but it has some useful information in it.Published 1 month ago by Amazon Customer
Didn't work for us, but there may not have been much hope in our case anyway.Published 1 month ago by Rush
This book was repetitive and preachy. The section promoting stereotypes about homosexuals is offensive and ignorant. Read morePublished 1 month ago by Amazon Customer