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I learned the effect addiction/depression have on the numbers firsthand
on December 22, 2009
I have heard Glynis several times on Coast to Coast AM and have always thought she was intelligent and wise, so I was eager to read her newest book, "Love by the Numbers." I'm very glad that I did, because I learned a lot about myself and I also received confirmation about a relationship I had in the past.
I did a full chart for me and a particular ex of mine. Our numbers were fantastic, both for our "goes by" names and our birth certificate names. We had a real soul mate connection via our birth names, and even our Destiny and Maturity numbers were natural matches. Is it any wonder then that I had the feeling from our first date that he was a person I could love for the rest of my life?
But Glynis warns repeatedly in her book that addiction, mental illness and a person living the negative side of their numbers can massively skew your experience of the vibration that attracted you to a person at the start. I absolutely experienced this. Depression, alcoholism, drug use and suicide raged through his family for generations and had already started to get a grasp on him. Unfortunately, I was already in love with him by the time I realized this information. I was also young, and very inexperienced, and didn't see a lot of red flags early. To cap it off, I am a Lifepath of 3 and we tend to try to "fix" and "rescue" people until we learn that you can't. It simply does not work.
The breakup was long and painful. I had a lot of self-judgment for years because I simply could not understand how on earth I could have let someone treat me SO badly and still love them. It made no sense to me at all. I finally had to learn to accept and forgive myself for staying in spite of lies, persistent toxic criticism, cheating and being shut out. I still loved him even when I broke up with him, and was depressed for almost a full year afterward because he wasn't in my life. Not healthy at all!
When I read Glynis' book and saw the numbers and what an incredible natural match I was to my ex, I realized that it was completely understandable for me to fall in love with him. But as she warned, you MUST have discernment at the beginning, no matter how strongly you feel, until you know for a fact a person is not under the influence of mental illness, addiction or living the negative side of their numbers. For your own sake, don't take on someone so wounded and disconnected that they are going to make *your* life a living hell. Love yourself more than that.
What took me years and years to forgive and figure out on my own would have taken me only a day to figure out and forgive if I had had Glynis' book back then. I wish I had a time machine so I could take a copy back to the day after the breakup. I would show up, tell myself to READ THIS NOW and to move on! My life would be extremely different if I had! :)
I also wish that everyone had their full charts done, with all of their numbers (including Destiny and Maturity numbers!) pinned to their chest like a HELLO MY NAME IS badge. Life would be much more simple and easier to figure out. "Oh of course I feel repelled by that person! My goodness look at all those 4's in there!" lol
It is a great thing to be able to let go of the past, but the really great thing about this book is that it will work for the present, too. I now have the tools from Glynis' book to get a person compatible with my own vibration, now and for the rest of our lives. Glynis did her part; now it's MY job to avoid a person living with negativity, addiction and mental illness. No more "fixing" anyone for me!