Love in the Present Tense: How to Have a High Intimacy, Low Maintenance Marriage [Paperback]

Morrie Shechtman (Author), Arleah Shechtman (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: December 1, 2003

Drawing on their expertise on personal growth in the workplace and from their experience with couples in their popular workshops, Morrie and Arleah Shechtman present a new approach that challenges common notions about what makes a good marriage work. They recognize that myths about marriage often lead people to aim for unrealistic ideals. Examining eight myths about relationships—including “Love will carry you through the hard times,” “You need to work on your relationship if you want it to be good,” and “Spending lots of time together is very important”—the book also presents contrasting realities to help strengthen the bond. For those working to build a relationship or struggling to hold one together, this book provides powerful new ways to overcome old behaviors and create a new connection that springs from a shared understanding of one another's needs.

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About the Author

Morrie Shechtman is a psychotherapist, a teacher, and a counselor who now runs a successful management consulting company. Arleah Shechtman is a psychotherapist with a clinical specialization and works with adolescents, small groups, and people experiencing grief and loss.

Product Details

• Paperback: 196 pages
• Publisher: Bull Publishing Company (December 1, 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 092352181X
• ISBN-13: 978-0923521813
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.2 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (14 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #450,551 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Helped turn our marriage around, December 7, 2005

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This review is from: Love in the Present Tense: How to Have a High Intimacy, Low Maintenance Marriage (Paperback)

My husband and I were on the brink. We didn't really have strong role models in terms of marriage, and after the honeymoon period, we struggled. Nagging, criticism, communication shut downs and feelings of rejection began creeping into the marriage. This book took an interesting approach: It helped us figure out our own personal issues, and then helped us work on the relationship. It took a lot of time and effort, but we put some of their ideas into practice, and now our relationship has never been better. I recommend this book with all my heart. I also wish you luck for whatever reason it is that brings you to search for this book.

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book -- But What a Challenge, July 27, 2005

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Mark S. Jordan (North Carolina) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Love in the Present Tense: How to Have a High Intimacy, Low Maintenance Marriage (Paperback)

"Love in the Present Tense" by Morrie and Arleah Shechtman presents ideas that are so intuitively obvious (at least in retrospect) that I found myself wondering why I hadn't written the book myself. With more reflection, I wondered why I hadn't been following their precepts for years. I suppose the answer, at least to the second question, is that what they propose is hard -- it demands more than probably most of us are willing to give. But having acknowledged the difficulty involved, I believe they have written the best "relationship self-help" book of recent years. They are "on to something", and the prospective reader would be well-served by finding out what it is.

9 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Shared Values are what keeps a relationship STRONG, February 11, 2004

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Tori Clark (Raleigh, NC) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Love in the Present Tense: How to Have a High Intimacy, Low Maintenance Marriage (Paperback)

This book takes a fresh approach at determining and explaining exactly what holds marriages together. We've all heard time and time again that love is the ultimate binding force, but Morrie and Arleah Shechtman assert that Shared Values are what keep relationships strong. They pinpoint eight core values that might be considered radical by some, but after reading and understanding, I have to agree with the authors.