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Love & Respect Live Marriage Conference

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My wife and I just attended the Love & Respect Conference and I'm astounded to be the first reviewer of the DVD. If you are familiar with it, speak up so that those of us who are skeptical about these types of things will be emboldened to act (and might even buy the DVD or attend a conference).

SUMMARY: If you are like me you will wonder out loud, "if most couples experience the same/similar things that we do, then why in the world did it take this long for a person to articulate these very simple truths?" I cannot answer that question.

I was skeptical about the presentation style. However, Emerson Eggerich is an excellent and very entertaining speaker. I was less skeptical about the content because I felt sure it would be the same old stuff repackaged. However, the content will blow you away! The ideas the Eggerichs discuss are not their own, but described by him as "hidden in plain sight." You will nod in the affirmative (or shake your head in disbelief) throughout the DVD as the Eggerichs' put words to (or state more clearly) your thoughts and feelings. You will be tempted to nudge your spouse (or vice versa) and say, "that is SO you."

FOR MEN: this DVD will put into words some of those things you yourself have been unable to explain to your wife - you know what I mean - those times you've been mad or upset by something she's done / doing so you just have to walk away. Learn why that is, how you and she make it worse, and what to do to fix it.

FOR WOMEN (from a man's perspective): this DVD says (in language that a man can understand) all those things that you have been telling him over and over and over again, but he just doesn't get, as well as why we husbands do what we do. Learn how you and he make things worse without meaning to and how to fix it. Knowledge is power and I hope you will use it wisely.

For the husband or wife going it alone: this DVD tells you why you should even bother. I believe that it will motivate and empower you in ways that you cannot imagine.

FOR THE NON-CHRISTIAN: Did you know that Christians divorce as frequently (or almost) as non-Christians? Did you know that "Christians" are the #1 stumbling block to you even giving God a chance? If you are married, but think your marriage could/should be better than it currently is, this DVD is worth a look - you have nothing to lose, they'll give your money back if it doesn't change your marriage.

FOR THOSE WHO CONSIDER THEMSELVES CHRISTIANS (from as big a sinner as any): In addition to all the above, you will be reminded of things that are drowned out by the world: where you came from, what you were created for, what is hoped for and expected of you, and why you should be willing to die for (BUT ALSO LIVE FOR) your marriage. You will be humbled to discover yet one more way in which you underestimate your God who is omnipotent, omnicient and omnipresent.

FYI - I have absolutely no affiliation with the Eggerichs or their products. This is my personal review of their conference(not even my wife has read it). If I have mis-characterized anything, my apologies and I hope you will correct it.

After watching the first DVD as a preview to an upcoming Love and Respect conference , we ordered the full set. My husband wanted to stay up all night watching the DVDs.

Does my husband usually show any interest in this sort of thing? Not really. Why the interest now? Because Dr. Eggerichs has insight and wisdom regarding a man's needs that is NOT expressed in today's society. We have implemented his suggestions and they work.

I wish we had watched these on our honeymoon! They are the best investment we've ever made. We learned more from these in one weekend that in 10 years of everything else we've ever tried or done.

From now on, they will be the only gift we give to newly married couples - nothing else compares.

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If over 50% of Christian marriages are failing, the Christian population is doing a miserable job of following God's word. The focus of this series is on two words: Love and Respect. While our culture belives in unconditional love, it often doesn't believe unconditional respect is important. Women crave unconditional love and men crave unconditional respect. Our minds were wired by God to be different. We were created in the image of God as male and female. Our sexes think about things differently-"not wrong, just different."

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs describes the two sexes as wearing different headphones and glasses. Men wear blue glasses and blue headphones. Women wear pink glasses and pink headphones. A man might say to his wife, "I have nothing to wear!" A wife might say the same words and mean she has nothing "new." A man, on the other hand, might mean he has nothing "clean." As Dr. Emerson says repeatedly, "Not wrong, just different."

I do find the "Love and Respect" DVD is an excellent marriage resource. I haven't finished watching all of the DVDs yet, but what I have watched thus far is awesome. Dr. Eggerichs really is a great presenter, has done lots of research, and most importantly, validates all things he talks about with the word of God. If Christians would look to the Bible for the answers to life, we wouldn't have so many problems. Eggerichs uses examples from the Old and New Testament to speak about love and respect. Whatever people want to believe, the fact is, men and women are different. We were created by God to have different roles in the marriage.

I would give this dvd series over 5 stars if I could; it's that good. Any couple desiring marriage should watch this series. Any couple that is married should watch this series too. Marriage must become the sacred institution it once was. I'm really thankful Dr. Eggerichs presents uncorrupted biblical truths in this day and age.

I got this conference late in the evening and couldn't stop watching it. It was so informative and compelling and TRUE. I finished watching the conference early the next day. I have since ordered all of Emmerson's books and read and re-read them all. It has greatly helped me understand my husband and my relationship 100% better. Check out his loveandrespect website for more insight and information--it is like a light bulb swiched on for me and you can read some of his articles and testamonials if you are still not sure. I am trying to talk my husband into attending one of his conferences live. I cannot wait to get his new book coming out in January. If you are having any trouble, major or minor in your relationship, this WILL help you.

We are not even done watching this yet.... Our small group is doing this study right now and it is SO true, everything they say is the honest to God's truth. It so clearly illustrates why men and women are so different and we all think only our spouse does those odd things when it turns out that everyone deals with all of these issues all of the time. You are given insight into what the other sex thinks and feels and what you can do to improve the situation instead of making it worse. I know I want to be able to watch this again and again, so I guess I will have to buy my own copy of it. I highly encourage you to watch this series., your marriage is worth it.

My husband and I have been married for 25 years.

We've gone through counseling -- together and separately. I've taught an in-depth Biblical marriage course twice. We've gone through some rough times. Very rough. The last decade of marriage has finally been one of growth and communication.

That said...the Love and Respect course has recently taught us much. You'd think there wouldn't be moments of severe cluelessness after all the years and stuff we've gone through. Ha!

This concept is so simple. But it's not a band-aid.

If you can afford it, if YOU want to do what you can to help your marriage - then buy this set.

I haven't read the book, but I know there is one available, as well as an audio version that would be cheaper. Way less expensive than a session with a counselor, or another steak dinner filled with arguing and strife.

This study is down-to-earth, even non-threatening. But it is convicting. If you aren't willing to make the changes you need to enrich your marriage, then don't buy this. But if you want to stop crashing your head into a brick wall over the same issues - and you want to be part of the solution - get your hands on this series.

My wife and I were encouraged to attend this class at our church for married couples. We had no idea how great this class was going to be. Everyone should take the time to see this seminar on DVD or go to it in person. We have been blown away by all of the great information in it.

We both have friends who would not go to a church to attend a class like this. So we have decided to buy this set and show it to as many of our friends as we can.

My wife and I can't stress enough how much this seminar would help anyones marriage/relationship!!!

I went to the conference with my fiancée. We bought a copy of the DVDs to share with our friends and family who might not make it to a conference. We figured it'd be worth the money if it helped just one couple's marriage, because there's really no price you can put on a happy marriage.

Several couples at the conference told us how lucky we were to get to hear this at the beginning of our life together instead of 10 or 20 years down the road.

I don't think I've ever used the term 'changed my life', but the information here has done just that. The truths spoken are easily recognized and make an immediate impact. I wish every married couple could see these DVD's.

Love and Respect, by Emerson Eggerichs, is a lengthy DVD set that records a series of presentations given at a marriage seminar. This resource is a very insightful presentation of the unique needs of men and women and how to meet them.

The DVD is basically a video of a marriage conference - long lectures to a large crowd with workbooks. The speaker is very engaging and humorous, with plenty of real-life scenarios and examples. Some content could definitely be condensed into a shorter time-format.

* Energetic, engaging speaker
* Very humorous
* Lots of illustrations and examples
* Long - 5 DVDs, each 1.5 hours long!
* Minimal content rephrased in different ways over long period of time
* Breaks after 30 minutes for optional small group discussion
* Format: 1 person lecturing in a church auditorium
* Some unprofessional video (fuzzy or blurry shots, quick zoom)
* Audio is clear
* Sensitive to the unchurched, speaker became Christian as an adult
* Speaker has 30 years of preaching ministry and PhD
* Emphasizes good will of offending parties, non-Biblical approaches to marriages

Session 1 - The Crazy Cycle

The notebook accompanying the DVD series is a bit simplistic. (I wrote "love" and "respect" 4x each on the first page filling in the blanks.) With the exception of the application list accompanying DVD 4, the workbook has very minimal value other than listing many Scripture references and verses used to support the concepts.
The content in session 1 is very creative - the first time you hear it. For many Christians who have heard of Eggerichs illustrations before from radio presentations or sermons, this material is like a review of some basic groundwork - that men and women are different, communicate differently, and have different needs. Personally, I found little new information in DVD 1, but I still found it to be important enough to review. Besides, the presentation is almost entertaining, so I did not mind reviewing it.

Session 2 - The Energizing Cycle

This session is more application-based with more specific applications of how to use and apply the concepts of love/respect. DVD 2 is addressed to men, to help men know how to love their wives. It starts by emphasizing that it's good for men to be men and re-emphasizes sensitivity to the unchurched. There is a strong complementarian viewpoint at 50:00, emphasizing need for valuing men and countering the cultural elevation of feminine value. But he did this in the context of affirming the worth of women as well as the strengths of women's differences.

I felt that DVD 3 was the most unique contribution of this material. This session reviewed "how to energize your husband by meeting his needs." It approached marriage from a complementarian model and truly valued and esteemed the needs of men. I felt that he was actually speaking up in an anti-male culture and being pro-male without being anti-female.

The repetitiveness of the beginning turns out to be a pedagogical technique. Emerson continually refers to same themes, like "Your spouse has a need you don't have. Is that okay?" He clearly is trying to get people to remember his main emphases through repetition.

DVD 4 was given by Mrs. Eggerichs, and she summarized the specific ways men and women have asked to be loved or respected. Each letter for the acronym (COUPLE or CHAIRS) has three ways to act out each element. The applications are based on the responses Dr. Eggerichs has received from men and women who went through the seminar. This DVD was the least valuable in the set, as it could easily by summarized by the 2 pages in the handout (13-14). Mrs. Eggerichs' stories were not as witty, humorous, or insightful, but he is a tough act to follow. It was helpful to see Dr. Eggerichs' wife have a chance to speak, if for no other reason but to see if she would have the same view as Dr. Eggerichs. She did support his viewpoint and conclusions, echoing many of his statements.

Session 3 - The Rewarding Cycle

DVD 5 provides encouragement for couples to keep on doing love and respect even if there is little effect right away. Little new information is in this DVD. It's mainly an attempt to motivate someone to do a job "well done," as the marriage essentially reflects your love/respect for God. He also encourages someone to come to faith in Christ. He seems to be preparing people for real-life responses after the conference. He concludes by asking people to make a public commitment or decision .

If I was going to do this in a small group setting, I would have the first DVD watched in 1 session. This would require 1.5 hours of video, and there would not be a lot of discussion afterwards. But for DVDs 2 and 3, I would break it into the six 25-minute video sessions followed by 30 minutes of discussion. DVD 4 and 5 would be optional, but do not need to be broken up into the 25-minute sessions.

Overall, I highly recommend this resource for a church to purchase to use with couples in its congregation. The price tag ($145) makes the set impractical for individual purchase, but it could be used in a church setting or shared amongst a larger body.