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Love Is a Story: A New Theory of Relationships

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If you ever question why we fall in love, why we choose our romantic partners, why we stay in relationships, the author has answers that will shock and haunt you -- or at least that was what I found upon reading this book. And it all made sense, especially in the weeks after reading it, when I considered and reconsidered all that was said. Every possible love relationship is studied, and every possible explanation emerges. You will understand yourself more and understand others as well. Just fascinating, and as you practice what the author has preached, you'll start to discover that he is right.

Many couples end up with fight, conflict, or separation. Probably it is because they have different Love Stories which can not match perfectly. Robert J. Sternberg is a leading schalor on the psychology of love. Barrowing from the latest view of narrative psychotherapy approach, Sternberg uses qualitative study to interview people and finds out several kinds of common Love Stories. You may belong to one or more Stories. The most important implications of the book is that you have to find the right one whose love story matches yours. I find the ideas very useful in my work of counseling college students. Love and relationships are the core issues during this developmental stage. I recommend it to all who are troubled by their own intimate relationships. Counselors and therapists will also gain a lot of insight reading this book!

I love this book. It isn't THE answer but it fills in an essential part of the equation that we call "relationship." Sternberg gave me a great deal to think about and a new perspective on my own relationships.

As a Psychologist,I've been using this book with many of my clients. It is great for getting people to consider their own part in ongoing relationship problems (i.e. figuring out their own love story), as well as for helping people assess their partner's role in the problems (i.e. assessing their partner's love story). I am getting excellent feedback for my clients regarding the book's helpfulness.

I have recommended this book and given it as presents to people with broken and/or problematic relationships, and to young people considering new relationships. "Love is a Story" provides a different perspective to understanding relationships without accusations and remorse. The book allows one to review past and current relationships calmly and dispassionately.
However, unfortunately, most people prefer ego trips, finding scapegoats and blaming a partner. If you have already made your final analysis of your partner and your relationship, this book will probably not convince you that the situation is also part of your making and that there is a high possibility that your next relationship may follow a similar pattern.
But, if you are able to view objectively, the book will give you the means of analysing your part, your partner's part and the resulting story of the relationship, so that you may discuss things with your partner on the same basis and not fall into further traps.
I recommend the book strongly to psychologists, psychiatrists (not psychoanalysts)and people who are into new relationships (and have some doubts,) as well as amateur and professional life-coaches. You may find it fun to read and discuss with your partner even if you have a terrific relationship. It may give you a good feeling to be able to say, "This is our Story, isn't it wonderful!"

This book is awesome! I would recommend it to anyone. And the shipping speed was very fast as well.