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For Love

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"For Love" takes place over the course of a summer in Boston. Lottie is struggling with her second marriage and she's using the summer to figure out what she wants. She and her grown son Ryan spend the summer preparing her childhood home for sale, while her husband Jack stays home in Chicago. Meanwhile, her brother Cameron rekindles his high school romance (obsession) with Elizabeth, who has since married but has returned to her parents house down the block from Lottie, also deciding whether to leave her husband. Elizabeth, who was never nice to Lottie as a teenager, tries to befriend Lottie, putting her in the middle of a difficult relationship between her and Cameron.

Sue Miller's books tend to start the reader out in the middle of a story, and as the action progresses, we learn about the main character's past through flashbacks. She uses this technique here as well, and I think it generally works. In the first chapter, Cameron accidently runs over Elizabeth's au pair in a wild attempt to keep her from returning to her husband. That sets the stage to show us how this affects Lottie and what led to this event. Over the course of the book, we learn that Lottie met her second husband Jack while his wife was deeply ill and that their relationship is in many ways defined by the slow death of his wife. We learn that Lottie's father was arrested for embezzlement when she was a child, and she grew up with her alcoholic mother, both angry at her and guilty for being favored over Cameron. Yet Cameron has become the devoted one, looking after their mother as she deteriorates in the nursing home. We learn that Lottie takes pride in growing up without wealth, for having tacky taste, for not going the conventional route, and yet she chooses Jack, who is a doctor, with money and refined tastes. All of this (and more) figures in how Lottie eventually makes her decision and, perhaps, comes to accept herself.

This is my third book by Sue Miller, and like her others, it has interesting and complex characters and it has many insights about human behavior. But while I found Lottie's journey is interesting, this book didn't affect me as much as "While I Was Gone" or "The Good Mother." The story felt a little disjoint at times -- it seemed like if you put the story back in chronological order, there would be some important periods missing. I sometimes felt that I didn't understood Lottie's emotional development and the reasons she made the choices she did. At the end, although I expected Lottie to make the decision she did, I didn't really understand why from her point of view. Still, I liked Lottie's unconventional ways and I appreciated the emotional complexity of her character. It's not my favorite of Miller's book, but I wasn't sorry I read it.

For Love is a subdued, mature chronicle of a woman coming to terms with adult relationships. This book tells the story of Lottie, a woman haunted by her and her new husband's pasts. The tone is detached with the author perhaps purposefully distancing the readers from intense emotion. Themes in the book include love (of course) both romantic and familial, identity, loyalty, maturation, and conscious living. It is not a tale packed with action-- though it decidedly lures us with a "what will ever happen?" plot thread. Sue Miller nimbly and impressively weaves the plot back and forth through time and through the emotional state of the protaganist (Lottie). It is a first person account told in third person (hence the distancing). This device may be used to emulate the lack of connection and knowledge Lottie has with and of herself. This book presents the simple unfolding of a story completed with brilliant technique and subtlety. Would I recommend this book? Yes. It contains simple life truths which provoke soul searching and contemplation. To whom would I recommend it? Patient readers. Those willing to take the time to meander with the author and the protangonist through the often stream of consciousness narration. Was this book life changing for me? Yes. It helped me wrap my mind around two ideas that while very intuitive seemed very fresh and enrichming for me: 1) When we love people, that love will either stretch to include all different versions of them as they grow and change, or it won't... lasting love takes work in that regard. How is this work done? This leads me to idea # 2) Sometimes we have to pretend to love the changed version of a person we once loved (or pretend to embrace the true nature person who we idealized as something else) until that love can adapt and become a reality. Will this book change the way I live? It will change my perspective. If the book's philosophy is correct and thought follow actions... then yes... it will have changed my life. I enjoyed this book for it's unlikely marriage of depth and simplicity.

While I have liked some of Sue Miller's books ("The Good Mother" and "Inventing the Abbotts"), this one was very unsatisfying to me (as was "While I Was Gone"). I never felt that I knew the characters and because of this, could not understand their motivation. It was as though I was viewing them through a cloudy lens...the characterizatons just never were clear.

I tried to feel sympathy or even empathy for Lottie and Cameron, but could never muster any. They just never really engaged me as a reader.

Also, parts of their history and background seemed to be missing, as if lost in all of the changes of time that Miller used.

I will try "Family Pictures" next.....hope I can get more involved.

This book was so tedious and boring that I found it difficult to believe it was by the same author of "While I Was Gone." I didn't care about any of the characters; all were shallow and one-dimensional. None of them behaved like real people. And nothing happened! I didn't understand why Lottie felt disassociated from her husband, and I didn't understand Elizabeth at all. She was shrill and silly. I understand what the author was trying to say--I think--but it just didn't work. Too dense and wordy--which is fine when an author has something to say--but not when an author writes just for the sake of seeing her own words.

I made myself finish this because I had bought it. I bought it because I had previously bought and enjoyed "While I was Gone" but this book just didn't gel. It could have done with a lot of editing out of excess words and adding in of character development. Neither the characters nor action ever seemed to be wholly developed. I also felt that the jumps back in forth in time and the use of the present tense were done awkwardly - they came acoss as a creative writing experiment which really didn't help the story to move.

The relationships between the various characters weren't convincing and I failed to connect to the main character, Lottie, at all. The book seemed to ramble on, and didn't catch my interest. There were a few parts where the action picks up, but they were like tiny islands surrounded by a vast ocean of blandness.

All the characters in this book were shallow, selfish and boring. The writing was good but I could not relate to nor sympathize with any of the characters.

I have read Sue Miller before and enjoyed her books. The only reason I purchased this book is BECAUSE I knew her prior work. For some strange reason I felt very disconnected with the characters. I finished it because I spent hard earned money on it but I did not develop any empathy or sympathy for any of the characters. I thought it was so boring, I think I would have had more fun watching paint dry. I would not recommend it to anyone.

I made myself finish this because I had bought it. I bought it because I had previously bought and enjoyed "While I was Gone" but this book just didn't gel. It could have done with a lot of editing out of excess words and adding in of character development. Neither the characters nor action ever seemed to be wholly developed. I also felt that the jumps back in forth in time and the use of the present tense were done awkwardly - they came acoss as a creative writing experiment which really didn't help the story to move.

I had a really hard time with this book and I listened to the audio cassettes. It was a very long story about one incident, the wreck, that was drawn out way too long. This is my first taste of Sue Miller and I'm afraid my last. If you are bored and like to read about insignificant things such as how a person likes their tea or coffee, then this is the book for you.