Customer Reviews

Love Tactics

5 star:		(29)
4 star:		(6)
3 star:		(3)
2 star:		(3)
1 star:		(6)

 

 

People under 30 might think of this book as "The Art of 'The Game'". For those over 30 or not so well versed in slang, Love Tactics gives step-by-step, (or more accurately point-by-point) practical, and duplicatable advice to becoming more successful in dating.

However, don't be fooled by my simplification above . The book does not espouse that people need to "play games" in dating in order to be successful. In fact, it opens by explaining that a successful relationship must have respect, passion, and love. Then it goes on to explain how all 3 of those things can be achieved!

The book is clearly written. It is niether a dry textbook nor a rambling manifesto. Information is easy to find.

One of the best things I like about the book is the fact that the key points are headlined and a reader could improve their "tactics" by simply reading the headlined points, yet, for those of us who want to truly understand the process behind the tactics, each headline is then broken down into important points. The authors actually make reasonable explanations to accompany each headline.


Here is an example of how the 2nd chapter is broken-down:
## = my analytical note
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Title: Acting With Self-Assurance

Principle: People are most readily drawn to those who radiate a positive self-image.

Intro
- Vibes: An explanation of the phenomenae of "vibes" and how that relates to potential success in dating
## How often have you heard or said "I like their vibe" or "he/she just doesn't have a good vibe"?

Headlines
1. Be Nice to Yourself
- Give yourself credit
## As a perfectionist, I found this an especially good reminder

2. Identify Your Goals
a. Decide what you want.
b. Write down your goals.
c. Know your priorities
d. Attach a timeframe
e. Break your goals down into daily tasks

3. Relax
## A challenge many daters encounter. While the book obviously can't tell you how to relax, it gives a good perspective and also good reasoning as to why you should try

4. Talk with confidence
- Starting A Conversation
- Conversation Anxieties
- What to Say
- Small Talk
- "Bigger" Talk
- Conversation Summary

5. Know What You Want In A Prospective Mate

6. Plan Out Where To Meet Others
- On The Job
- Special Interest Groups
- Referrals Through Friends
- The Singles Scene
- Meeting Online
** The ABCs of Developing Internet Prospects
a. E-mail
b. Online chats
c. Phone conversations
d. Face-to-face meetings
## Not only does this part show that the authors are up-to-date on dating, but it also defines a clear process. As someone who has met and dated people I have met online, I personally discovered this process to be successful some time ago. That being said, I can say that the authors' ideas are accurate. So if you are interested in meeting someone online, it's usually best not to try to go straight from emails / notes to immediately trying to meet in person.

Closing and Summary:
- A Word (or Two) To The Shy
- Some Final Thoughts
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That is only the 2nd chapter!

Additionally, there is even a section on Winning Back the One You've Lost.

As someone who has studied interpersonal communication and relationships both academically and in my own personal life for years, most of this information was not new to me personally (though I would imagine for someone who was not so well-versed on "the game" it might be). However, even with my own prior knowledge of many of the topics in the book, it has been a great refresher for me.

If you look at my other book reviews, you see that I do not give out high-ratings easily. I whole-heartedly give this book 5 stars. Amust read both for people who are trying to "get the girl (or boy)" and for people who are trying to "keep the girl (or boy)".

First a caveat, no book or skill set can make everyone fall in love with you or turn you into Don Juan or Helen of Troy if you look like Quasimodo. If you are of average or above looks this book will help you keep the one you want. The authors break down a successful relationship into its constituent parts. They are friendship, respect and passion. The first two parts are about becoming a better person who can attract people to them. If you're a good solid friend whom people become emotionally dependant upon for support, you will attract people. The second part is about earning and keeping respect from other people. Ask yourself if you would want to be with a clingy desperate person with no self-confidence or self-esteem who can barely tie their shoelaces by themselves. So don't be one yourself. This book shows you how. The third part about creating passion is the controversial part. You do this through the scarcity principle. Passion is created by Hope and Doubt. This means you play easy to lose and is slightly different than playing hard to get. Playing hard to get short-circuits the hope that a person can get you and creates disinterest. Easy to lose creates the doubt that causes a person to constantly think about you. If you don't create the passion you will hear the phrase you're a nice guy/girl but... over and over again. The only weak spot is that the book is silent on shared values. This may be because those are set hard and you just have to look for and find the person who shares the same types of dreams, values and yes sense of humor as you do by seeing a number of people. This book will lead you through the rest and is why I give it my highest rating.
Additional books that are helpful in this area are Superflirt by Tracy Cox, Romance the (woman/man) you want by Lucy Sanna and Conversationally Speaking by Alan Garner.

I purchased this book about 6 months ago with the intent of winning the heart of someone special I had met two months previously. Before applying any of the techniques I read the book from cover to cover trying to get a feel for the concept of the book and the reasoning behind them. Once I had a feeling of where my relationship stood at that point in time, I began to experiment with various techniques as described in the book.

It is my opinion that no book can actually make someone fall in love with you. But a book can help you make the other person, the object of your desires, realise that they have feelings for you, if they indeed exist below the surface.

Patience is required, however. Some of the techniques in this book take weeks or longer to play out effectively. But trust me, they do work.

And, while the object of my affections has yet to declare her love for me, I can see the day coming and have this book to thank for helping me not blow everything by being impatient.

This is truly a great book and I highly recommend it!

I have not read this book for almost ten years, but I recently referred it to an internet friend having trouble in her relationship. I too wanted to marry my boyfriend who was not of the same mind. We broke up and he was with another woman for about six weeks.

I swore I would never resort to such games, but, I thought... one last shot. I really loved him. I followed the book. I guess he really loved me too, but, he just didn't know it at the time. We have been happily married for nine years this September. This love has survived despite all odds ( financial problems and the Brady Bunch (combined family). The passion is still there and we have a really good bond. We were honest with each other. I also prayed to God to do what would make him happy and I didn't want him if it wasn't right for him as well. I dont remember the first one or two chapters being particularly useful for me but the majority of the book was right on target.So, to the person who thought it was only for lust not love...you were wrong. I am as crazy about him to day as I was then. One of our children is getting married this year and I hope that they will be as close and committed as us. BUY THE BOOK

...If your looking for a meaningful long term romantic relationship then this is the book for you.

This book explains everything that is misunderstood about true love. It emphasizes building a foundation of friendship and respect, and in time romance. It even explains how to get the coldest people to warm up to you.

This book shows how "love is a predictable human response". If your a logical person, this book explains love in logical terms. Or actions and reactions.

If your looking for help on how to inspirer and maintain a long term relationship, then this is the book for you.

I am a professional therapist and I can say without doubt I have made more money using the techniques in this book than any other. Simple to understand yet powerful in what they produce. If you are looking for a book that cuts through all the extra and gives you page after page of just the good stuff, then this is the one. If you do what they suggest it will take a while (more than 2 weeks), but I have seen first hand the results in many of my single clients!

I first read this book several years ago during what turned out to be a failed relationship. I've read and re-read this book and realized my mistakes. I didn't follow all the principles and I got burned. I've learned from my mistakes and am using the principles (all of them!) in a new relationship that is working out just fine! I recommend this book to anyone who wants to find and create love with a certain someone.

I read this book at what seemed the worst time in my life when it came to relationships. It was very uplifting, and challenged me to use the tactics described. I used them on a girl who I thought was an ideal candidate for marriage- but who only liked me as a friend. I hung in there and aggresively used the strategies and tips the book offered, and eventually she became interested in me romantically. We dated for four years and now we are married. Trust me when I say that without this book, I would still be single and completely oblivious to what I was doing wrong! It might not happen overnight, but if you take this book seriously and have the patience to follow through and hang your head high even in the face of rejection, you will succeed!

This is really an excellent book loaded with practical advice for creating and maintaining relationships. Contrary to a previous review, the authors do not contradict themselves. The book is divided into chronological steps. It may not be appropriate to try and sympathize with someone you just met whereas later, when your relationship is advancing, some sympathy can comfort the one you love. Some of the tactics might not be appropriate in every relationship but the game of love is not set in stone. This book merely provides suggestions to help you along the way. A worthwhile book.

If it seems that Love is a game where everyone knows the rules except you - this book will enlighten you!

If you've been stuck in a pattern of less than happy relationships - this book will show you how to break the pattern!

Many people are put off by the idea of using tactics to win love, but that is no different than using the tactic of combing your hair before going out on a date: there are simply things you can do to improve your chances of making a love connection, and this book will show you how.

I practically memorised Love Tactics and the sequel five years ago, and almost immediately met a wonderful woman from Australia. We have been living together here now for almost 3 years and will be marrying soon.

Change your love life - read this book!