"This is a useful and friendly guide to negotiating the changing rules of gay dating. Think of Love in the Time of HIV as a travel book. Mancilla and Troshinsky offer seven chapters of culturally sensitive advice for moving through a now-dark, now-bright country--where the rules and customs are constantly shifting with the uneasy terrain, and the smiles and stares of the inhabitants are to be read in turns with caution and hopeful abandon. A Baedeker for the weary and wary, Love in the Time of HIV, like all good guides, delivers on both the personal and practical levels. Stories from the road, including Mancilla's own anecdotes, keep the journey in constant motion and show a vulnerability and familiarity with the field which seronegative tour organizers would probably lack. And the many valuable resources included alone make this book worth the cover price."--Edmund White, author of A Boy's Own Story and coauthor of The Joy of Gay Sex
"This powerful book captures the complexities of relationships and sexuality for those living with HIV and those who love them. Although the disease is no longer seen as a 'death sentence,' it still has a tremendous impact on many men's lives. Mancilla helps readers navigate complicated issues and dilemmas and find the love and intimacy they want."--Vincent J. Lynch, MSW, PhD, Boston College Graduate School of Social Work
"Mancilla writes poignantly about love and intimacy, talking about his personal experiences as well as those of clients and others he met in his research. This book touches on many of the important issues that face gay men in the age of HIV: meeting, making connections, sex, dating, rejection, and commitment. A truly valuable contribution."--Daniel W. Hicks, MD, Department of Psychiatry, Georgetown University Hospital
"Over 20 years into the HIV/AIDS epidemic, this book is long overdue. It is a welcome gift for men venturing into the much-altered and challenging realms of dating, romance, love, and committed relationships. I highly recommend this wise, insightful, and useful resource."--Michael Shernoff, MSW, Columbia University School of Social Work and private practice, New York, NY
"Love in the Time of HIV provides a range of useful and accessible information for all gay men, regardless of their serostatus. Practical knowledge, cultural insights, guidance, and personal sharing round out a very complete resource for those seeking to navigate the complex world of modern dating and relationships. The author identifies and explores many facets of gay relationships with great concern, humor and understanding (such as having an HIV-negative author write the chapter for HIV-negative men). This book offers almost every gay man an opportunity to revisit dating and come away with an enriched perspective."--Lin Maslow, RN, HIV Clinical Research Nurse, San Francisco, CA
"Love in the Time of HIV insightfully examines the way that HIV has led gay men to rethink the nature of their relationships. Michael Mancilla and Lisa Troshinsky intelligently explore HIV-positive culture as an enclave within the larger gay world, while also demonstrating how HIV has saturated all levels of consciousness. Their sensitively crafted book brings welcome and long-overdue attention to a topic that should interest all students of queer culture."--Patrick Brennan, PhD, Humanities Department, Macon State College, Macon, GA
About the Author
Lisa Troshinsky is a writer and editor in Washington, DC. She has reported on HIV/AIDS and gay and lesbian issues for The Washington Blade, The Houston Chronicle, and United Press International.