Love Tune-Ups: 52 Fun Ways to Open Your Heart and Make Sparks Fly [Paperback]

Matthew McKay (Author), Carole Honeychurch (Author), Angela Watrous (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 9, 2002

Even the best relationships need care to maintain their peak performance. Whether a relationship is experiencing bumps in the road or it's just time for a little preventative maintenance, this guide offers weekly activities for enhancing intimacy, bridging communication gaps, spending more quality time, and strengthening your bond. Psychologist Matthew McKay teams up with relationship experts to make sure that each of their suggestions feels like fun and is based on the kinds of tested strategies that help keep couples happy with each other. Each tune-up offers specific tips that can be put into practice straight away, including ideas for exchanging daily compliments, sharing old pictures, reminiscing, getting out for some vista gazing, exchanging fantasies, setting up weekly "check-ins", and engaging in exercises that build trust.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Covering little new ground but charming nonetheless, this relationship book proposes tips that can be used even outside romantic relationships. In two- or three-page chapters, the authors give advice for strengthening interpersonal ties. Little pick-me-ups include giving daily compliments and leaving trifling love notes, sharing old pictures and even planning a scavenger hunt for your sweetheart.

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About the Author

Matthew McKay, Ph.D. is clinical Director of Haight-Ashbury Psychological Services. He lives in Berkeley, California. Carole Honeychurch, M.A., is a freelance writer. She lives in Oakland, California. Angela Watrous is a freelance writer. She lives in Sa Lorenzo, California. The suggestions and strategies gathered here are inspiring and fun to do - and they are based on tested cognitive that have been shown to keep couples together.

Product Details

• Paperback: 130 pages
• Publisher: New Harbinger Publications; 1 edition (January 9, 2002)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1572242744
• ISBN-13: 978-1572242746
• Product Dimensions: 7 x 7 x 0.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.7 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,150,795 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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5.0 out of 5 stars Sweet AND Spicy, March 24, 2002

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M. Pellie "melliepellie" (Berkeley, CA USA) - See all my reviews

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I just loved this book. I've been with my boyfriend for five years, and our relationship's strong -- but sometimes we get into ruts or start to take each other for granted. This book gave us practical, immediately usable activities to help bring us closer and enjoy time together in new ways. I've been learning stuff about him that I didn't even know! I'm so grateful to the authors for coming up with this idea. Thanks!

5.0 out of 5 stars YAY to ever-lasting relationship, July 8, 2010

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This book is amazing. The scenarios that it gives you as examples you encounter in a relationship and how to change those moments into something witty and fun; just for you and your lover to share is just great. The ideas are phenomenal. I recommend this book to everyone! I actually got it from the library and now i ordered it. trust me you will love it. Men and women alike.

5.0 out of 5 stars Useful advice for improving any relationship, April 22, 2002

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Blaine Greenfield "eclectic reader" (Belle Meade, NJ) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Love Tune-Ups: 52 Fun Ways to Open Your Heart and Make Sparks Fly (Paperback)

The premise behind LOVE TUNE-UPS by Matthew McKay,
Carole Honeychurch and Angela Watrous is simple; i.e., there
are simple things we can all do to improve any
relationship . . . however, that is often easier said than done.

Yet the authors make it seem doable and present (using the
subtitle): "52 Fun Ways to Open Your Heart & Make Sparks
Fly."

I view the book as a cookbook of sorts . . . that is, you can
pick and choose what you wanted to try from such sections as
Show Me Love, Get a Little Closer, Work Out the Kinks, Add
Some Sizzle, and The Best of Times.

There's nothing overly profound here--or perhaps even
original . . . yet that does not stop me from strongly
recommending it . . . we all need some reminders, from time
to time, and you'll get them here--presented in a loving
and playful fashion.

Among the many memorable passages:
[to get more detail when asking, "How was your day, dear?"]
The next night while they were cooking dinner, Marc

asked Allen how his day went, and Allen replied, "Oh, it was
pretty good, I guess." "What were the best and worst
moments of your day today?" Marc asked, not looking up
from the spinach he was washing. "Oh, I get it. Is this a
new tradition we're starting?" Allen teased, but when Marc
just nodded and smiled, Allen said, "Well, let me think.
The low point was probably when I got stuck in traffic
for an extra forty-five minutes on my way to work,
and I almost missed this really important meeting
and I was all stressed out. . . . And the high point was when
I went to lunch with Sue. She's so funny!"

[steps for accepting behaviors that drive you crazy]
* What things does your partner commonly do that really bug you? What do you try to change about your partner? Choose one.

* Now try to acknowledge that your partner is different from you, and, as a result, will naturally do things differently. Consider that there is no "right" way to do things, just preferences formed by many different factors.

* Finally, make a conscious decision to accept the behavior
that had been bugging you. Acknowledge the difference and
accept it. And, the next time your partner does this behavior,
make an effort to think back to your decision and accept with love.

[making a creativity date]
Many people feel that they do not have enough time for their
relationships or for exploring their creative spirits. Why not combine these two deficits and have time for both by enjoying a creativity date with your partner? You can either do one activity together, or each spend time engaging in a different favorite creative activity side by side. Creating with your partner can make you feel alive, because you're nurturing a part of yourself and your relationship that may often be neglected--the creative side. And as you share the creative part of your relationship, you'll be nurturing your relationship too.