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"Mom can you get out that yellow book again....", April 27, 2005
This review is from: I Love You Rituals (Paperback)
is something I hear just about every day. My six and three year old love - absolutely love - the finger plays and songs from this book. The negative, frightening themes from nursery rhymes are removed and replaced with loving positive words and images.
There was an old woman who lived in a shoe becomes:
There was a wonderful woman who lived in a shoe
She had so many children she knew exactly what to do
She fed them and hugged them and tucked them in bed
I love you, I love you is what she said.
that's just one short snip of a book chock full of ideas surrounding saying goodbye, reconnecting when picking up (after school, playdates, overnights etc). There are little rituals for birthdays, bedtimes, transitional times (think new baby).
I just can't say enough positive things about this book. When my kids are or I am in a funk and we're both being oppositional, this reconnects us. Connected people *want* to cooperate. Connected people *want* to be a part of the family. Connected people *want* to help. It just can turn things around for us in an instant.
while this was the first Becky Baily item I bought, she's since become my favorite parenting author. I found _Easy to Love, Dificult to Discipline_ a bit of a bore to read (and I can usually slog through anything), so I bought all 11 of her CD's (her lectures on CD) from beckybailey.com They've been nothing short of incredible.
oh, and I strongly disagree with the person who mentioned that 'it's too specific' and only for families who foster or adopt. I really can't imagine why it would only be for those situations. It would work for anyone: parent of bio children, adopted children, foster children....teachers and theirstudents.. ...grandparents.. ...babysitters. anyone who wants to help kids feel connected and loved.
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12 of 12 people found the following review helpful:
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Wonderful book for all kids and moms!, August 14, 2001
This review is from: I Love You Rituals (Paperback)
I just purchased this book after having been recommended it by a leading expert on kids with attachment/severe trauma problems. It is wonderful, easy to read and makes much sense from a clinician's and parent's perspective.
I recommend it to all with young children, it is full of nurturing and fun activities with full explanations and rationale. Certainly a must buy for any adoptive/foster parent to increase trust, attachment, and bonding.
Kandice J.
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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars
A Joy Recharge, February 24, 2006
This review is from: I Love You Rituals (Paperback)
The first three chapters alone are well worth the price. Dive in with an open mind. I usual wince when authors are out to save the world (the last statement in Chapter 1 is "The healing of ourselves, of each other, of our children, and of society begins one bond at a time.") but I put that aside and really was moved by the view the author gives.
I put "Noticing" (pg 31) to the test immediately, and was amazed at the reaction from my 2 year-old (a recent adoptive placement) as well as a young playmate in the park (his dad was busy chatting on his cell phone). Using her technique defintely brought a more relaxed and joyful response than "yeah, great!" and the other examples she gives of typical parent responses.
That said, I haven't made much use of the rituals. Most are beyond the needs of my toddler, and I haven't found one I was willing to try with my 11 year-old.
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