I Love You, but I'm Not IN Love with You: Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship [Paperback]

Andrew G. Marshall (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 1, 2007

If the relationship you have with your significant other is defined more by companionship than passion . . . if you love each other deeply but are not deeply in love . . . if you feel that something's missing or is no longer there . . . then you could be experiencing ILYB (I Love You, But . . .).

In I Love You, but I'm Not in Love with You --a real-life relationship guide from couples' counselor Andrew G. Marshall--partners and individuals who have 'fallen out of love' or want to rekindle the love that once was will learn how to use Marshall 's program with impressive results.

This is a much-needed book to help men and women of all ages in any type of committed romantic relationship to truly understand love and to point out the everyday habits that undermine growing together. Marshall's research is one of the few that delves into what causes relationships to 'cool' or for emotions to be 'dulled.' So much more than a quick-fix guide, I Love You, but I'm Not In Love with You empowers couples to emerge with a better understanding of themselves and each other, and ultimately build a stronger, more passionate bond.

Learn how to:

• Argue productively and address the core of the issue

• Employ the trigger words for more effective communication

• Find a balance between being fulfilled as an individual and being one half of a couple

• Discover if the ILYB is simply a symptom of a workable problem

• Take your sex life to a deeper level of intimacy

• Create new bonds instead of searching for the old ones

Editorial Reviews

Review

'It addresses this problem with sensitivity, depth and intelligence, with advice on how to recreate intimacy while retaining a sense of self. Marshall firmly believes that falling out of love does not mean the end of a relationship. His insightful advice makes it hard to disagree' Psychologies Magazine --This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

About the Author

Andrew G. Marshall is a marital therapist with twenty years experience. He works for RELATE, the UK’s leading couple-counseling charity, and writes on relationships for The Times, Observer and Sunday Express. Dr. Marshall is also the president of the British Men's Counseling Association and a frequent contributor to stressbusting.co.uk, a relationship counseling website.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 288 pages
• Publisher: HCI (June 1, 2007)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0757305482
• ISBN-13: 978-0757305481
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.2 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (14 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #81,194 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Andrew G Marshall is the UK's best known marital therapist and an expert on why people fall out of love and how to save your relationship. His work has been translated into twenty different languages and US edition of 'I love you but I'm not IN love with you' has been specially expanded with extra information about sexual desire.

You can find out more about Andrew, his work and ask questions at his website: www.andrewgmarshall.com

Customer Reviews

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18 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A hard book for me to read, February 14, 2010

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James H. Stewart III "Jeddak" (Carrollton, TX) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: I Love You, but I'm Not IN Love with You: Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship (Paperback)

This is a hard book to read. My wife left, and, just as is very clearly explained in the book, me, the man, didn't have a clue. I found this book because the title is the exact phrase that she used as she walked out. Now, my life is dedicated to being a person that can she can be in love with again.
But, the book is hard. I am in there. I can't say how many times I was reading and simply had to put the book down until the tears stopped. It was me I was reading about, and I simply never knew what I had been doing, and even more, not doing.
I hope I haven't learned too late.

10 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars good mix of data and prescriptive exercises, July 23, 2007

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A. K. Beltaine "UU Seminary Student" (Ithaca, NY USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: I Love You, but I'm Not IN Love with You: Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship (Paperback)

It is fairly short. I read it in a couple hours. However, we'll definitely be going back through the book to do some of the exercises. I found the research useful and well presented. (Thanks for including many types of couples, non-cliche couples will not feel left out.)
I hope the exercises prove to be as useful.
I found the title off-putting, and it created a short-lived crisis in our house. But I think the book will work as "marriage enrichment" which is why I bought it (Not to announce that we were through, which is what the title implies.) So, prep your spouse that the book will be useful for helping you STAY together, and make the relationship better, then buy it and use it.

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars have to give it a full 5 stars, June 21, 2011

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this book is very unique because it doesn't address common problems such as "we argue too much" or "i hate him/her"...it is one of the few resources for couples who don't argue enough, or who love each other but are looking for some "feeling" they no longer feel. this book tells it like it is and opens the eyes to relationship realities. should be required reading at the altar.