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Kathleen McInerney's reading as first-person narrator Ellen is sensitive, nuanced and multilayered, laying bare the conflicting emotions and contradictions in Ellen's heart as she's torn between her loving husband and the old flame seeking to rekindle their former romance. She sounds like she's genuinely thinking out loud, her voice tinged with guilt as she searches for the right words to articulate her confused feelings. McInerney is also spot-on when it comes to adapting vocal directions from the text itself. Listeners are told at various times that a character's voice is weary and very wary or that he speaks wryly, with a suppressed smile in his voice. In every case, McInerney's reading conveys exactly what the text calls for. This excellent production brings out the best in the book. A St. Martin's hardcover (Reviews, Mar. 17). (June)
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Giffin's talent lies in taking relatable situations and injecting enough wit and suspense to make them feel fresh. The cat-and-mouse game between Ellen and Leo lights up these pages, their flirtation as dangerously addictive as a high-speed car chase. (People)

Giffin is a dependably down-to-earth, girlfriendly storyteller. (New York Times)

Giffin excels at creating complex characters and stories that ask us to explore what we really want from our lives. LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH skillfully explores the secret workings of a young woman's heart, and the often painful consequences of one's actions. (The Atlanta Journal-Constitution)

Giffin's fluid storytelling and appealing characters give her novels a warm, inviting air, and her fourth is no exception. Giffin's snappy prose makes Ellen's dilemma compelling, once again proving she's at the top of the pack. (Booklist)

Though it's easy to resent Ellen for taking her ideal life for granted, Giffin's vivid depictions of Ellen's steamy past with Leo help you commiserate with this realistically insecure woman. (Entertainment Weekly)

Giffin's books are funny, sensitive and truthful depictions of female friendships and the complexities of marriage and motherhood. (Atlanta Peach)

Ellen's conflicting thoughts and emotions ring true from page one through the book's teary (well, at least for this reader) conclusion. (Ft. Worth Star-Telegram)

Giffin's book is instantly relatable. Few don't wonder how their lives would be different if they had turned left rather than right at life's big forks. Her writing is realistic and entertaining. There are unexpected plot twists and measured jabs at materialism and Southern societal norms, and Giffin's funny, honest voice lends credence to this modern riff on the old adage that the grass appears greener on the other side of the fence. (Charlotte Observer)

I so loved Emily Giffin's last three books that I almost didn't want to crack her latest effort, for fear it would be the Superman IV of the author's literary opus. Mercifully, the new book not only lives up to its elegantly constructed predecessors, it arguably surpasses them in style, maturity, emotion and overall relatability. An achingly honest look at the notion of love as the sum of our choices as opposed to the contents of our vows. (Edmonton Journal)

Giffin's books are smart, sad and witty . . . Giffin is bold enough to allow a mainstream heroine to be happily married while still maintaining her curiosity about the road (or the guy) not taken, let alone considering infidelity. And she's able to show the strains that these considerations take on family, friends and husband . . . It's the difference between appealing to a mass audience and a reader who wants her ideals challenged rather than affirmed, often intentionally ending in ambiguity and compromise. It's the stuff of real life, stripped of literary pretensions. (National Post)

Who hasn't fantasized about what might have happened if? Giffin does an excellent job of letting us live that one out vicariously while telling us a story that is so modern, multi-layered and moving that you'll feel a little sad when it comes to a close. (Gentry magazine)

Giffin is a masterful storyteller and manages to infuse energy, freshness and suspense into what could have been yet another predictable 'woman-at-a-crossroads' story. (Giffin could, in fact, teach some literary authors a few things about how to write compelling plots with strong motors.) The best thing about this book is Giffin doesn't play it safe or shy away from allowing her heroine to explore lust, infidelity and the road not taken. The dichotomy of passion and comfort, lust and security, is nothing new to literature, and yet in Giffin's deft hands, I really had no idea who Ellen would wind up with until the very last page, and more important, I actually cared. (The Globe and Mail)

This sweet tale satisfies through well-drawn characters who are forced to make some tough real-life decisions. (Star)

Love that's clouded by the memory of an old romantic relationship is the subject of Emily Giffin's aptly titled LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH. Readers will follow Ellen with fascination and trepidation as she enters the dangerous waters of what might have been--or still could be. (Hartford Courant)

LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH is a delicious novel for anyone ever caught between what is right and what is irresistible. (Bookpage)

Giffin delivers another relatable and multifaceted heroine who may behave unexpectedly but will ultimately find her true path. (Library Journal)

Giffin's fourth novel demonstrate much depth as she explores the conflicts that arise between passion and common sense. (Kansas City Star)

For anyone who has wondered about the path not taken. Thought-provoking . . . and perfect for an afternoon in the sun. (New York Resident)

Giffin has a remarkable gift for taking banal relationship issues and infusing them with life through her characters. LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH is Giffin's most moving book yet. The romantic tension hangs off the pages like webs, trapping the characters as they attempt to live conventional lives. As always, Giffin's writing will leave you fully satiated. (Woodbury magazine)

Emily Giffin delivers the characters and stories we love in her fourth novel. (OK! magazine)

Giffin's characters are all quite likable, and this book is full of fun New York details and musings on the human condition that are more insightful than many books. (Minneapolis Star-Tribune)

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Product Details

  • Paperback: 353 pages
  • Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin (April 21, 2009)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0312348665
  • ISBN-13: 978-0312348663
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 1 x 8.3 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 11.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (607 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #52,286 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Emily Giffin is a graduate of Wake Forest University and the University of Virginia School of Law. After practicing litigation at a Manhattan firm for several years, she moved to London to write full time. The author of six New York Times bestselling novels, Something Borrowed, Something Blue, Baby Proof, Love The One You're With, Heart of the Matter, and Where We Belong, she lives in Atlanta with her husband and three young children. Visit

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51 of 57 people found the following review helpful By Melissa N. VINE VOICE on May 17, 2008
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On the surface, Ellen Graham appears to have the perfect life. She has a successful career as a photographer and is married to Andy, a wealthy lawyer who's a fantastic guy and also happens to be the brother of Ellen's best friend, Margot. Several months after Ellen and Andy's wedding, Ellen is going about her business on the streets of New York City when she bumps into Leo, her ex-boyfriend. Ellen hasn't seen or spoken to Leo in years, but as soon as she sees him again, she can't stop thinking about him. Eventually Ellen is forced to decide if what she had with Leo so long ago is worth fighting for, or if she truly belongs with the man she walked down the aisle with.

I always enjoy Emily Giffin's books, and "Love the One You're With" is no exception. Ellen is a very relatable character. I think a lot women encounter their own Leo at some point in their lives, a man who's difficult to completely let go of, for one reason or another. However, the book was very predictable right from the start, and it was pretty obvious how everything would turn out. (There's no such thing as an unhappy ending in an Emily Giffin book!) The ending in itself seemed rather rushed, in my opinion, and I would have enjoyed a longer Ellen/Margot reconciliation scene at the end: Their friendship was a major part of the book, and the resolution between the two characters took up less than three pages at the end of the novel. Still, I enjoyed this book from beginning to end and could not put it down.
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169 of 199 people found the following review helpful By Benjamin on May 28, 2008
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I am an Emily Giffin fan. I am an unabashed, unashamed Emily Giffin fan. Her books pull me in the way a good date does, attracting me with a glossy exterior but keeping me interested by revealing a surprising depth.

LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH contains the usual smart, charmed female protagonist living in a rather romanticized version of New York. But, in the first chapter, Giffin does something different. She introduces us to the main character's tempting dilemma - a charged encounter on the street with a hot, old boyfriend - before even telling us her name.

The character's name is Ellen. She's so analytical that she's practically obsessive compulsive. And she spends a lot of LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH debating what she should - and should not - do about her cute, sweet husband Andy and her smoldering, brooding, dark and troubled ex-boyfriend Leo.

While Ellen's happy with Andy, she keeps thinking, "What if?"

This is the central problem of many a novel, but Giffin manages to hook the reader in with - dare I say it - some of the most erotic, intriguing flashbacks to Ellen's former relationship with Leo.

The husband Andy is a charming character, but, in Ellen's shoes, I would totally bang Leo. Giffin writes him as though he exudes sex through his eyes, through his pores. It's all very hard to resist.

And, it must be said, the inclusion of those scenes alongside many snarky references to my hometown of Atlanta kept me very entertained.

Strangely though, instead of flying all the way through it as I usually do, I flew through to Chapter Ten or so, then found myself taking a small break from it to concentrate on other things.
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92 of 114 people found the following review helpful By Kharabella on May 19, 2008
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Not my favorite of Ms. Giffen's books, but interestingly, it is the book that I have been most able to relate to. I understand Ellen's need to understand and process, and ulimately resolve, the difference between the love she feels for her husband, and the love she feels/felt for her ex. I think that the book's realistic yet affirming take on love marriage and commitment is a welcome read for the so called "chick lit" genre.

At the same time, I lost patience with Ellen by page 75. By page 158, I was almost angry with her for taking so long to figure it out. By page 215, I simply vowed to finish the book by the end of the day, and get it over with. Lucky for me, the ending was sweet, and everyone that mattered was happy.

I think the problem is that there was not enough action and plot, and most of the characters -- the ones that I most wanted to learn about -- were kind of flat and one-dimensional. Overall, a good read, and I will buy Ms. Giffen's next book the week it comes out as well.
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11 of 11 people found the following review helpful By Danielle N. Redfield on July 23, 2008
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loved this book! emily griffin is a great writer.....i loved soomething borrowed and something blue, so when i saw this one out, i had to buy it. the ending is a total surprise and i loved it. it made me believe in true love again! great writing!
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13 of 14 people found the following review helpful By K. Hill on June 16, 2008
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Emily is just a wonderful writer! I have been waiting for this book to come out and it did not disappoint. She allows her readers to connect so well. I could not put this book down and my college roommates could not wait til I finished so they too could get their hands on it.
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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful By Amanda Wiegand on August 31, 2008
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This book is one of my top 3 favorites of all time. Any woman that has had a serious relationship (with a man or woman) will relate with Ellen and her feelings for Leo and Andy.
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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful By lusty22 on May 2, 2009
Format: Paperback
Wow, I just finished reading this latest Giffin novel in less than a 24 hour period. I could not put it down. I have read all of her others, and to me this one is the very best yet. I LOVED it. I can't believe all the negative reviews and am shocked to see that many readers did not connect with Ellen. I loved Ellen and found her completely charming. I was not only able to relate to Ellen, but to her story as well. Many parts of it could have been my own and so I found it to be understandable and touching. I was really moved(at times to tears) by Giffin's ability to lay bare the bones of such a situation. I am sure many women have found themselves in a crossroads between two men. Loving two men at the same time for different reasons and having to choose one is not something that is easy or that can be taken lightly, especially with an entire family involved. I have had to make such a choice myself and was impressed with how dead-on accurate Ellen's feelings were depicted by Giffin. Being a woman that finds herself in this heartbreaking scenario should'nt cause such judgement and criticism from other women. I don't agree that Ellen was spoiled or felt entitled in any way. She grew up in a blue-collar enviroment and often felt out of place in the Graham's lifestyle. She knew she had a good thing with Andy, and she appreciated him. She and Leo had shared something intense and she longed to define it. She felt like she could'nt really move on until she did. Was it true love or just lust? She knew she loved Andy, but she wanted to be sure she had taken the right path. Don't we all wonder what if at some point in our lives? She had'nt been given a choice. Margot took that away from her by keeping the fact that Leo had stopped by the apartment after the break-up.Read more ›
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