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Be Loved for Who You Really Are: How the Differences Between Men and Women Can Be Turned into the Source of the Very Best Romance You'll Ever Know [Paperback]

Judith Sherven (Author), James Sniechowski (Author)
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July 18, 2003
Based on their sixteen years together as relationship trainers working with over 100,000 singles and couples, Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski have developed a truly new and original way to approach relationships. Be Loved for Who You Really Are describes the four passages of love and shows how differences between partners can be a rich source of deep intimacy, enhancing instead of destroying a relationship. Readers learn to recognize, understand, and value differences as the secret to keeping love, passion, and real romance alive for a lifetime.

Judith and Jim provide many inspiring examples that show how real love lives between two people, and how differences are at the heart of the deepest connection being together has to offer.

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At a time when it's popular to believe men and women come from different planets, the husband and wife psychology team of Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski takes a far different approach in Be Loved for Who You Really Are. Using case histories, examples, and exercises from their own marriage and 14 years as relationship trainers, the authors suggest that individual and sex differences are not the source of relationship problems. Instead, they assert that true intimacy can be found in mapping and acknowledging differences as relationships ripen with time. You can't hurry love, say Shervan and Sniechowski, who counsel couples to understand four predictable passages to lasting love. These passages include "A glimpse of what is possible," "The clash of differences," "The magic of differences," and "The grace of deep intimacy." In each stage, couples are discouraged from hiding their differences or manipulating their partner to change, and rather are persuaded to encounter each other in genuine, unguarded ways. The book would have been strengthened with less New Age vocabulary and more examples from the authors' marriage, but overall, this is a wise and intriguing guide to creating a lasting love. --Barbara Mackoff --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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A husband-and-wife psychology team, the authors are well known for their show on Wisdom Radio, appearances on TV talk shows, magazine columns, web site participation, and previous book, The New Intimacy. Here they present a blueprint for what they call "the arc of love." They detail the four passages through which real, mature love between two people progresses, highlighting how the differences between men and women can enhance rather than destroy a relationship. Anecdotes from their own 15-year marriage and from the lives of people they have counseled are used to illustrate their points. Replete with suggestions for further reflection or activities, the narrative tends to have a spiritual, New Age flavor. Love is often personified, and a higher power or spirit is referenced throughout, though no particular doctrine is espoused. The section describing the importance of conflict and its place in a relationship includes a warning about abuse. Given the proposed national media campaign, which will include appearances on Oprah, The View, and other popular media outlets, this book should generate demand. For public libraries' self-help collections. Margaret Cardwell, Christian Brothers Univ., Memphis
Copyright 2001 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

Product Details

  • Paperback: 304 pages
  • Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin; 1st edition (July 18, 2003)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0312313187
  • ISBN-13: 978-0312313180
  • Product Dimensions: 8.6 x 5.5 x 0.8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 9.9 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (13 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #728,901 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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14 of 15 people found the following review helpful
Format:Hardcover
Reading this book is like journeying to the most exciting "school of life" imaginable -- to learn painlessly, thoroughly, and once and for all, about making love work.

Understanding the five stages of love, as explained by Doctors Sherven and Sniechowski, will help you more in your daily life than anything you've ever read, seen or experienced. This time you're going to get what you need. It's thrilling. And it works.

I've read this book so many times, that my mind automatically goes back to it whenever I get to a troubled point in my marriage. But don't troubled times in a marriage vanish after reading this book? Uh uh. This book is about human beings, not ethereal spiritual creatures. The point is, though, that being troubled about inevitable differences between two people DOES vanish. And that frees you up to actually work on your differences and find a way to turn them into greater intimacy.

Be Loved for Who You Really Are is so different from anything else I've read. It's lively as hell and anything but pedantic. The authors are people first, doctors second. They put themselves into the book. That means, right from the outset, you aren't alone. They're right there with you -- sympathizing, empathizing, encouraging, supporting -- and most important -- guiding and informing.

I love the underlying theme of this book; you can't fail at love. That isn't hype. The book lets you see how, if you put yourself out there in a real and clear way, you might not always get the results you want, but you won't fail. You won't let yourself down.

Read this book if greater intimacy is one of your most important goals. This is a brilliant, simple and wondrous roadmap to how to give yourself the greatest gift of all -- being loved for who you are.

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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful
Never fail at Love?! February 14, 2002
By KG
Format:Hardcover
This is not your run of the mill "how to" book on love, but a book that guides you through the spiritual journey of how to love and to be loved. The authors share personal anectodes, and stories of other couples, which helps brings the book to a real personal level. They send the message that, if you honor your self and others, you can never really fail at love...what a beautiful thing!
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
By Dr Nita
Format:Hardcover
This book is a refreshing alternative if you are worn out from trying to change, mold, or manipulate yourself or someone else into being what you want in order to fit your romantic picture. The four part model takes the reader through the stages to help learn to embrace rather than resist differences between people in intimate relationships. Jim and Judith, a married couple, use examples from their own marriage as well as cases from their practice to teach us how to discuss and appreciate differences. A couple who really walks their talk emphasizes getting back to the basics of fun and love so your partnership can grow and flourish.
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the magic of differences
This book is a great read for individuals or couples who want to explore the path of twists and turns in relationships. It is one of those books you want to read and re-read. Read more
Published on February 11, 2002
Finding Love And Romance
Be Loved For Who You Really Are shows how differences between lovers can be turned into a powerful source of lifelong love and romance. The Mrs. Read more
Published on January 13, 2002 by Bill Weiner
Another work of magic from Sniechowski and Sherven
Finally there is a roadmap for the journey love pulls (and sometimes pushes) us through. Filled with valuable exercises and experiences that build your relationship while... Read more
Published on January 13, 2002 by J. Kammer
Excellent presentation and refreshing vision
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Published on January 5, 2002 by J. Steven Svoboda
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Be Loved for Who You Really Are has not only changed the way I relate to my partner, but has given me great courage and insight into accepting myself. Read more
Published on January 4, 2002 by Bill Weiner
Excellent!
A "down-to-earth" approach to understanding the differences between men and women; differences that keep us from the intimacy we need and deserve. Read more
Published on January 4, 2002 by Larry James
A GREAT BOOK!
Differences are the main reason couples break up. But can these differences be turned into life long love and romance? Is that possible? Drs. Read more
Published on January 2, 2002 by Peter Van Name
SIMPLY THE BEST
Simply THE BEST BOOK on love and relationships available today. A beautifully written tour through the real-life challenges and pleasures of lasting love. Read more
Published on November 21, 2001 by Kelly A. Cline
If you REALLY want to be loved, READ THIS BOOK!
I have studied relationships and taught seminars on relationships for years. Judith & Jim's book is the one I use, not only in classes but in my own relationships. Read more
Published on November 7, 2001 by Nick R.
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