Lovers for Life: Creating Lasting Passion, Trust, and True Partnership [Paperback]

Daniel Ellenberg (Author), Judith Bell (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 1995

Monogamy is and always has been a challenge. Though our culture values long-term intimate relationships it has failed to provide the necessary tools for achieving such relationships. Taking the position that we are all beginners who lack the proper framework for creating a lasting passionate and loving union Daniel Ellenberg and Judith Bell have created a straightforward and accessible guide to successful coupling-and jubilant eroticism.

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gives us a solid foundation for building lasting intimate relationships. Filled with wisdom humor and real-life experience it is a provocative guide for successful partnerships.

Product Details

• Paperback: 320 pages
• Publisher: Aslan Publishing; First Edition edition (June 1995)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0944031617
• ISBN-13: 978-0944031612
• Product Dimensions: 10 x 7 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.4 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #197,919 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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15 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Having sex for fun, profit and spiritual enlightenment, March 30, 2000

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Jill Van Vliet - See all my reviews

This review is from: Lovers for Life: Creating Lasting Passion, Trust, and True Partnership (Paperback)

In a crowded, often cheesy category, this guide stands out for its clear-headed frankness and for making a monogamous relationship sound so darn sexy and worthwhile.

The authors approach sex as a part of life that is essential to human well-being, and attempt to guide readers to exploration and integration of sexual desires. It is their sincere wish to return the spirituality to bump & grind; for readers to see their sexuality as something so utterly natural, that to imagine a sex life without love and commitment is to imagine a meal of divine pasta without sauce.

There are chapters on healing and getting over blocks. These are written with great compassion, but without perpetuating a victim mentality. The techniques they suggest one take to awakening desire without shame are written logically and sympathetically. They make the recipe for that "divine pasta" seem effortlessly easy and fun.

This is a self-help book that does not belabor the reader with thoughts of, "That's all well and good, but it seems like too much work." This is one self-help book that has no need to urge you to put it down and get started. Believe me, you'll be eager to get busy!

8 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Shining a Light into the Darkness of the Psyche, January 10, 2001

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Daniel R. Greenfield "Dan" (Milwaukee, Wisconsin, United States) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Lovers for Life: Creating Lasting Passion, Trust, and True Partnership (Paperback)

If you are having a difficult time establishing a romantic relationship with someone because of past wounds and failures of one type or another, this book can surely help. It can help you heal those wounds, improve your self-image, and teach you the principles of self-love. There is a lot of uninhibited discussion in this book on sexuality and ridding oneself of guilt feelings assocated with pleasure and self-love. There is a lot of insight crammed into this book for the cover-price. What most impressed me was the honest depth of the discussion. This is not a book of fluff or jargon. It takes a hard look at the difficulties involved in maintaining a relationship. Should be read and reread.

5.0 out of 5 stars Expert Teachings For True Intimacy and Connection, June 12, 2009

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Gwendolyn Grace - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Lovers for Life: Creating Lasting Passion, Trust, and True Partnership (Paperback)

This book is an outstanding accomplishment. I applaud the research and many facets it brings to intimacy. The richly personal discussions and exercises have made it easy to achieve results quickly. The best part is my spouse is into reading it. We are connecting, being vulnerable and he is actually becoming the man on the outside that I knew he was on the inside. and that doesn't begin to describe what has changed in bed with him. Sacred sex is a revelation and something I always wanted. I can hardly believe we got this much help from a book. One result was he made love to me for three hours and I had an orgasm with our eyes open and locked on each other. I was flooded with emotion and cried from the sheer beauty of the connection that was present. It is really indescribable to be held so lovingly by a man, after thirty years of me being the "giver" in bed and focusing on his coming, I thought I was defective. Wow...Thank You's to Daniel and Judith for so clearly sharing what you found together on your journey of committed relationship. Because of the learnings from this book, my spouse is teaching me how to be in connection and often places his hand on my heart now and looks into my soul. I am starting to feel a new sense of trust with myself, sex and men.