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Loving an Adult Child of an Alcoholic Paperback – April 16, 2007
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Although the book is aimed at ACOA partners, I think it's full of wise advice for ANYONE who understands that relationships thrive and grow because of WORK.
One charming thing about it is that the Beys freely admit that they don't have all the answers, and have even been wrong in their evaluations and suggestions in the past. Although everyone knows no one is perfect, it's rare to see this sort of candor in a book of this type.
I am hoping to get my partner to read this as well, as I think there's a lot that we can discuss from it.
The only even slightly negative thing I would observe (and this is more a quibble than anything substantial) is that their writing style is a bit odd, with a strange avoidance of contractions and an aim at simplicity. It's almost as if it wasn't written by someone for whom English was their first language.
That said, it's still very clearly written. Overall; extremely highly recommended.
I feel the idea and intent are great, but it just doesn't accomplish what it's hoping to. It's poorly organized and written. They change topics mid paragraph with no warning whatsoever, leaving you confused and having to backtrack thinking you missed something. Points are also often needlessly repeated. For example, they created a chapter about something they had already thoroughly covered earlier in the book.
I also felt as if some of the stories were made up. Some of the things they claim people said to one another just do not sound realistic at all. I also don't buy into some of the claims they make in the Using Humor section. If an ACoA is in a fit of rage over something stemming from her father leaving her sitting at the bar drinking a Pepsi while he got drunk and her spouses response to her rage is basically to chill out and have a pepsi I'll be there in a minute, it is more than highly unlikely the ACoA is going to find humor in that. It would more realistically further enrage them.
I appreciate the authors time, effort and intent, but I just honestly don't feel as if this is the most helpful book available. Personally, they didn't cover anything that I hadn't already read in Adult Children of Alcoholics by Janet Woititz, and that was a much better read and well worth the money!
Most Recent Customer Reviews
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EXCELLENT!!!!!! This is is the best book I've read about adult children of alcoholic parent, childhood neglect, sick parent and any other type of childhood abuse. Read morePublished 14 months ago by TableTalk
This book helped me realize that I was causing more harm than good to my marriage. I LOVE my beautiful wife and want the world to know this. Read morePublished 16 months ago by Doug in Keller
If this book were bought by its target audience only, the authors would have gone broke by now. An ACoA who regognized on his own that his/her behaviour stems from his/her... Read morePublished 16 months ago by maksim kovalev
This book has helped me so much that I bought copies for stocking stuffers for my friends dealing with the same issues.Published 17 months ago by Laura Will
This has really helped me with my fiancee. It made it much easier to understand what she was going through and allowed us both to work through it. Read morePublished 17 months ago by Mike
This book answered many questions that have been concerning me. It was also written in language that is understandable and retainable. Read morePublished 18 months ago by Anthony M Bovi