The Loving Dominant [Mass Market Paperback]

John Warren (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 1998

Everything the amateur player needs to know about heterosexual, male-dominant love-making. Warrenaka Mentoris a longtime participant in the dominance/submission scene. As he guides readers through this rarely seen world, he offers clear-eyed advice that will refresh and enlighten the most well-informed erotic explorers. Most importantly, Mentor discusses the hidden basis of the D/S relationship: the care, trust and love between partners.

Editorial Reviews

Review

A very comprehensive, accessible and well-written introduction to the scene for the novice, or any curious layperson, whether dominant or submissive in nature, or a little of both. I recommend The Loving Dominant highly to anyone wanting some down-to-earth information, from the curious acolyte to the not-quite-jaded adept. -- Paramour

The most accessible introduction to SM I've seen -- William A. Henkin, The Spectator

Product Details

• Mass Market Paperback: 384 pages
• Publisher: Masquerade Books (January 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1563336006
• ISBN-13: 978-1563336003
• Product Dimensions: 6.8 x 4.2 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (43 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #3,006,543 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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186 of 195 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Are You A Loving Dominant?, June 24, 2000

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Todd Hawley (San Francisco CA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: The Loving Dominant (Paperback)

This is the question John Warren asks in Chapter 2 of this book and if you're a Dominant, it's a very good question to ask yourself. This book is an excellent introduction to the 'kinky world' some of us live in from time to time.

While there are numerous other excellent SM books on the market, John's book covers topics not normally covered in other "introductory SM books, like how to act at a play party, and taking memorable pictures of your own private scenes. Also included are sections on First Aid, "Stalking the Wild Submissive," (very important!) and ways to do scenes that are exciting both for the Dominant and the submissive.

I felt the chapter that John's wife, Libby wrote (A Submissive Writes About Submission) gives an excellent insight for Dominants into what (at least for her) submission means and what it's about.

This book's second edition is now available on Greenery Press and it's an excellent addition to any kinkster's library, whether they are Dom, sub, or switch.

Also recommended: SM101 by Jay Wiseman; Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by Philip Miller & Molly Devon

133 of 138 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The Guiding Mentor:, September 6, 2000

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Thomas Lemmen (millers, MD USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Loving Dominant (Paperback)

I have read many books on "how to" for D/s. No book combines the physical and mental/emotional aspects of D/s so well. And for D/s, the importance of emotions and feelings cannot be overstressed. The comprehensive treatise on safety deals with psychological safety as well as phsyical safety - something that, while desperately needed, has been overlooked in most other attempts at this very difficult subject. Yes, BDSM is a difficult undertaking as it requires not only deep knowledge but even deeper caring and ethics. Knowing that your Dominant is concerned and knowledgable in, and for safety, will create a bond of trust. A big step for a lasting relationship! The section written BY a submissive is a stroke of genius for the purposes of providing the submissive POV. Imagine! a book that tries to teach the Dominant what a submissive sees and feels. Understanding the submissive mind is a powerful tool for a Dominant that truly cares.

I would combine this book with Jay Wiseman's "S/M-101" as the foundation for a beginners' entry into Domination and submission. Seeing these two books on the shelf of a Domme will perk my interest in persuing a relationship. In closing: I would expect any "Loving Dominant" to have their submissive(s) read these two books.

Sincerely:

Tom

90 of 93 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars A beginner's guide to BDSM, June 26, 2001

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Deepforestowl "JJ" (Chicago, IL United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Loving Dominant (Paperback)

This is a great book for the beginner and the expert alike. Warren approaches the subject of BDSM with humor, seriousness, safety in mind, and perhaps most of all a love of the subject. The book has obviously been well researched and well written. It is a no non-sense work in which aspects of BDSM are covered. Whether it be games to play in the playroom like whipping or bondage to the intricate relationship between a dominant and their submissive. I had a great time reading this book and I learned a lot about the subject. I would highly recommend this book to anyone at all even remotely interested in BDSM. In fact I would have given this book 5 stars but for one reason, whoever was the proofreader missed so many obvious spelling and punctuation errors that it continually drove me to distraction. I would be avidly reading a section and then WHAM, a spelling mistake. The first few times I ignored it, after that it got really annoying. Grammatical errors aside, I would still recommend this book to anyone and in fact already have recommended it to several of my friends. My copy is currently on loan to a friend in Indiana (and I am not sure that I will ever get it back, he said he wanted to borrow it to a friend in Michigan). A great book to read on your own, with a playmate, or with a spouse. It will give you a lot of ideas and probably make your life just a little bit more kinky!