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The Loving Dominant

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This is the question John Warren asks in Chapter 2 of this book and if you're a Dominant, it's a very good question to ask yourself. This book is an excellent introduction to the 'kinky world' some of us live in from time to time.

While there are numerous other excellent SM books on the market, John's book covers topics not normally covered in other "introductory SM books, like how to act at a play party, and taking memorable pictures of your own private scenes. Also included are sections on First Aid, "Stalking the Wild Submissive," (very important!) and ways to do scenes that are exciting both for the Dominant and the submissive.

I felt the chapter that John's wife, Libby wrote (A Submissive Writes About Submission) gives an excellent insight for Dominants into what (at least for her) submission means and what it's about.

This book's second edition is now available on Greenery Press and it's an excellent addition to any kinkster's library, whether they are Dom, sub, or switch.

Also recommended: SM101 by Jay Wiseman; Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by Philip Miller & Molly Devon

I have read many books on "how to" for D/s. No book combines the physical and mental/emotional aspects of D/s so well. And for D/s, the importance of emotions and feelings cannot be overstressed. The comprehensive treatise on safety deals with psychological safety as well as phsyical safety - something that, while desperately needed, has been overlooked in most other attempts at this very difficult subject. Yes, BDSM is a difficult undertaking as it requires not only deep knowledge but even deeper caring and ethics. Knowing that your Dominant is concerned and knowledgable in, and for safety, will create a bond of trust. A big step for a lasting relationship! The section written BY a submissive is a stroke of genius for the purposes of providing the submissive POV. Imagine! a book that tries to teach the Dominant what a submissive sees and feels. Understanding the submissive mind is a powerful tool for a Dominant that truly cares.

I would combine this book with Jay Wiseman's "S/M-101" as the foundation for a beginners' entry into Domination and submission. Seeing these two books on the shelf of a Domme will perk my interest in persuing a relationship. In closing: I would expect any "Loving Dominant" to have their submissive(s) read these two books.

Sincerely:

Tom

This is a great book for the beginner and the expert alike. Warren approaches the subject of BDSM with humor, seriousness, safety in mind, and perhaps most of all a love of the subject. The book has obviously been well researched and well written. It is a no non-sense work in which aspects of BDSM are covered. Whether it be games to play in the playroom like whipping or bondage to the intricate relationship between a dominant and their submissive. I had a great time reading this book and I learned a lot about the subject. I would highly recommend this book to anyone at all even remotely interested in BDSM. In fact I would have given this book 5 stars but for one reason, whoever was the proofreader missed so many obvious spelling and punctuation errors that it continually drove me to distraction. I would be avidly reading a section and then WHAM, a spelling mistake. The first few times I ignored it, after that it got really annoying. Grammatical errors aside, I would still recommend this book to anyone and in fact already have recommended it to several of my friends. My copy is currently on loan to a friend in Indiana (and I am not sure that I will ever get it back, he said he wanted to borrow it to a friend in Michigan). A great book to read on your own, with a playmate, or with a spouse. It will give you a lot of ideas and probably make your life just a little bit more kinky!

This book is a wonderful introduction to those seeking to explore their dominant side. It is quite clear how John Warren earned his name of "Mentor". His love and caring for the women in his life shines off of every page in the book. The book serves not only as a wonderful technical book, it serves as a benchmark of what a good "Master" should be. In many ways I found that to be the best part of this book, it clearly shows that healthy loving relationships can exist in this scene. Because of his sensativity, I found this book to be a wonderful way to introduce women to the "scene". A wonderful read and a must have in any good library.

The Loving Dominant is not just for the novice and experienced dominant player. It is also for the submissives, masochists, and bottoms within the scene.

This book is a valuable resource for those of us into submission and masochism. It allows us to look at BDSM from the top perspective and learn more about what we enjoy having done to us. This book delves into it all from knots, safer techniques, first-aid, various forms of play, consent, to submission written from the submissive point of view.

Whether you are new or experienced, dominant or submissive, you will learn a ton from John Warren's superbly written book. And, if you are submissive and ever asked "How do I know if I am with an experienced dominant or with a safe player?" then look here. It can't answer it all, but it gives you a good look at how an experienced and safe dominant plays.

I love the book and will recommend to anyone interested in BDSM.

Mr. Warren is an extremely talented author and knowledgeable about his subject. This is one of the most informative and helpful books out there to date, an excellent source not only for the "old-timers" in the alternative lifestyle, but for those who are simply seeking knowledge and information in their quest to learn as well as to make informative decisions in their choices. He is a highly respected member of the lifestyle and most helpful to newcomers. "The Loving Dominant" is one of the definitive guidebooks. I highly recommend it, don't miss out!

I bought this book for my husband, a budding dominant. Thanks to John Warren, he is now a budding Loving Dominant. My husband had to fight me (a submissive) for reading time though, because I was continually amazed at how well Mr. Warren knew my own heart, someone he has never met! His expertise at illuminating the all-too-often 'dark' world of BDSM is refreshing - finally, a book that addresses the needs, wants, and desires of dominants while adeptly expressing the viewpoint of the submissive. I would recommend it to any dominant, regardless of experience. the insight into the submissive nature is amazing.

I have read this book twice and thoroughly enjoyed it. I recommend it for anyone interested in their Dominant or submissive tendencies. It can really help you sort out where you fit into the BDSM lifestyle and where it fits into your life. It has lots of ideas for play as well as how to bring up the subject with your significant other.

"The Loving Dominant" is the first of two titles I offer to persons who are curious about the world of Bondage, Dominance, Submission and Masochism. It was my own guidebook from the realm of my own imagination into the reality of a sexual subculture which is often sensationalized and vilified.

Mr. Warren's considerable experience, his observation over years in "the Scene," are invaluable. He leads the reader to the self-examination which is key to safety and pleasure, and includes a great deal of practical information often difficult for the novice to find. As I am myself submissive, I found the chapter by Mr. Warren's wife most helpful.

The writing style is fluid, the content is accurate, and the perspective is remarkably objective. Mr. Warren writes without pretension. Those who wish to explore alternative sexuality are fortunate indeed to have such a "Mentor" so readily to hand!

This book was read and practically worshipped by my significant other during the time that we were together. At the time, I never had the chance to read it myself, but even though much of the information that was contained in it would be assumed to be stuff she knew long before, she kept coming out with tidbits from that book that continued to inspire her.

Years later, I managed to come across the book myself and read it. There are some great things in there. I've been a regular writer and reader of much of the literature in this field for many years now, and I can say without a doubt that many of us hold this author in great esteem because of works like this one. The book has a lot to offer for everyone, including people who are just exploring the scene and those who have been part of the scene for most of their adult lives.