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Who is Tim Goldich, author of books on men’s issues? He is man who’s spent the last twenty years obsessively researching, pondering, and writing about gender issues. He has written four books on the subject. The first—Loving Men, Respecting Women: The Future of Gender Politics—is newly published and available on Amazon.com. He is the president of the Chicago chapter of the National Coalition For Men and an avid member of the ManKind Project, two organizations that variously support men politically and emotionally. He is also an educator and mentor to boys on their way to becoming men. Finally, Goldich facilitates the personal growth work of men on New Warrior Training Adventure weekends, and of men and women on personal growth weekends called Path To Spirit. Most importantly, however, he’s just an average guy. Unlike the men we typically hear from, the sort of men who have microphones placed before them, Tim Goldich is neither rich nor famous. What better credentials could there be for telling it like it is from the average guy’s perspective?
My fellow National Coalition for Men (NCFM) board member and founder of NCFM's Chicago chapter, technical writer Tim Goldich, has completed the first volume in a projected four-volume book on gender politics. (Full disclosure: I have advised the author on my thoughts about his book and provided some suggestions on recommended edits and marketing approaches.) This work--despite being the author's first published book--is a masterly, towering achievement, which can be compared to Rich Zubaty's similarly creative but somewhat more confrontational books and even to the best of Warren Farrell's work. (Dr. Farrell himself, in an impressive testament to the book's persuasive power, graciously provides a three-page preface introducing it.) It continues to astonish and refresh me how, having read perhaps 300 books on gender and masculinity over the past decade-and-a-half (and having reviewed about 175 of them), I can still read books that are such a delight to read and that have as much fresh, original thinking as Goldich displays in Loving Men, Respecting Women.
The author manages to provide many new insights while at the same time probably providing the most extensive annotated review I have ever encountered of previous works touching on gender politics from a pro-male or pro-egalitarian perspective. I admire Goldich's facility, a la Dr. Farrell, at encapsulating his insights into pithy phrases. A couple of the ones that characterize the entire book appear in the book's very first pages: "Throughout history, both sexes have respected men more than they've respected women. Throughout history, both sexes have loved women more than they've loved men.Read more ›
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Loving Men, Respecting Women is the intelligent, long-overdue balm for our troubled society. Incredibly well-researched, it debunks most of the emotionally-induced, fact-deficient myths currently plaguing our society, myths further perpetrated by our sound-bite media. Far from being a dry read, however, Tim Goldich mixes fantastic imagery with his research and adds his own experiences to reach the individual reader at a very personal level and keep the pages turning. The Conclusion alone is worth the price of the book; having spent the greater portion of the book correcting the blatant falsehoods and manipulative fact omissions too-often used to mislead, divide and conquer, Goldich calmly and sanely outlines a platform to help us as a whole find a better future for all. Loving Men, Respecting Women (or at the very least, its Conclusion) should be the first book bought and studied in all sociological and gender-based studies for those who truly seek understanding and the honest desire to bring about a real Utopian equality of the sexes.
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Mr. Goldich's book is more than thought provoking. It clearly points out not the perspective of just men or women--and the current problems of gender relations between them--but gives a point of view that eradicates personal victimization for either gender. This opens up the space for each person who reads this book to understand the bigger picture regarding gender relationships. It clearly solidifies the fact that it all balances out.
Personally, this book helped defragment what were once just floating fragments in my mind regarding the rules for gender relationships.
This book helped me establish that both sexes are equally responsible for the current situations that exist in the world today. It is incorrect to think that men alone created all the problems that exist in the world--it is just not true. It is a shared responsibility.
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Today, April 10th, I witnessed the unveiling of Tim Goldich's new book: Loving Men, Respecting Women, the Future of Gender Politics. This book, twenty years in research and writing, is a highly readable text on the strife of male-female relationships. Goldich posits that in the past, society in general, viewed the conflict between men and woman with the metaphor of a "see-saw." Someone was up and someone was down. Goldich suggest a metaphor shift to that of a "balance beam" in which men and woman are on it together. To the point, anywhere in the world, Goldich states, where woman are hurting, one does not have to look too far to see men suffering in pain as well.
For sake of disclosure, I am acquainted with and have met Tim Goldich on different occassions over the last half decade. I consider him to be a good writer and, in the old-fashioned sense, a talented "declaimer" of prose and poetry. I took the opportunity on a recent occasion to informally interview Tim with the question in the back of my mind, to wit, "How does Goldich's metaphor of the "balance beam" influence couples therapy?" As it turns out Goldich's idea could be hugely helpful. The underlying principle in this idea and the book is that men and women need to be encouraged to stop combat and find ways to communicate in more healthy ways for themselves and their children.
This book arrives on the market at a time when men's voices have grown louder about perceived mistreatment at the hands of the media at large. Many men are complaining about how media in general and many commercials specifically belittle men in story lines and advertising.Read more ›