Who is Tim Goldich, author of books on men’s issues? He is man who’s spent the last twenty years obsessively researching, pondering, and writing about gender issues. He has written four books on the subject. The first—Loving Men, Respecting Women: The Future of Gender Politics—is newly published and available on Amazon.com. He is the president of the Chicago chapter of the National Coalition For Men and an avid member of the ManKind Project, two organizations that variously support men politically and emotionally. He is also an educator and mentor to boys on their way to becoming men. Finally, Goldich facilitates the personal growth work of men on New Warrior Training Adventure weekends, and of men and women on personal growth weekends called Path To Spirit. Most importantly, however, he’s just an average guy. Unlike the men we typically hear from, the sort of men who have microphones placed before them, Tim Goldich is neither rich nor famous. What better credentials could there be for telling it like it is from the average guy’s perspective?
My fellow National Coalition for Men (NCFM) board member and founder of NCFM's Chicago chapter, technical writer Tim Goldich, has completed the first volume in a projected four-volume book on gender politics. (Full disclosure: I have advised the author on my thoughts about his book and provided some suggestions on recommended edits and marketing approaches.) This work--despite being the author's first published book--is a masterly, towering achievement, which can be compared to Rich Zubaty's similarly creative but somewhat more confrontational books and even to the best of Warren Farrell's work. (Dr. Farrell himself, in an impressive testament to the book's persuasive power, graciously provides a three-page preface introducing it.) It continues to astonish and refresh me how, having read perhaps 300 books on gender and masculinity over the past decade-and-a-half (and having reviewed about 175 of them), I can still read books that are such a delight to read and that have as much fresh, original thinking as Goldich displays in Loving Men, Respecting Women.
The author manages to provide many new insights while at the same time probably providing the most extensive annotated review I have ever encountered of previous works touching on gender politics from a pro-male or pro-egalitarian perspective. I admire Goldich's facility, a la Dr. Farrell, at encapsulating his insights into pithy phrases. A couple of the ones that characterize the entire book appear in the book's very first pages: "Throughout history, both sexes have respected men more than they've respected women. Throughout history, both sexes have loved women more than they've loved men.Read more ›
Loving Men, Respecting Women is the intelligent, long-overdue balm for our troubled society. Incredibly well-researched, it debunks most of the emotionally-induced, fact-deficient myths currently plaguing our society, myths further perpetrated by our sound-bite media. Far from being a dry read, however, Tim Goldich mixes fantastic imagery with his research and adds his own experiences to reach the individual reader at a very personal level and keep the pages turning. The Conclusion alone is worth the price of the book; having spent the greater portion of the book correcting the blatant falsehoods and manipulative fact omissions too-often used to mislead, divide and conquer, Goldich calmly and sanely outlines a platform to help us as a whole find a better future for all. Loving Men, Respecting Women (or at the very least, its Conclusion) should be the first book bought and studied in all sociological and gender-based studies for those who truly seek understanding and the honest desire to bring about a real Utopian equality of the sexes.
Mr. Goldich's book is more than thought provoking. It clearly points out not the perspective of just men or women--and the current problems of gender relations between them--but gives a point of view that eradicates personal victimization for either gender. This opens up the space for each person who reads this book to understand the bigger picture regarding gender relationships. It clearly solidifies the fact that it all balances out.
Personally, this book helped defragment what were once just floating fragments in my mind regarding the rules for gender relationships.
This book helped me establish that both sexes are equally responsible for the current situations that exist in the world today. It is incorrect to think that men alone created all the problems that exist in the world--it is just not true. It is a shared responsibility.
Tim Goldich book is highly recommended as obligatory in any first semester in gender studies. At the same time, whether this book is in the curriculum of gender studies can be used as a reference to know if the study treats the subject in a professional way or whether we are dealing with mere propaganda. For professionals working with gender or sex related issues `The future of gender politics' is a welcome and necessary addition. For everybody else this book will prove really helpful in creating one's own more balanced interpretation scheme about what actually is going on between and outside the sheets when it comes to sexual relations. Very accessible and well written and covering a wide range of subjects, including the more sensitive ones. I am already looking forward to read his next book on the topic