Loving Your Child Is Not Enough: Positive Discipline That Works [Paperback]

Nancy Samalin (Author), Martha Moraghan Jablow (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 1, 1998

In this now-classic, straightforward approach to childraising, Nancy Samalin shows parents how to set clear, concise guidelines to ensure positive and constructive discipline. Based on her extensive work with parents and children, she offers the most recent and invaluable advice on:

? Avoiding daily battles
? Using alternatives to punishment
? Dealing with anger
? Learning to let go
? Diminishing sibling rivalries and much, much more.

Filled with practical solutions to everyday problems and thoughtful, useful information on opening up communication between the generations, Loving Your Child Is Not Enough will help parents to truly enjoy their child?s growing years.

? Nancy Samalin is a contributing editor to Parents magazine with a regular column on discipline.
?Available on audiocassette from Penguin?HighBridge Audio

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Samalin founded the Parent Guidance Workshops in New York City 10 years ago. With Jablow ( Cara: Growing Up with a Retarded Child, she presents here persuasive and readily accessible counseling based on workshop sessions with clients. Mothers and fathers record dialogues between them and their small children and bring the transcripts to Samalin for analysis. Readers will laugh, perhaps nervously, at examples of familiar aggravations. In one case study, Chip starts an argument with his mother, demanding that she be the one to dress him. She loses patience; the battle escalates. Soon parent and tot are "discussing" on the same level: his. Parents are advised how to talk to their children in tense situations, minor and major. The central idea is that they can discipline their youngsters effectively by first training themselves to think before reacting negatively to misbehavior. 20,000 first printing; first serial to Parents magazine; author tour.
Copyright 1987 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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[Samalin's] discipline advice, shared with wit and compassion, is absolutely brilliant. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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Product Details

• Reading level: Ages 18 and up
  
• Paperback: 272 pages
• Publisher: Penguin (Non-Classics); Revised edition (April 1, 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0140270531
• ISBN-13: 978-0140270532
• Product Dimensions: 7.7 x 5 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (26 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #191,066 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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46 of 48 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars I Constantly Recomend This Book To My Clients, March 26, 2000

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This review is from: Loving Your Child Is Not Enough: Positive Discipline That Works (Paperback)

As a practicing Marriage and Family Psychotherapist and former elementary school principal, I must have read hundreds of books on how to discipline children effectively. However, the problem with many of them is that the emphasis is generally on how to get children to behave cooperatively, rather than on how to raise emotionally healthy, happy, responsible children who know how think for themselves.

Nancy's book is the best match I've seen for the methods that therapists believe are most effective in developing high self-esteem in kids. The author helps parents and teachers understand that, by treating children with dignity and respect and listening to their feelings,our kids will WANT to do the 'RIGHT THING'. Loving Your Child Is Not Enough is written in clear, easy-to-read chapters filled with examples we all can relate to.

I often recommend that busy moms and dads buy the cassette version and listen and talk about it, and I frequently use Nancy's explanations in describing good parenting to my clients - AND to their children! I also suggest that readers will want to read other books written by Sammalin.

11 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Thank you Nancy for the best book on parenting ever!, November 12, 2000

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Bea Marquette - See all my reviews

This review is from: Loving Your Child Is Not Enough: Positive Discipline That Works (Paperback)

A copy of Nancy Samalin's Loving Your Child is Not Enough should be handed to every new parent. In a perfect world, it would be required reading for all parents. Nancy shows us the way to stress free parenting where everyone's self esteem remains intact and results abound. I have learned to rethink my responses in situations that would previously have been governed by anger or frustation. Now I can react with humor and common sense. No more lectures or belittling. I use Nancy's methods in my classroom where I am surrounded by happy children who love school. I offer Nancy's books to parents who come to me with questions about parenting. I strongly recommend this book to everyone who is a parent searching for advice on how to raise children with love, compassion and wisdom. Thank you Nancy for the best book on parenting ever!

17 of 19 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This changed our family's lives; our children are happier., January 3, 1997

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This review is from: Loving Your Child Is Not Enough: Positive Discipline That Works (Paperback)

So many of us grow up with parental criticism. It colors the way we view ourselves and how we raise our own children. Of course, children need limits. But how to impose those limits is no easy task. Which helps to make parenting the hardest job everyone will ever do. When we read chapter 6 "Constructive Criticism Isn't -- Building Self Esteem" we realized what we'd been doing all these years. And how this was hurting our son, our daughter, and tearing the fabric of our entire family. We heard ourselves in the scripted examples that Ms. Samalin gave. She illustrated for us exactly what we were doing. It was as though there was a hidden camera and microphone hidden in our house and someone was playing it back for us. And we were both saddened by what we sounded like. We believed we were better parents than that. After reading this book, we finally are. We thank Nancy Samalin for writing this and helping us