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Not Worth Your Time or Money, May 7, 2010
This review is from: Make Every Man Want You: How to Be So Irresistible You'll Barely Keep from Dating Yourself! (Paperback)
I read book reviews on amazon before I purchase books, in order to ensure that I am getting books that have helped the most people. I figure there's strength in numbers, in a manner of speaking. That's half the reason I ordered this book by Maria Forleo -- good reviews. The other half of the reason was the title: Make Every Man Want You. Who could resist a title like that? It was too intriguing to pass up! I wanted to know what these so-called secrets were.
Sadly, this was indeed a case of GREAT marketing... way too great. The title completely oversold the book. What I expected to read was a helpful guide overviewing some of the pitfalls that trip up women and make them self-sabotage on dates. What I found instead was a useless pep talk written by someone who honestly comes across as a 20-year-old college cheerleader. "You're so fabulous!!" and "You are an amazing, irresistable woman!" scream up at you from every page until you want to shake the book and throw it against the wall. Honestly. I wanted to yell, "I know that! I have a graduate degree, I'm not a moron! Tell me something useful." I completely agree with the reviewer who said that Forleo doesn't present a single original idea in this entire book. It's basically a book of other people's thoughts cobbled together in the peppy cheerleader voice. Some highlights:
-- You're irresistable!
-- Live in the moment! That's all there is!
-- Embrace your is-ness (does this remind ANYONE else of You, Me and Dupree when Owen Wilson becomes famous for his series of books and lectures on "harnessing your inner 'ness'"??? No? Just me?)
-- Love is not eternal, so don't be surprised when your husband, boyfriend, lover falls out of love with you
-- Take care of yourself physically so guys will notice how irresistable you actually are! (really? I needed a book to tell me that?)
-- Don't quit your hobbies when you get a boyfriend (again... seriously?)
I found the middle two the most annoying. I spent 15 bucks to have someone tell me to embrace my inner is-ness?? I mean, maybe if it were Dale Carnegie and he were saying it in his winning, proven way. But peppy cheerleader? No thanks. The other one was about love being transitory. I just found this sad. Do you really want to read a book by someone who says that love doesn't last and that you should only stay together as long as it does? She's not talking about love, people. She's talking about lust. The whole NATURE of love is that its forever. I know I'll meet with some disagreement on this front, but I stand by it. I don't want to read a book about dating by someone who doesn't even believe in love.
All in all, this book is just a waste of your resources. I thought Have Him At Hello was much better. I was at Barnes and Noble one day and glanced at it, then quickly got sucked in when I saw the immense amount of time and research that went into writing it. The book is written by a Harvard MBA who interviewed a thousand men, often spending 30-45 minutes with just one guy! She talks about her findings from the guys' perspective on what makes them decline to ask you out for a second date :)
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93 of 101 people found the following review helpful:
1.0 out of 5 stars
Do not buy this book., November 21, 2009
This review is from: Make Every Man Want You: How to Be So Irresistible You'll Barely Keep from Dating Yourself! (Paperback)
I bought this book after a painful break up. Yes, I realize it's a gamble to buy a book based on reviews. One does desperate things now and then. I had to struggle to read the first few highly repetitive chapters and finally just couldn't take it any longer. I have never written a review of a book on Amazon prior to this, but this book compelled me to get on here and say: HALT! There must surely be better relationship advice books out there. I can sum up the entire gestalt in three sentences: Be good to yourself. Be pretty. Be here now.
That's it. No need for you folks to buy the book. Those three ideas are essentially IT. I realllllly don't appreciate an author who admits within the first few pages that she's lied to us all via her title to get us to buy her book! What would make me want to trust a bit of advice she has to offer after that? Hm?
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57 of 68 people found the following review helpful:
1.0 out of 5 stars
Worthless reading, April 17, 2009
This review is from: Make Every Man Want You: How to Be So Irresistible You'll Barely Keep from Dating Yourself! (Paperback)
I agree with another reviewer - I would give it zero stars if I could. I borrowed this from the library based on the reviews here. Instead of returning it to the library I would love to throw it in the trash and do a service to other women. The author is so naive and doesn't have a clue about women or men. She starts the book by stating she originally wrote this book in her early twenties, and rewrote it after years of "insight" when she was now in her late twenties. I should have stopped reading at that point. The entire book was about "living in the moment". Every single chapter. Duh. She seems to think that every women reading this book has been too needy or is looking for a man to save her. There is not one original thought in this entire book. This author thinks way too highly of herself and doesn't have enough experience or knowledge to be writing a book on relationships. Do not waste your time or money on this book.
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