How to Make Someone Love You Forever! In 90 Minutes or Less [Hardcover]

Nicholas Boothman (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 1, 2004

It's time to stop leaving love to chance. Time to stop being too shy to meet someone, wondering why a promising first date wound up going nowhere, or realizing too late that it happened with the wrong person anyway. Nicholas Boothman has a much better way.

Drawing on his expertise in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Boothman charts a three-step plan that will help anyone find the love of his or her life. Step one: get ready—come to know who you are through honest self-assessment, and then to know what type of person is your matched opposite—i.e., the person who completes you. Step two, the heart of the program, is working seriously on interpersonal skills—how to be charming, not alarming; flirt with confidence; synchronize body and voice to create trust and chemistry; keep enthusiasm high; even how to cast a wide social net and dress for a first meeting.

Step three is about accelerating the kind of intimacy that leads to love, by finding "Me too!" triggers and mastering the art of incidental touch. You'll learn to tap into key emotions through low-, medium-, and high-risk disclosures—and how to intensify the nonverbal signals that turn sparks into a flame. All the while you'll establish a solid romantic foundation to convert this magic 90 minutes into a lifetime of love and commitment.

Editorial Reviews

Book Description

Speed dating--hah! Nicholas Boothman will have you finding not just the possibility of love, but the love of your life--and will show you how to have that person fall in love with you a mere 90 minutes after you meet. Author of How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less, the Dale Carnegie for a rushed era (The New York Times) with 136,000 copies in print, Boothman is an expert on helping people connect. Now he focuses on romance--showing the reader first how to find and then how to connect with his or her Matched Opposite (i.e., the person who completes you).

Beginning with a series of revealing self-assessment tests, you discover who you are, and then discover who best suits your personality. (Analytical types should look for Matched Opposites who make them feel intelligent; Supporters need Matched Opposites who make them feel valued.) Then come the tools that make the quest work: how to get out there, with the Two Simple Rules of Socializing; how to make a fabulous first impression, with tips on everything from attitude to accessories; how to be charming, not alarming; introductions, opening lines, and the 1-2-3 mantra of never hesitating. There are techniques for starting and maintaining conversation and for finding Me Too triggers, plus the importance of flirting, incidental touching, rules of self-disclosure, and more. Real-life examples and detailed analyses of actual conversations show the method at work--and why the feedback Boothman receives from his clients often begins, "Please come to my wedding . . . ."

From the Back Cover

Who Says You Can't Hurry Love?

Nicholas Boothman, bestselling author and expert in helping people connect, shows you how to recognize and attract the person who's best matched for you, then to quickly create feelings of love and intimacy. At the core of this simple, valuable book are dozens of easily learned verbal and nonverbal communication techniques that instill a newfound confidence and ease.

Forget speed dating. Now true love is just 90 minutes away.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 288 pages
• Publisher: Workman Publishing Company (May 1, 2004)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 076112862X
• ISBN-13: 978-0761128625
• Product Dimensions: 7.4 x 5.4 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 15.5 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #879,074 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Nicholas Boothman, author of How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less, learned how to establish instant rapport with strangers while he was working as a fashion and advertising photographer. A licensed Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, he is a consultant to individuals, groups, and corporations that want to learn the communication skills needed to connect with others. He lives in Toronto, Canada, with Wendy, his wife of 35 years.

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61 of 83 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Some good tips that you'll want to try, December 6, 2004

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Maggie "of the Great White North" (Toronto, Canada) - See all my reviews

This review is from: How to Make Someone Love You Forever! In 90 Minutes or Less (Hardcover)

This is a quick read (less than two hours) but it has enough tips in it, that once you've finished it, you'll want to go back and reread parts of it again.

Don't be turned off by the title - this is not a guide to mind manipulation nor will you learn how to hypnotize people. It's a combination between a beginners guide to NLP (neurolinguistic programming), where it breaks down techniques into easy, manageable exercises and a common sense guide to dating, reminding you that if you never leave your house, you'll never meet anyone new.

A word of warning though, simply reading this book is not enough to change your life. If you're not willing to try some of Boothman's suggested techniques, nothing will change.

Target Audience: You want to be dating more, but you need a more confident and approachable vibe. This will give confidence in the dating scene, and you'll quickly see the more you practice these tips, the more confident you'll become.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Worth the money, January 15, 2010

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Anthony T. (Florida) - See all my reviews

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This review is from: How to Make Someone Love You Forever in 90 Minutes or Less (Hardcover)

This book is intriguing! I picked it up and couldn't put it down. The information is excellent for the advice it gives in getting to know someone new, breaking the ice (my problem), and how to continue to keep them interested (another problem). I haven't dated in years and had forgotten most of the advice and tricks that is talked about here. The first night I had the book, I managed to read MOST of it. Like I said... couldn't put it down. AND THEN the very next morning, I was approached by 2 different women at 2 different locations, both are very beautiful, a bit younger than me, and interested in getting together again. Now that was the confidence builder I needed. Now only a week later, I have more young women flirting with me than ever before. The attitude change is apparent to me and I believe the key to my success so far. I'm not so much worried about the timing of 90 minutes as the stated in the title, but I do think that the information is useful for achieving the end result. All the building blocks to help overcome shyness and getting back out there are in this book. This was a great buy!

33 of 48 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars It worked for me!!!, February 3, 2005

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lola905 (Bowmanville, Ont.) - See all my reviews

This review is from: How to Make Someone Love You Forever! In 90 Minutes or Less (Hardcover)

I was 39 years old when I read this book. I had never been married, and had been single for several years. By my 40th birthday I had met the man of my dreams and was sporting a beautiful 2 carat diamond engagement ring! I used the tools in this book to find my best friend, soul mate, partner. I have never been so happy and so in love. Thank-you Nick Boothman for your book which taught me that I was always choosing the wrong man and how to choose the right one!!!