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Make Up, Don't Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples [Kindle Edition]

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil , Harville Hendrix
3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (34 customer reviews)

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Book Description

Falling in love is easy; staying in love is hard. If you've ever yearned for a connection, wanted more intimacy in your relationship, or worried that you and your partner are falling out of love, internationally acclaimed therapist Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil is here to help.

In her new edition of Make Up, Don't Break Up, love expert Dr. Bonnie offers her cutting-edge yet heartfelt advice on how relationships work, and how yours can work better. She walks you through the many stages of a relationship's connections and disconnections so that you will be able to reconnect and solidify your relationship.

With new chapters on male intimacy and long-distance relationships, Make Up, Don't Break Up teaches you how to find the love you've been seeking and make the commitment last. Her groundbreaking communication skills will have men listening and talking rather than shutting down and walking away. It'll show you how to fix your relationship so you can make it, not break it.

Dr. Bonnie knows how to make a relationship last. Her valuable Smart Heart Skills have helped a phenomenal 98 percent of the couples she's worked with to stay together. And with this new edition and companion DVD, you will receive that same guidance and opportunity for lasting love.

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About the Author

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil is one of America's best-known relationship experts. She has appeared on the Today show, The Oprah Winfrey Show, The View, and Good Morning America. Dr. Bonnie's work has been featured in USA Today, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, and the New York Times.

Product Details

  • File Size: 673 KB
  • Print Length: 386 pages
  • Publisher: Adams Media; 2 edition (February 18, 2010)
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B004DNWBV6
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Lending: Enabled
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #60,262 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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37 of 37 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Don't miss this one! March 6, 2005
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I really liked this book, it seems to be lower on fluff, and higher on substance. This book will help you figure out your style and your personal needs in a relationship. She is also great at assessing your partner's needs and relationship style. This book gives sound advice, while lifting up your spirits.

Often the person that we have a great amount of internal conflict with is the exact person that can help heal wounds from childhood. Unfortunately, we come with different styles, and sometimes we need to adapt for the person that is having the harder time to commit.

She gives clear advice, and ideas on how you can best adapt to your partner without sacrificing your self respect, and dignity. Will this book work for me? It already has in helping me to reframe a past relationship, and hopefully in future ones, I can bypass some of those stumblings I have made in the past. I definate must if you think you should break up, or have broken up and want to get back together. Honestly, its just a great read to learn more about yourself.
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25 of 26 people found the following review helpful
If you think, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" is good, then this book is the ultimate. If you'll follow her techniques word for word, you will definitely get results. Every mother should give her daughter this book for sound advice on getting and keeping the love you want. It explains beautifully, how the anatomy of a relationship is like dancing the tango in the sense of connecting , disconnecting and reconnecting. The author employs very practical smart heart skills to apply to breathing life and love back into marriages that have lost their luster and courtships that are not moving in the direction of commitment. I promise that this book will be well worth it's investment many times over. Forget your therapist. This book is all you'll ever need.
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23 of 26 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A MUST read to understand the opposite sex. February 7, 2006
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Although I think this book would help many men too, I am writing this review for women. This book makes you understand why "The Rules" work. I highly recommend both, but if you read and follow this book you really don't need "The Rules". Basically it comes down to most men are "distancers" because they are afraid of commitment and women are "pursuers" because they want commitment and this book tells you when to call and when not to call and why men wait to and other things we endure in the dating process.

I don't think it helps to get someone back, but it's great for preventing break-ups. Great for single women or women in a new relationship.
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10 of 12 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent insights February 19, 2004
By A Customer
This book helped me understand dynamics of my present and past relationships. While the techniques seem a little amorphous, they do work! Useful for those without a mate or significant other, too. I recommend "How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together" by Susan Page, also. These two books compliment each other well.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Eye opener/helpful book April 2, 2012
By Karen
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I purchased this book in an effort to understand why I constantly pushed people away. I was dating a wonderful guy that was everything I ever wanted and just couldn't deal with getting "too serious". I was amazed to be reading about MYSELF on the pages. The descriptions of the "Distancer" and "Persuer" were SPOT on. With this book, I learned why I did the things I did and how to handle the situations differently (since clearly MY way wasn't working for me) Luckily, I patched things up with my boyfriend after coming to my senses after reading this book, and things are better than ever!! By the way, I purchased it on my kindle fire and liked it so much, I later purchased the actual book so I could share it with others!!
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars IMAGO IMAGO IMAGO August 15, 2012
A very old Italian song says "I am the mirroir you dont want to see" and I could not believe my ears when I heard it. So this concept of projection and Harville's "imago" has been around for a while? It is so wonderful to be able to see your own foibles in others and how wonderful life becomes. I also say that in THE MEMORY OF VINEGAR AND OIL: Origins Unified and also in "You Are Who You Hate: The Healing in Dissonance".
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4 of 5 people found the following review helpful
2.0 out of 5 stars Not So Helpful October 7, 2012
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Unfortunately, this book does not provide much immediate help for a couple in trouble or a deeper understanding of relationships. There seems to be a good underlying theory but the stories are not in enough detail to relate to and the practical advice is limited. I believe the author knows this subject deeply but her editors should have caught that someone without that background will be challenged to understand it from this book. On the bright side, start reading this and you may quickly prefer snuggling with your partner.
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5 of 7 people found the following review helpful
2.0 out of 5 stars Cryptic Book January 28, 2013
By Pankun
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Obviously all those promisses that this book will save your life/marriage/relationship are not to be taken seriously. I found this book to be very cryptic, the author uses a lot metaphors to explain the psychological behaviors of people and I am already confused enough about my relationship. While reading the metaphorical references you first need to make sense of that, then decrypt it and apply to your life, it just makes you go in loops and doesn't provide any proper simple and comforting advise. I think the author should have thought that the people who will need to read this book are likely to be in distress and the simpler the information is presented the easier it would be to receive it. Apart from that, I just didn't find the content to be very helpful either.

And the free DVD that comes with the book is totally ridiculous, I couldn't watch it and it went straight to garbage. I also only got through half of the book, like so many American books, it still tells you what's coming and what you are going to get when you are done with it. Somehow I have a feeling that by the time you finish reading it you will be looking at the back of the cover for that 'thing' that was going to come later in the book :)
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
3.0 out of 5 stars Three Stars
Not sure it s helpful.
Published 5 months ago by Donna Gilmer
1.0 out of 5 stars Could have been stuck with a jerk if I had followed this advice.
Didn't work for me, thank god.

Could have been stuck with a jerk if I had followed this advice.
Published 8 months ago by Kelli Wetherell
5.0 out of 5 stars Love definitely expands your world!
Dr. Eaker Weil's book is clearly written and full of love and wisdom. She makes a clear case for loving and learning how to be a better at relationships. Read more
Published 8 months ago by MR
4.0 out of 5 stars I think a book like this works best when both partners are emotionally...
I found this book to be extremely insightful. I did still break up with my boyfriend though.
I think a book like this works best when both partners are emotionally stable and... Read more
Published 8 months ago by Deirdre van Biljon
2.0 out of 5 stars All about how woman should work harder
I thought that this book would be more about couples turns out it is more about what a woman should be doing. Read more
Published 11 months ago by Rachel
4.0 out of 5 stars New perspective
Definitely changed the way I think about my reactions and my boyfriend's reactions. Helped a lot, even if I don't agree with 100% of the book.
Published 12 months ago by Claudia McElya
5.0 out of 5 stars By far the best REAL look at how relationships and breakups really...
I recently went through a very hard breakup. And i went to the library to find some books on how to deal with it. Read more
Published 12 months ago by Erin M. Gilbert
5.0 out of 5 stars Valuable and helpful
Anyone interested in understanding the dynamics involved in a lasting relationship can benefit from the information shared by this author, who is a therapist. Read more
Published 17 months ago by Jodi B.
5.0 out of 5 stars Best relationship book I have ever read!!!!
I really like the way she breaks it all down .The reader gets a sense of being in the room with the Dr. Read more
Published 17 months ago by Charles d Miller
5.0 out of 5 stars Use it or loose it !
If couples had a recipe for success & to fix problems, based on time-tested research--there would be a lot less heart ache and broken homes around! Read more
Published 18 months ago by SANJAY GOYAL
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