Make Up, Don't Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples [Paperback]

Bonnie Eaker Weil (Author), Harville Hendrix (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: September 2000

In Make Up, Don't Break Up, Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil reveals the real reason so many relationships fail, and shows how to side-step the traps and pitfalls that stop relationships (including marriages) before they start.

She also offers invaluable advice on how to "wake up" to how you really feel about your relationship, "shake up" one that has become stale or boring, and "break up" to test a relationship's staying power.

Her approach turns the conventional wisdom on finding and sustaining love upside down:
-- Men and women are more alike than different in their needs for love and intimacy
-- Women should make the first move most of the time
-- Communication isn't everything -- you can talk a relationship to death!

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About the Author

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil is one of America's best-known relationship experts. She has appeared on the Today show, The Oprah Winfrey Show, The View, and Good Morning America. Dr. Bonnie's work has been featured in USA Today, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, and the New York Times. --This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

Product Details

• Paperback: 448 pages
• Publisher: Adams Media (September 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1580624073
• ISBN-13: 978-1580624077
• Product Dimensions: 6.8 x 4 x 1.2 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.8 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (15 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #941,842 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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30 of 30 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Don't miss this one!, March 6, 2005

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Stephanie Manley (Houston, TX) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Make Up, Don't Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Paperback)

I really liked this book, it seems to be lower on fluff, and higher on substance. This book will help you figure out your style and your personal needs in a relationship. She is also great at assessing your partner's needs and relationship style. This book gives sound advice, while lifting up your spirits.
Often the person that we have a great amount of internal conflict with is the exact person that can help heal wounds from childhood. Unfortunately, we come with different styles, and sometimes we need to adapt for the person that is having the harder time to commit.
She gives clear advice, and ideas on how you can best adapt to your partner without sacrificing your self respect, and dignity. Will this book work for me? It already has in helping me to reframe a past relationship, and hopefully in future ones, I can bypass some of those stumblings I have made in the past. I definate must if you think you should break up, or have broken up and want to get back together. Honestly, its just a great read to learn more about yourself.

21 of 22 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This book is the best kept secret for troubled relationships, October 31, 2001

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Freda J. Hill (Norcross, GA United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Make Up, Don't Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Paperback)

If you think, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" is good, then this book is the ultimate. If you'll follow her techniques word for word, you will definitely get results. Every mother should give her daughter this book for sound advice on getting and keeping the love you want. It explains beautifully, how the anatomy of a relationship is like dancing the tango in the sense of connecting , disconnecting and reconnecting. The author employs very practical smart heart skills to apply to breathing life and love back into marriages that have lost their luster and courtships that are not moving in the direction of commitment. I promise that this book will be well worth it's investment many times over. Forget your therapist. This book is all you'll ever need.

19 of 20 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A MUST read to understand the opposite sex., February 7, 2006

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Although I think this book would help many men too, I am writing this review for women. This book makes you understand why "The Rules" work. I highly recommend both, but if you read and follow this book you really don't need "The Rules". Basically it comes down to most men are "distancers" because they are afraid of commitment and women are "pursuers" because they want commitment and this book tells you when to call and when not to call and why men wait to and other things we endure in the dating process.

I don't think it helps to get someone back, but it's great for preventing break-ups. Great for single women or women in a new relationship.